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Journals - 9/25/2009 9:28:48 AM   
Acer49


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Status: offline 		It has been a long accepted practice for a dominant to ask a submissive to keep a journal to that they could keep a pulse on what thoughts the submissive that a submissive may have a hard time veralizing. My slave asked me why do not dominants so the same for their submissives? It is a valid point. Dominants, do you feel a submissive should be allowed this same request and if so, would you do the same for them? And to the submissives, would you wish to ask this of your dominants in an effort to help them? and would you make use of this option?

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RE: Journals - 9/25/2009 9:44:17 AM   
looking4princess


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And to the submissives, would you wish to require this of your dominants and would you make use of this option?


Eww. My Domme would not take well to my requiring anything!! LOL!

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RE: Journals - 9/25/2009 9:47:57 AM   
Aileen1968


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ORIGINAL: Acer49

It has been a long accepted practice for a dominant to require a submissive to keep a journal to that they could keep a pulse on what thoughts the submissive was having.

It is? News to me. He keeps a pulse on my thoughts simply by talking to me.
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And to the submissives, would you wish to require this of your dominants and would you make use of this option?


I'm on a need to know basis. He tells me what he wants and thinks that I need to know.

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RE: Journals - 9/25/2009 9:51:53 AM   
windchymes


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Status: offline 		Yeah, I think if I started "requiring" things of my dominant, I'd find myself punched dead in the you-know-where. lol

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RE: Journals - 9/25/2009 9:53:01 AM   
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Status: offline 		 i could see where that could come in handy. however i cant see where it would be a benefit to me or Master for Him to do so.



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RE: Journals - 9/25/2009 9:54:09 AM   
VirginPotty


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Eww. My Domme would not take well to my requiring anything!! LOL!


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I'm on a need to know basis. He tells me what he wants and thinks that I need to know.


Add to the above my own little addendum, the rules that apply to the subs do not necessarily apply to the dom. If that were the case then you might consider switching.

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RE: Journals - 9/25/2009 9:54:31 AM   
whiteslavebitch


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Status: offline 		MasterK does not require a journal of me. We communicate mostly verbally unless it is something very difficult for me to say aloud, then I will write him an email so I can clearly get accross what I need to say.

That is a rare occurrence.

I could not even imagine requiring anything of him.

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RE: Journals - 9/25/2009 10:00:33 AM   
peppermint


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Status: offline 		I have never been asked to write in a journal.  We spend almost all our waking hours together and in that time we do a heck of a lot of talking and communicating.  A journal could not possibly take the place of all that personal interaction.  

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RE: Journals - 9/25/2009 10:10:25 AM   
Acer49


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ORIGINAL: looking4princess

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And to the submissives, would you wish to require this of your dominants and would you make use of this option?


Eww. My Domme would not take well to my requiring anything!! LOL!



Not required, let us say you asked it of her? would you?

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RE: Journals - 9/25/2009 10:13:54 AM   
Acer49


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ORIGINAL: windchymes

Yeah, I think if I started "requiring" things of my dominant, I'd find myself punched dead in the you-know-where. lol


Let us say you just repectfully asked asked

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RE: Journals - 9/25/2009 10:16:15 AM   
Acer49


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ORIGINAL: tammystarm

 i could see where that could come in handy. however i cant see where it would be a benefit to me or Master for Him to do so.




Some people have a problem with communication at times and the use of the journal helps. /you and yours may have no such problem and that is truly wonderful. but some are not as fortunite

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RE: Journals - 9/25/2009 10:18:11 AM   
worthlesstrash


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Status: offline 		The only journal I am supposed to keep is my food one. I do however think him keeping an actual journal would come in quite handy. Maybe there are things he thinks about that he isn't sure how I will react if he tells me and such. I find that I do much better getting my feelings out sometimes when I write, perhaps he is the same way.

I know there are times I would love to know what he is thinking about, so him writing it down would sure be nice. I don't see that happening, but it's a nice thought.


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RE: Journals - 9/25/2009 10:19:08 AM   
Acer49


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ORIGINAL: whiteslavebitch

MasterK does not require a journal of me. We communicate mostly verbally unless it is something very difficult for me to say aloud, then I will write him an email so I can clearly get accross what I need to say.

That is a rare occurrence.

I could not even imagine requiring anything of him.


Well let us remove the word required and let us say you asked him to email you if he had a problem that the written word was the best mode of communication

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RE: Journals - 9/25/2009 10:29:46 AM   
bliss4us09


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Status: offline 		Nothing wrong with asking, but the nature of the relationship would demand that the sub accept either a yes or a no in response.

