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VioletGray -> RE: Misrepresentation By Crossdressers Concerning Their Gender And Sexuality (9/24/2009 5:52:38 PM)
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First let me say, that your post is ridiculously long, and the only reason I read it at all is because the subject of gender fascinates me, even from a perspective as misguided as yours. Consequently this response is also going to be a bit long, so if anyone else is reading this, please feel free to heat up some popcorn, go into the living room, and watch reruns of Firefly. The Original Poster I hope will indulge me, considering she would expect us to read her Stephen King sized novel on what her idea of gender is. I'm just going to respond on a paragraph by paragraph basis, ok? Here we go:
Paragraph 1: O.k., I'm listening.
Paragraph 2: Monosexual? Really? This word is completely unnecessary. Even if the person looks like Hulk Hogan in a teddy, if they tell you they are "Lesbian" then you know they like women. You get the point. What if the person identifies as female, but has not yet been able to transition? Female brained doesn't matter?
Paragraph 3: I agree that no one should intentionally try to mislead people who read their profile. That having been said, it is that person's right to identify as the gender they see fit. There are people who lose their families, jobs, and all their possessions to exercise this right. IMHO, I think that if a woman or woman in transition was born male that is her business, but that it is good to let the reader of said profile know ahead of time. Those who list their gender is "Female" but mention that they are transgendered are not being misleading. If they don't mention that that are transgendered then they are being very inconsiderate to anyone they meet in the future.
Paragraph 4: I agree that just because someone says they are transgendered does not mean that they are. Though if we want to be reaally nitpicky, you don't even fit the definition of transgendered that you just offered. How can you identify as the opposite sex, when, from a genetic standpoint, you are both sexes?
Paragraph 5 (beginning at 'pre op'): O.k., I would agree with this so far..
Paragraph 6: There are some who would disagree that Post-Ops are not women. But before we can reach an understanding on that, we'd first have to agree on what it means to be a man or woman. Is it body or mind? Being bisexual it may not matter to you, but imagine if a hetero woman took a guy home to find out that he had a vagina. How much difference will it make when he says "But baby, I'm still genetically male."
Paragraph 7: I would disagree with your definition of the word "transition." I think that defining it as a person who is "Preparing for SRS" is an extreme oversimplification. I know people who have transitioned completely that have not had SRS. They've had hormones, facial surgery, their names legally changed, grown breasts, work, live, and hang out with their friends as a woman. One person I know even has a huge group of friends that don't even know she was born male. Now if my friend Justin, the mixed martial arts tough-guy suddenly decided to get a vagina tomorrow, with no other changes, at what point was he, "transitioning?"
.....And while we're on this paragraph, you had me worried at the words, "Political Agenda." I try my best to be objective, and not to come off as harsh or rude, but if you think that people are doing this for political reasons then perhaps the straps on your tin-foil hat need to be loosened a bit. I'm sorry, that is not constructive I know, but a ludicrous idea deserves a ludicrous response.
Actually you know what? I'm going to stop going paragraph by paragraph, I'd be all night. I'll just list bullet points.
- Having a 4.0 gpa in college and a psychology minor does not make you right.
- There's irony in the fact that so much of this offends you "As a woman" when the mainstream would not consider you to be a woman either.
- If you were a lesbian and found the profile of a "Transsexual Lesbian" disgusting, that is because you are closed-minded. Don't get me wrong, you have a right to be attracted to who you want, But "Disgusting" smells of bigotry.
- A HUGE point that you fail to understand is that crossdressing is not about being dishonest to others, it's about self-expression. Most crossdressers would choose the acceptance of society first and foremost. Who is the crossdresser lying to, when they lock themselves in the bedroom and dress up when no one else is around? If I wear a Baltimore Ravens Jersey when I walk down the street, am I lying to those around me? Or am I just expressing my interests?
In closing, I think that your bitterness clouds your reason. I think your rhetoric is vaguely KKK-like, and that the only people who would agree with you would hate you too, because you are different.
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