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RE: Building love - 9/29/2009 7:18:40 PM

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RE: Building love - 9/29/2009 8:31:18 PM

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I have found that within the relationship context I believe you are talking about, love built over time, almost in spite of the initial "omg" factor in one case. I don't think I've ever worried about whether or not something would develop, it either does or not. I don't think about it. Rather just let things develop organically.

I guess I start out that way, but after several months to a year, I start to wonder if it's going anywhere, and if they tell me outright that they don't reciprocate my feelings, even if they do feel affection and caring, it still seems like a form of rejection.

Jeff, I have lots of friends who love me, care about me, and are affectionate toward me, that doesn't mean I want to be in a romantic/sexual/kinky relationship with them! I guess the way I feel toward a partner has a lot of elements besides chemistry/sexuality/attraction that are very different from how I feel about my friends. It's hard to articulate exactly what those differences are, though.

LadyPact, I understand exactly what you mean!

lovingpet, exactly - I don't want to fall for someone who has no intention of catching me!

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RE: Building love - 9/30/2009 4:59:59 AM

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Now,some might say that what I felt for my late husband was 'love'...however,I would disagree.
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Then what would you call it???

What would I call it? A deep and abiding respect and trust for him.

But I would not call it love. I don't believe in the concept of 'love' in regards to how nearly everyone else uses it.

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RE: Building love - 9/30/2009 6:21:58 AM

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I think a great deal of what I call chemical attraction is based on smell. But I'm an aromatherapist, I would think that.

While I'm not disagreeing, I offer the following. I met my lady in a CM chatroom and was attracted to her from the start. We chatted for three months before we first met in person, each of us becoming more attracted to the other. Unless CM and yahoo have some secret aroma attachment, I just don't see how our smells could have had anything to do with our attraction.

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RE: Building love - 9/30/2009 6:34:44 AM

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The four loves of my life have been love at first sight.
My two daughters, my extremely soon to be ex and now SummerWind/Shorebound.
They are all/will be lifelong relationships.

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RE: Building love - 9/30/2009 6:37:43 AM

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Scent has always been a huge thing for me.......if I don't dig the way they smell, I don't want them near me. If I don't want them near me, I sure as hell won't get the warm fuzzies about them. While I do know what you mean by being captivated by their words, but if I meet them and their scent is off.......the fascination gets totally lost.

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RE: Building love - 9/30/2009 6:41:17 AM

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Scent has always been a huge thing for me.......if I don't dig the way they smell, I don't want them near me. If I don't want them near me, I sure as hell won't get the warm fuzzies about them. While I do know what you mean by being captivated by their words, but if I meet them and their scent is off.......the fascination gets totally lost.

Scent is huge. We sniff each other like dogs and are always amazed at how compatible our smells are.

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RE: Building love - 9/30/2009 6:47:15 AM

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I think for me, that is a point of deeper connection. Everyone in my life that matters to me, I can close my eyes and think of their scent. Even people that have been gone for decades.

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RE: Building love - 9/30/2009 6:56:37 AM

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Sometimes i think that i can not feel 'it' anymore... that maybe i should go and make a new life... a life without Him... and then i start to feel panicy... the without him bit is just totally unfathomable and that's the 'it' bit and i can feel it again
I visited him here in England 4 weeks after we had met and when he took me back to the airport everything inside me was screaming to stay and i knew i loved Him, it has grown and changed since

in between farts He smells good too

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RE: Building love - 9/30/2009 7:03:16 AM

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In the tradition of the ancient Christian mystics, you can fall in love with Love itself - a state akin to enlightenment. When that happens the object of love - someone, something, the world, the universe - is less important than the act of loving. When Love seizes you like this it is instantaneous.

(Caveat: the come down can be painful.)

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RE: Building love - 9/30/2009 7:09:22 AM

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The four loves of my life have been love at first sight.
My two daughters, my extremely soon to be ex and now SummerWind/Shorebound.
They are all/will be lifelong relationships.

Nicely put

When I gave birth to my first child it was love at first site. I didn't believe that I could ever love another being as much as I loved this little human but then my second child was born and again it was instant love. What has always fascinated me is that I love my children in different ways and yet that love is equally strong.
That kind of love is a mixture of so many things and if I relate it to the love I have for Steve I would have to say that there are many familiarities.

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