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RE: Journals - 9/25/2009 10:48:00 AM   
allthatjaz


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Status: offline 		Journals are something very precious (depending on the relationship) because if you lose your partner/Dominant/husband then you will have something that will feel like a very part of him to keep forever.
I keep journals for my children and I often write them for my partner, as he does for me but then I have been through the sudden loss of a partner and I know how those journals with his hand writing helped me deal with hard times. Its been over 20 years now and the writing has faded and the scent of him has long gone but they are still a reminder of someone very special. They are all I have left of him and all I can say is thank goodness I have them.



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RE: Journals - 9/25/2009 11:37:55 AM   
BoundDragon


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ORIGINAL: Acer49
It has been a long accepted practice for a dominant to ask a submissive to keep a journal to that they could keep a pulse on what thoughts the submissive that a submissive may have a hard time veralizing.


Shhhh.... don't let my Sir know that.

I have never ever managed to keep a diary. I'd fail miserably at keeping a journal

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RE: Journals - 9/25/2009 11:39:35 AM   
windchymes


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ORIGINAL: Acer49


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ORIGINAL: windchymes

Yeah, I think if I started "requiring" things of my dominant, I'd find myself punched dead in the you-know-where. lol


Let us say you just repectfully asked asked


Never never 

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RE: Journals - 9/25/2009 12:52:48 PM   
porcelaine


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ORIGINAL: Acer49

My slave asked me why do not dominants so the same for their submissives? It is a valid point. Dominants, do you feel a submissive should be allowed this same request and if so, would you do the same for them? And to the submissives, would you wish to ask this of your dominants in an effort to help them? and would you make use of this option?


i enjoy writing and keep a personal account of my slavery, eating habits, and specific areas of study related to servitude and self-betterment. none of this is required. i do so of my own volition to foster mindfulness and accountability in my words and deeds. if my owner wishes for me to do the same for him i would without complaint.

i can see the validity of having a shared dialogue as you've stated and have mentioned it in the past. i do not view his willingness to do such as quid pro quo, or an entitlement i should receive. in my opinion the journal provides another means of communication, that when done collectively can aide in crafting the mindset he desires me to envelop. while i don't feel it is commonly done by both parties, it is more probable if the dominant has an affinity for writing and some measure of proficiency as well. otherwise it runs the risk of becoming a tedious chore he no longer enjoys.

porcelaine


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RE: Journals - 9/25/2009 1:02:59 PM   
Cuffkinks


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ORIGINAL: Acer49

It has been a long accepted practice for a dominant to ask a submissive to keep a journal to that they could keep a pulse on what thoughts the submissive that a submissive may have a hard time veralizing. My slave asked me why do not dominants so the same for their submissives? It is a valid point. Dominants, do you feel a submissive should be allowed this same request and if so, would you do the same for them? And to the submissives, would you wish to ask this of your dominants in an effort to help them? and would you make use of this option?



My little girl writes me a journal entry daily. The only exception to that is if we're spending the night together. We've been together for over
3 1/2 years and I still receive a daily journal entry, with the one exception mentioned. The reasons why I have her do this for me (And there are a few reasons) don't need to be discussed here. I want this from her so it is to be. We have a totally open line of honest communication. She tells me everything. Verbally as well as in print. Her thoughts belong to me just as the rest of her does. Quite often her journal entry is the subject of a very interesting conversation.
Do I think a sub should be allowed the same request? No. I don't. I really can't explain any better than that without going into the reasons I still have her doing her journal after 3 1/2 years. I will go as far as to say I enjoy them because I get to see where her mind will go when she's alone with her thoughts. And you know what? I just enjoy reading them. Sometimes I'll go back and re-read old entries just because I enjoy doing so and it puts a smile on my face. Now I ask...Does a sub need any more reason than that to do something for her owner? I think not.

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RE: Journals - 9/25/2009 1:44:21 PM   
looking4princess


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And to the submissives, would you wish to require this of your dominants and would you make use of this option?

quote:

Eww. My Domme would not take well to my requiring anything!! LOL!




Not required, let us say you asked it of her? would you?


i send Her an email daily since we are in a distant relationship. If She chooses to write back or not it is Her decision. i keep those most precious to me. But i do not read them again. Only rarely. It is enough to know they are there as keepsakes. Disney was only partially correct... it is a Small digital World.. *smiles*

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