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ORIGINAL: fluffypet61

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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

Darn it.  I was enjoying the morse code exchange.  Then I thought that beating that out on someones backside would be an interesting take on it. 
What is this?
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And if they don't get it right, repeat it till they do.

"hit me harder"

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ORIGINAL: tammystarm

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Okay Tammy, if I understand you're having a problem talking something out, getting it across. Basic miscommunication stuff.

What we do is sleep on it. Once we've gone a couple of rounds and start digging ourselves deeper into a hole it's time to pack it in for the night. Seriously you get to a point where your brain hurts and you don't know exactly how to express it to yourself, let alone to him.

At that point I say I need to go to bed and would he please come in and hold me even if he's going to get up again later. We get naked and just hug, full body skin contact, for a while. In the morning, we are both much more relaxed because we reconnected. And some point that next morning after a couple of cups of caffeine I can begin to think again and I can begin to think it out to myself and then to him. And vice versa.

And then comes the "Oh, I thought you meant ...". Solutions to problems may not occur that fast, but getting back on the same page does. And that's the first step, feeling that you're on the same team instead of opposite ones.

EXACTLY. totally agrees.  but sometimes someone wants answers. For an example i could not relay what i was feeling at the club. ( for some damn ass reason. i couldnt say. i dont know why, i dont want to be here doing this at this moment. in fact right now im feeling rather panicked and hating this place and all who is in it. i dont want to be doing THIS in front of everyone right now! So please get me home.) So i did the best i could to keep it quiet, and relay the basic most important information, which was that im ok, and i love You.  But by now, cause He has never seen me shut up ;), He is confused, worried, etc etc, and i wont give any info other than that.  in fact i just kept repeating it everytime He asked me anything. (poor Master).  Two hour long drive, im exhausted, He is exhausted and W/we dont talk. i cant. i cant get the words to come out right. So it goes on......  Now W/we are able to talk, but it took a fight to get us there. When it should have only been the time factor. sucks.  Now im sure this will happen again and this time ill be able to say, refer to last time, and it wont be a problem.  But i hated that it even happened, and was in the beginnning wondering if anyone had any suggestions.

Thanks for that, it is perfect.