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What do i do? - 9/22/2009 9:25:20 AM   
choccywoc


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Status: offline 		   I've been seeing the same mistress for about a year and our first few meetings were out-of-this-world. She has the equipment and the experience and a large house to go with this lifestyle. The sessions would always loads of foot-worship, of which i can't get enough & frantic punishment, i would try to count the strokes but could never keep up. I was quite happy to be her servant & domestic. Yet of late the sessions have become boring, to say the least. Her enthusiasm is gone, whenever i meet her she is dressed in her normal clothes, everything is a chore she reluctantly punishes me, seldom does anything like we used to do. Yet her demands for gifts are outrageous running into tens of thousands of £/$. The thing is, is it time to move on? My major problem is that i live in a Mistress Wilderness. 
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RE: What do i do? - 9/22/2009 9:28:59 AM   
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Status: offline 		sit down and talk to her...........not everyone can be up all the time. She might have a convergence of low biorhythms, or doesn't really need any ready cash at the moment.

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RE: What do i do? - 9/22/2009 9:39:33 AM   
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Her enthusiasm is gone, whenever i meet her she is dressed in her normal clothes, everything is a chore she reluctantly punishes me, seldom does anything like we used to do. Yet her demands for gifts are outrageous running into tens of thousands of £/$. The thing is, is it time to move on?


hell yes!! She is giving nothing to the relationship...not even the effort to fake it, and is still demanding outrageous gifts?

Honey...you are being used. If you do in fact live is a Mistress Wilderness, bank that cash and plan to move to a less rural area. Or at the very least...explore all options in your area, munches, etc. I would not give her another cent.


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RE: What do i do? - 9/22/2009 11:31:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		Tens of thousands?!?!?!

I am SOOOOOO in the wrong profession.

OP, move to Iowa........for tens of thousands I will dress up and beat your silly ass!


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RE: What do i do? - 9/22/2009 12:04:19 PM   
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ORIGINAL: choccywoc

   I've been seeing the same mistress for about a year and our first few meetings were out-of-this-world. She has the equipment and the experience and a large house to go with this lifestyle. The sessions would always loads of foot-worship, of which i can't get enough & frantic punishment, i would try to count the strokes but could never keep up. I was quite happy to be her servant & domestic. Yet of late the sessions have become boring, to say the least. Her enthusiasm is gone, whenever i meet her she is dressed in her normal clothes, everything is a chore she reluctantly punishes me, seldom does anything like we used to do. Yet her demands for gifts are outrageous running into tens of thousands of £/$. The thing is, is it time to move on? My major problem is that i live in a Mistress Wilderness. 


Giver her up and come and see me. I will sort you out


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RE: What do i do? - 9/22/2009 12:19:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		You've been hooked. She no longer has to do much because you already give without getting. Whatever the reasons are for her taking less of an interest, you are unfulfilled whether or not you are being realistic or not. You are paying for a service you are not really receiving. What do you think you should do?

Basically, if you are so needy for the attentions of a dominant of any flavor that you will spend a great deal of money for the chance of some sort of play... go ahead and make her day. If you feel you are being ripped off... go ahead and make your day.

Don't scammer's all feed on the need or desperation of other's? Hook them, bring that fish on in and feast.

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RE: What do i do? - 9/22/2009 1:53:11 PM   
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You are paying for a service you are not really receiving. What do you think you should do?


Ditto. Call it gifts, call it tribute, whatever... if you are opening your wallet for her, then you are a customer, and it sounds like she's forgotten what you're shopping for.

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RE: What do i do? - 9/22/2009 2:34:06 PM   
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Status: offline 		She is taking a customer for granted. As long as you are ok being nothing more then a customer for services rendered I would suggest threatening to walk away if she does not put more effort and better acting into her job. If you want something more then a business transaction it is time to look elsewhere and to learn not to get emotionally involved with a pro.

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RE: What do i do? - 9/22/2009 3:39:31 PM   
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Tens of thousands?!?!?!

I am SOOOOOO in the wrong profession.

OP, move to Iowa........for tens of thousands I will dress up and beat your silly ass!



For tens of thousands, so would I. 

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RE: What do i do? - 9/22/2009 7:33:45 PM   
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Status: offline 		LOL. That was cute 

I can't honestly imagine he's giving her gifts that run him in the tens of thousands unless he's either filthy rich or she's asking for stuff he already own (like his car?). She might still be demanding these things, though whether or not she's getting them is another story.

But for tens of thousands, I can't think of anyone who wouldn't be willing to rough him up!

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RE: What do i do? - 9/22/2009 8:28:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		Talk to the person you're in a relationship with about what you feel and need, and decide whether you should stay or leave.
The mentioning of money is gratuitous, and in my view, extraneous to the problem...    Unless you have a professional relationship with her, in which case, simply find another professional who can deliver as you wish.     M

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RE: What do i do? - 9/23/2009 5:24:10 AM   
choccywoc


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Status: offline 		   Thanks for the humour and the well intended advice. I'm sorry i mentioned the financial side of things, as i'm not really looking merely to have my "silly ass beaten" or to be given a "roughing up". As you say i can get that anywhere. An exceptional mistress is difficult to find.

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RE: What do i do? - 9/23/2009 6:09:28 AM   
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An exceptional mistress is difficult to find.
As is an exceptional submissive, meaning one that practices his right to be selective, and holds himself to the higher regard of not being used.

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RE: What do i do? - 9/23/2009 6:31:19 AM   
choccywoc


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Status: offline 		When i say exceptional, perhaps i mean exceptional in line with my high expectations.

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RE: What do i do? - 9/23/2009 7:22:03 AM   
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ORIGINAL: choccywoc

When i say exceptional, perhaps i mean exceptional in line with my high expectations.


And if you are going to see a pro Mistress then you should have high expectations.
It sounds to me as though her mind is in another place and at this stage you have to stop gifting her and move on.
I can appreciate its very difficult to cut the tie, especially if she was the one who originally fulfilled all of your expectations but don't fall into that 'happy memories' trap.

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RE: What do i do? - 9/23/2009 7:27:59 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Politesub53

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Tens of thousands?!?!?!

I am SOOOOOO in the wrong profession.

OP, move to Iowa........for tens of thousands I will dress up and beat your silly ass!



For tens of thousands, so would I. 


ditto, i could use the money


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RE: What do i do? - 9/23/2009 8:48:47 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		Oui..........and I still haven't gotten my boots yet either!!

You would think there would be one generous soul...........feeling sorry for a woman wearing duct taped riding boots.......but nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo.


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RE: What do i do? - 9/23/2009 9:32:51 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Oui..........and I still haven't gotten my boots yet either!!

You would think there would be one generous soul...........feeling sorry for a woman wearing duct taped riding boots.......but nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo.



Come to think of it, I wouldn't mind a pair of these http://www.dressagedeluxe.co.uk/Shop.asp?viewmode=ViewProduct&productid=255 on my wish list.


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RE: What do i do? - 9/23/2009 9:42:38 AM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		Veddy nice indeed.

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RE: What do i do? - 9/23/2009 10:27:52 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Oui..........and I still haven't gotten my boots yet either!!

You would think there would be one generous soul...........feeling sorry for a woman wearing duct taped riding boots.......but nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo.

LaT...you did a damn good job with that duct tape...those puppies should hold together for another year or so.

Now......who do i give my boot size to?


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