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ORIGINAL: bluefireeyez

Everyone has their own views and limits on this one. To most people Master is my boyfriend, but to a few close friends they know he is my Dominant half but noone knows everything.

What you are comfortable with is your choice. Is he posting on a forum like this (as I see you have a personal picture up here) or is it a vanilla forum? That would have a huge impact on how I viewed it. People do need to talk about things, especially when they are not able to otherwise.

However, he is your Dominant and he most likely feels that if he isn't breaking out the identifying personal information then that is fine. If you talked about this and it doesn't change the way he or you feel, then it is time to reevaluate the situation.

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

look, just like out here they are gonna think he is a fake, a wanna be, a wanker, a nigerian scammer, close your eyes and breathe, men talk about how they fuck women just like you girls have sex with each other when you go to the bathroom together, ain't no thang, chile.

Ron

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ORIGINAL: Elisabella
Do guys do this on a regular basis? Exaggerate their girlfriend/wife's strong points to make other guys jealous?

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ORIGINAL: Elisabella

So my fiance (he's the dominant one) posts to this other website, and a lot of times he talks about our relationship. He doesn't use our names or photos, one time he did put my first name up but when he showed it to me I asked him to edit it because that's too personal for the internet to know about and he did, no problem. So there's no worry that anything could identify me.

But at the same time, I don't like my private actions made public like that. It happened in the bedroom, that's where it should stay, at least to me. However I don't feel comfortable asking him to stop talking about us, because I talk about us all the time, and I talk on facebook and livejournal and stuff about our relationship.

But, on the other (other) hand, when I do post about stuff on livejournal, I make a point not to post anything that he might consider personal or embarrassing. Sometimes I'll make short friends-only posts when I'm utterly overwhelmed with something, but for the most part I figure if it's something he doesn't talk openly about, it's something I won't talk openly about.

And another problem I have with his posts on that website is that a lot of times I don't agree with everything he's said. Like he'll post something he thinks about D/s relationships and when he shows it to me, I'll debate it with him and make it clear I don't agree, but then his post is still on the website untouched and people assume it speaks for both of us. I've been tempted soooo many times to reply to his post and argue with it...but he's my fiance. I'm not going to argue with him in public like that.

I'm guessing he doesn't talk about this side of our relationship with anyone we know...but I just feel so weird about having private things I've done posted there for everyone to read. Especially if he tries to analyze my behavior and gets it totally wrong, and people assume there's this girl out there who does something for xyz reason when really she did it for a totally different reason and then guys are going to use it to justify acting a certain way or whatever.

Where's the line drawn between internet and IRL? I know there's no identifying information but still...it's personal to me. And another difference between us is that he's actively proud of being dominant, and could talk about it to vanilla friends, but for me submitting is something really private and I'd be utterly ashamed if what we did was known. I have no problem admitting the kink stuff (well most of it at least) but other things, things that are totally socially unacceptable, are between me, him, and our maker.

Any advice or insights? Do you think there's some sort of compromise, or is this (no names or pics) the compromise itself?