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RE: A Dom with only 20 years old? - 9/20/2009 8:11:59 PM   
monaslave


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Status: offline 		No I have no problem,so to speak,with the actual fact that he,or someone whatever chose to date someone 20 or so, not at all,thats not where it is. But i jumped when he said he cant FIND any older. I know those site he mentioned to me, and I have always seen a mix of ages there,also for men. He told me he had only been to that site. Not others. And he only met 20 year olds. That sounds strange to me,I did ask him why, but he just repeat himself and called all of them,also the elder and younger for fakes. That it was why he couldnt. I think thats strange, since I know its a mix. Then I ask how old his previous have been and theyve all been 20. Again,strange. He has not expressed any negative issues about my age,not any age in particular. But can you see why I react.
I have decided to "get to know" him, and find out more but I made it clear I want to get to KNOW him FIRST. And I have,and will be brutally honest with him. I like that we do have same interests and can talk very freely. He SEEMS like a good man,and I feel safe with him and can tell my honest thoughts from the gut. BUT I will not tolerate possible issues around this issue. Im open for whatever might come,nobody can say beforehand, but that doesnt prevent I want healthy relationship whatever it is.
I cant remember how long his relationships have been but I will find out.
But he says hes got lot of experience,well,its to find out,but then-only 20 years old-strange!
I agree you can see much about if a person have had long or just short-term relationships. But it depends on why of course.

Sunnyfey you make a funny point

Trophy, even as 20 myself I threw up on it and I still do to this day,personally. If its not real it can go fuck it self basically. Its the same thing as you see foreigners coming to our country selling themselves in a marriage. Thats my opinion,though, I respect the choice. But I dont have to LIKE it.


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RE: A Dom with only 20 years old? - 9/20/2009 8:14:58 PM   
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Sunnyfey you make a funny point



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RE: A Dom with only 20 years old? - 9/20/2009 9:51:36 PM   
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Would you concider a Dom that only have had 20 years old subs?
That NEVER have had elder? and if hes just as old to be their father?
Does it imply that he has trouble with women his age or to be mature?
That says he cant find a girl his age?


Well many might consider that a possibility, although many 20 years agressively lean towards men in their forties as they believe they have maturity and knowledge and more money, than the younger dominants do not. I will not say that they are looking for a father figure, but that may be in the back of some of the younger one's minds.
I feel that one needs to be judged on one's own merits. To be fair, if someone is interested in this elder gentleman, they need to check him out, free of any preconceived ideas or negeative unsubstanciated conclusions and then go from there.

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RE: A Dom with only 20 years old? - 9/20/2009 9:56:41 PM   
monaslave


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Status: offline 		It can only end in disaster or screw minds up if it is for the wrong reasons, in the end, if not especially want it for superficial reasons.
How fun is it to be taken for money, or for some percieved wisdom-that not nessesary is true? and opposite,youth and beauty alone?
Then Id rather be free,no matter age. Im in for real and trueness.

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RE: A Dom with only 20 years old? - 9/21/2009 1:50:11 AM   
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Status: offline 		Speaking as someone in the age range of the dom in question, I do have to point out that, at least in these parts, a significantly larger percentage of women in their 30s are married than in their early 20s. As OsideGirl's friend pointed out, quite a few of those in their 30s who aren't attached are more interested in being attached than in being with "the right" person.

It's interesting to hear people make the slightly denigrating claim that a man who chooses younger women might do so because those relationships are "easier". To that I can only say that the easy road is not always the better one, but neither is the harder road. Relationships can be hard enough without requiring that people always seek out the more difficult of two options like some sort of obligation to their "growth". Besides, anyone who says that dating 20 year olds is one the whole "easier" than dating women in their 30s has obviously not dated many 20 year-olds.

All of that being said, I have only dated three woman under 25 since I passed that mark myself. I just usually don't have enough in common culturally with anyone more than 10 years younger than me for my tastes.

The answer to your question has already been given though - talk to him about his feeligns on the matter.

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RE: A Dom with only 20 years old? - 9/21/2009 4:41:36 AM   
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I would have trouble with anyone who chose to say to me, "You're much older than my usual subs. I've never dated anyone older than 20 before".

One, I would wonder why he felt it necessary to tell me this.




I thought the exact same thing when I read the initial post.

Why the hell did he have to mention that he normally only has subs aged 20???

I once had a guy say 'I normally only consider partners much younger than you'. He may as well of said, and I believe this is what his words meant 'think yourself lucky' and it reminded me of a past relationship when my partner would say 'think yourself lucky to have me cos nobody else would want you'.
I carried on communicating with the guy for a while but time and time again those words came back to haunt me and it gradually dawned on me why he had said this.


You need to be asking him why he felt the need to tell you that he normally only takes on 20 year olds.

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RE: A Dom with only 20 years old? - 9/21/2009 9:11:21 AM   
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Status: offline 		It could just be a personal peference. Could be like people asking me why have you have always have Doms a bit older then you. It is just my preference i got a thing for older men. It does seem strange that he did mention the 20 olds, but he could be saying that my preference is usually for 20 year olds but i like you at your age. Maybe i am way of base, but i could be right.

