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ORIGINAL: VeeTee

Not sure if I should post this under Ask a Master...but you all are always so helpful!

the Master is distant and distracted. sub asks if everything is ok between them. He says yes. He explains a personal situation that has him distracted and He's dealing with it. This is a very new relationship. He knows that the sub has an especially weak spot when it comes to communication. After establishing a pattern of regular communication with her, He has now created distance between them through abandoning said regular communication. A sentence here or there. Superficial topics. This is why she asked him if he was ok - obviously things were different.

Ok, to my question: sub feels like she should be patient and support him through his personal, distracting situation. On the other hand, sub feels like he knows he is hurting and confusing her through his lack of communication. She is thinking the worst. She feels like she is being a) punished for something, b) simply ignored and not thought about and/or c) on the verge of being released. SO...it seems especially in the early days of a D/s relationship, it is the Dom's responsibility to nurture and take care of his sub as she has been responsive, genuine and obedient to him. Should he be letting her twist in the wind this way? Is it Ok that he knows she must feel sad and confused? How many times should she ask him if everything is OK?

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ORIGINAL: VeeTee

If he is so distracted by his situation, should he be taking on the responsibility of a new sub in the first place? ....hmmm, that is probably where the being release concern comes in...

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ORIGINAL: bluefireeyez

Zevar,

Wow, I certainly hope that the entire post you just wrote was sarcasm, though the length and the rudeness makes me think it was not. Your assessment of me is a little off and it was inappropriate to address it on a different person's post. I tried to PM you but it says your profile isn't active.

That said, you do not know me. I was simply telling her that I understood and what my Master did. If you don't tell someone how you feel they're not going to know. However one contacting the other person excessively about it -especially when they are dealing with their own things makes it harder for them to want to address the issues.

You have much to learn about "feelings", personality, and behavior in general. I consulted my Master in a way so when He had the time He could address the issue. Previously we had talked at least once a day or I woke up to an email from Him that He sent before He went to bed. I didn't know it was going to happen and as such was worried. He addressed it in His way. A sub or slave wanting to talk to their Master on a daily basis is not unreasonable, especially when it was established beforehand that she would. Oh and just because someone is sarcastic blah blah blah in one situation or at one point in time does not mean it transfers to every thing/one.

Lastly, I don't need my Master to defend me. If you have an issue with me either keep it to yourself or pm me. I'm sure if this "little girl" can't handle it her Master will step in and address it.  


To the OP: I apologize about this post. I just needed to address what had been said.

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Zevar doesn't understand how the site works, bluefire. It was obvious to the rest of us that this was a fast reply to the op. All he saw was the tag which said it was a reply to you and his ego did the rest.

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Zevar doesn't understand how the site works, bluefire. It was obvious to the rest of us that this was a fast reply to the op. All he saw was the tag which said it was a reply to you and his ego did the rest. Personally I thought your suggestion was good, something light that says she's thinking of him and no need to reply.

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Please, no one tell me that this message was offensive and personal as well.

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ORIGINAL: WyldHrt

My inclination was to suggest that he might benefit from a bran muffin....

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ORIGINAL: SoccerDom

Zevar,

I rarely read these boards and even more rarely comment on them.  It's not because they don't serve a valuable purpose; they certainly do, and many people receive valuable advice here.  Mostly, it's because of people like you.  The issue is that my time is valuable and I really don't want to waste it in taking the time to reply to your boorish posts.  This invariably happens, though, whenever I read the messages here.  You are a dime a dozen.  At least, that expression details how common opinions and intellects like yours are around here.  The saying falls short, though, in expressing your value.  A dozen of you is not even worth a dime.  Don't misunderstand me.  I really have nothing but the lowest form of respect for you.  Anyone who would post a blatantly offensive message to another person who was trying to offer caring advice to someone else is not worth much.  What do you think it says for your character?  Remember, I said my time is valuable.  So, the time I've taken to respond to you here is more than than 1/12 of a dime that you aren't worth.  Yes, I am clearly willing to invest more into defending a good person (bluefireeyez) and making sure that your ridiculous diatribes don't go unrecognized.  I also realize that I have mentioned the value of my time previously in this paragraph, and that I've even done it again here, but I can only assume that substantial repetition will be necessary for someone of your capacity to gain an understanding (even though this is a very basic concept).

As a final note, your opinions are clearly ignorant and rude.  However, your writing is even worse.  I would gauge that you must have no more than a fifth grade education.  Seriously, learn to express yourself in a mature and articulate way.  If my implication wasn't clear enough, let me restate that you are an idiot, and what's with all the quotation marks?

Please, no one tell me that this message was offensive and personal as well. I am perfectly aware of that. It was designed to be.


SD

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Wow, guess I really got worked up for that. I very strongly believe that we simply don't need people like him in bdsm and in this world.


< Message edited by SoccerDom -- 9/23/2009 10:36:31 PM >

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ORIGINAL: Zevar

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ORIGINAL: SoccerDom

Zevar,

I rarely read these boards and even more rarely comment on them.  It's not because they don't serve a valuable purpose; they certainly do, and many people receive valuable advice here.  Mostly, it's because of people like you.  The issue is that my time is valuable and I really don't want to waste it in taking the time to reply to your boorish posts.  This invariably happens, though, whenever I read the messages here.  You are a dime a dozen.  At least, that expression details how common opinions and intellects like yours are around here.  The saying falls short, though, in expressing your value.  A dozen of you is not even worth a dime.  Don't misunderstand me.  I really have nothing but the lowest form of respect for you.  Anyone who would post a blatantly offensive message to another person who was trying to offer caring advice to someone else is not worth much.  What do you think it says for your character?  Remember, I said my time is valuable.  So, the time I've taken to respond to you here is more than than 1/12 of a dime that you aren't worth.  Yes, I am clearly willing to invest more into defending a good person (bluefireeyez) and making sure that your ridiculous diatribes don't go unrecognized.  I also realize that I have mentioned the value of my time previously in this paragraph, and that I've even done it again here, but I can only assume that substantial repetition will be necessary for someone of your capacity to gain an understanding (even though this is a very basic concept).

As a final note, your opinions are clearly ignorant and rude.  However, your writing is even worse.  I would gauge that you must have no more than a fifth grade education.  Seriously, learn to express yourself in a mature and articulate way.  If my implication wasn't clear enough, let me restate that you are an idiot, and what's with all the quotation marks?

Please, no one tell me that this message was offensive and personal as well. I am perfectly aware of that. It was designed to be.


SD

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Wow, guess I really got worked up for that. I very strongly believe that we simply don't need people like him in bdsm and in this world.


< Message edited by SoccerDom -- 9/23/2009 10:36:31 PM >

Hopefully you are done publicly defaming, insulting and being personally offensive toward another CM member, myself, as you did in your postings quoted herein above. Further note you admitted to designing your message to be offensive and personal.

NOTE: Do not send me any further Cmail. It is not welcome. Nor are your public defamatory and insulting comments. Your malicous abusive behavoir is not acceptable.

Enough is enough!

I wish you well,
~Zevar~

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ORIGINAL: puella

Wouldn't the best thing be to not let this devolve into 'Cock Wars XXII' ...?