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No Whips, Chains. - 3/1/2006 6:32:29 AM   
MojoRisin


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How many people in this lifestyle arent into torture or pain at all? Im not, am I alone?

I just am interested in the power exchange...
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RE: No Whips, Chains. - 3/1/2006 6:37:40 AM   
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Status: offline 		Me. I'm not a masochist at all. Pain hurts. There is no pain/pleasure balance or mix for me, it either hurts or it doesn't.

That being said, I love chains and I love mental torture. But it's hard enough for most people in the scene to get the concept of submitting to pain without ever enjoying the pain, so I rarely get into the nuances of loving mental pain.

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RE: No Whips, Chains. - 3/1/2006 6:43:25 AM   
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Status: offline 		i'm not into being hurt either, it is completely about the power exchange. i'm a bit nervous about someone not seeing that.

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RE: No Whips, Chains. - 3/1/2006 6:51:38 AM   
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i'm not into being hurt either, it is completely about the power exchange. i'm a bit nervous about someone not seeing that.

Most people won't. The worst is when they try and convince you that it's just that you haven't tried it or had it done to you right yet. (Granted, for plenty of newbies, that can be the case, but when you've given them a brief history of your 7 years/several harsh sadists life, it's just condescending)

Best you can do is be honest and not play with someone who can't see beyond their own ego into your actual self.

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RE: No Whips, Chains. - 3/1/2006 6:56:35 AM   
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Status: offline 		That's basically what scares me, because I haven't done it, so i can't say for sure i wouldn't enjoy it. i don't think i would though, but i know i would go along with it if it was something they wanted.

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RE: No Whips, Chains. - 3/1/2006 7:07:09 AM   
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That's basically what scares me, because I haven't done it, so i can't say for sure i wouldn't enjoy it. i don't think i would though, but i know i would go along with it if it was something they wanted.

Just take it slow and be accountable for your reactions. If you don't like something, say so. My general rule for something new is to try it three times, starting out very slow and easy. By the third time, you should have an idea as to whether this is something you want to keep exploring with, or just leave it alone.

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RE: No Whips, Chains. - 3/1/2006 7:08:56 AM   
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That's basically what scares me, because I haven't done it, so i can't say for sure i wouldn't enjoy it. i don't think i would though, but i know i would go along with it if it was something they wanted.

You don't need to do it to be able to say for sure that you aren't into it. If it does not interest you then it does not interest you. Don't let other try to convince you otherwise. You may just regret it.

For me it's about the TPE much more then it's about the kinky sex games and torture. The kinky sex is only a side dish to be had every so often while the TPE is the crux of the relationship. What gets me is that the majority of women I met are just about the sex games. It's nice but I won't have a relationship based solely on kinky sex. It never lasts.

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RE: No Whips, Chains. - 3/1/2006 7:12:59 AM   
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Just take it slow and be accountable for your reactions. If you don't like something, say so. My general rule for something new is to try it three times, starting out very slow and easy. By the third time, you should have an idea as to whether this is something you want to keep exploring with, or just leave it alone.


Thanks :) i just read a scary thread about people not stopping when asked so now i'm all freaked out because it would be just my luck.

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RE: No Whips, Chains. - 3/1/2006 7:13:40 AM   
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Thanks :) i just read a scary thread about people not stopping when asked so now i'm all freaked out because it would be just my luck.

It's not about luck, it's about choice. Random people don't get to grab you- you have to choose who you play with.

So take it slow, and make sure you're making a good judgement.


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RE: No Whips, Chains. - 3/1/2006 7:17:08 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

It's not about luck, it's about choice. Random people don't get to grab you- you have to choose who you play with.

So take it slow, and make sure you're making a good judgement.



My judgement sucks, this is one of many reasons why i need a master :P

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RE: No Whips, Chains. - 3/1/2006 7:20:42 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MojoRisin


How many people in this lifestyle arent into torture or pain at all? Im not, am I alone?

I just am interested in the power exchange...



I am into TPE too ...& sometimes sensation play etc ...but Not pain cutting torture as defined by some.It is the mental aspect for me.

LthrdWolf

Ps/marathdamane ...WoW you look really good grrl!


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RE: No Whips, Chains. - 3/1/2006 7:21:47 AM   
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My judgement sucks, this is one of many reasons why i need a master :P

That's actually the biggest reason why you need to stay single- until you learn how to use good judgement and are confident with it.

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RE: No Whips, Chains. - 3/1/2006 7:23:26 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MojoRisin


How many people in this lifestyle arent into torture or pain at all? Im not, am I alone?

I just am interested in the power exchange...



Though pain is a major incentive with me, it's not #1 on the list of must haves. I perfer the whole exchange first and foremost.


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RE: No Whips, Chains. - 3/1/2006 7:25:36 AM   
marathdamane


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Status: offline 		You're probably right. i don't see it happening though. :P

By the way, i've read alot of your posts as i read back, always helpful, thanks :)

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RE: No Whips, Chains. - 3/1/2006 7:28:18 AM   
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Though pain is a major incentive with me, it's not #1 on the list of must haves. I perfer the whole exchange first and foremost.



Hey Irish ...There you are! *G* ...Hope all's well with you.

LthrdWolf

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RE: No Whips, Chains. - 3/1/2006 7:31:18 AM   
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Work is kicking me in the ass big time right now. Totally sucks

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RE: No Whips, Chains. - 3/1/2006 7:31:56 AM   
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You're probably right. i don't see it happening though. :P

By the way, i've read alot of your posts as i read back, always helpful, thanks :)


Hey, at least you're honest, right? LOL

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RE: No Whips, Chains. - 3/1/2006 7:34:05 AM   
marathdamane


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Hey, at least you're honest, right? LOL


i only wish i had fewer faults to be honest about :P

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RE: No Whips, Chains. - 3/1/2006 7:39:39 AM   
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My judgement sucks, this is one of many reasons why I need a master :P marathdamane

Well, if as you say your judgement Sucks, what are you going to do if you hook up with a lousy master because you cant judge well?

LA has given great advice. You should take note of it.
also:Go slow- stop thinking you need a master right now.
pay attention to details
ask questions then ask them again and again
Listen to what your gut feeling is telling you

As for the OP- Pain in session is not pain at all to me- it is a huge high. The endorphin rush I couldn't even begin to explain. Never been tortured although the day after very long intense abrasion play I felt like I had been LOL would I do it all again? Oh Hell yes

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RE: No Whips, Chains. - 3/1/2006 7:44:30 AM   
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Hey, at least you're honest, right? LOL


i only wish i had fewer faults to be honest about :P

LOL Don't we all. :P right back atcha. LOL


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