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RE: A Dom with only 20 years old? - 9/21/2009 11:20:22 AM   
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RE: A Dom with only 20 years old? - 9/21/2009 11:33:12 AM   
monaslave


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Status: offline 		Ive already said it, when we talked he said he couldnt FIND any elder, that all others were fake, and it was the 20 years old he had met. I said to him thats strange, I know theres a mix especially on that site he mentioned to me,since I have been there myself,and I have seen alot of mixed ages for both men and women. He still said he couldnt find any elder. Then I asked how old all his previous been and then he said theyve all been 20. THEN I became suspicious.

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RE: A Dom with only 20 years old? - 9/21/2009 9:52:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		Heh. "The great thing about 18 year olds is... I keep getting older, they stay the same age."

Seriously, I always date young girls. I'm coming up on 35 now - within 1 year and 8 days, I will be able to legally (in any state of the Union) have sex with someone half my age.

I am looking perversely forward to this.


Here's the thing: maybe it means he likes 'em young; there's nothing wrong with that. Or, maybe it means young likes HIM. Some people just naturally attract certain types, and it's certainly plausible that the type he attracts are the 18-21 year olds looking for "daddy figures". Nothing wrong with that, either.


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RE: A Dom with only 20 years old? - 9/29/2009 3:58:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		every one is diffrent some are born to be submissive in the world some start late but it dosnt matter but younge is a good age pure sweet to train pretty as a slave should be as in gor but it dosnt matter like age play you can be any age. age is just a number

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RE: A Dom with only 20 years old? - 9/29/2009 4:01:49 PM   
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Status: offline 		some women are looking for a mature man to be thier dom that why they seek older as much as i have did my self the stabilty the mature is one thing but all women are diffirent but things have chaged if you look in to a lot of young women are with older and older women are with young men so if you wnat it get it its up to you

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RE: A Dom with only 20 years old? - 9/29/2009 4:09:24 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: monaslave

Would you concider a Dom that only have had 20 years old subs?

Yeah.
quote:


That NEVER have had elder? and if hes just as old to be their father?

If the only problem I've got with a potential partner is the age of his exes, that's pretty damn good.
quote:


Does it imply that he has trouble with women his age or to be mature?

It says he's only had young submissives which could be a number of reasons. It could be a red flag but I wouldn't consider it enough of one to worry about it on it's own.
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That says he cant find a girl his age?

Can't or doesn't want to and doesn't have to.

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RE: A Dom with only 20 years old? - 9/29/2009 4:58:43 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		It depends what mona wants in a relationship. If she just wants a short term fun and games, then he's the right guy.
I don't believe that every single woman on a site of an age to want a long term relationship is fake. I do believe they turned him down and that's why he says they are.

Most 20 year olds are not looking for a long term relationship. They are still exploring and looking to see what they do and don't want in the world. In other words, the odds are high that in the next few years they will discover things they need they preclude continuing in a relationship with this dude. So he's free to look for some newer young thing who won't want to settle down.

I don't think she's got much chance of anything long term or substantive here. But if she doesn't want anything long term or substantive, then go for it.

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RE: A Dom with only 20 years old? - 10/2/2009 6:47:37 AM   
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Master is 16 years older than i. to me i dont see an age difference, He doesnt either. W/we have been asked many times about this subject. All i can say is i dont see it even though i know its there. ive asked Him about it in detail of how it affects Him, He says He doesnt see it either. But that has always been the case for me. i have dated men older than i my entire life, it is the maturity factor, the intelligence that i adore.  So many want to quickly say its a money thing, but how would they know what O/our financial status is? Maybe i bring in more money than He does? i dont even care. To me its never about money. Sure money helps, but what i cannot get on my own i dont need. I asked Master do i seem less mature than woman who are older than me and more Your age, and He said no, not at all. i grew up watching westerns, old movies bogart and bacall .... Gone with the Wind is still my favorite movie of all time, and im (gulp) 38. i thought that maybe men my age had change over the last decade since i looked at them, so i thought why not. So while Master and i were broken up, i started chatting with a highly successful guy my age. (by successfull i mean in terms of what most people see it, money house car, stabilty etc)  He still had the same lame jokes and general no clue about the real world that He did 10 years ago and quite frankly He was annoying, so i thought ok try again, and still annoying. But when Master showed up on my doorstep to "reclaim me", i looked at His amazing face and was moved to tears, and i realized this man is who i want to serve for the rest of my life. i have never been so happy in my whole life than i am with Him. Not because He buys me stuff or does things for me, i kinda hate that part, because its not what im about, in fact id say it is harder for me to accept a gift from Him than it would be someone my own age, because of all that stereotyping .  Now granted when its a 10-22 year old girl (or guy) and someone ten twenty years older it is a bit different in most cases, just because of the level of difference in the maturity factor. But i can tell you this, i would have zero problems and be very happy for my daughter in the next 20 years (she is eleven) if she came home with a man that was 10-20 years older, because i know.

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