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mespecialone -> only a sexual demand (9/30/2009 6:12:44 AM)

Goodday all of You!

I do have a question for You that's quite important for my girlfriend and me to be answered. She is very willing to explore her dominant side, however, She only wishes to decide upon things sexually, what I do to her, whether I climax or not, etcetera. I was wondering if any of You have tips that are not related to pain or full humiliation, what rules can she apply that she will like?

nike



dreamerdreaming -> RE: only a sexual demand (9/30/2009 6:44:07 AM)

"She only wishes to decide upon things sexually...."


Try obedience.


She's a bedroom top. If you want more, need more- then maybe you're a mismatch.



mespecialone -> RE: only a sexual demand (9/30/2009 7:10:54 AM)

I want to see how we get along there, thus, to help her find her way, that's what I am asking? Would be very curious to any advice You all may have?



Venatrix -> RE: only a sexual demand (9/30/2009 7:13:10 AM)

Your profile indicates that you are looking for someone to train you, yet your post indicates that you have a girlfriend.  My advice would be to make sure you let your girlfriend know that you are also seeking out others for d/s interaction, and also post in your profile that you have a girlfriend.  Sneaking around is never a good idea.  Unless, of course, your original post was really just a solicitation for wank material.



mespecialone -> RE: only a sexual demand (9/30/2009 7:15:46 AM)

I still have to alter that as it has only been a week and just got online since then, she knows I am asking questions here?



Venatrix -> RE: only a sexual demand (9/30/2009 7:19:07 AM)

I think it would be best if she came to the thread and posted what, exactly, she feels she needs to find out more about.  You asked us to give suggestions for things we think she would like.  How can we do that when we know nothing about her? 



mespecialone -> RE: only a sexual demand (9/30/2009 7:24:59 AM)

What I can tell, I do this for her, is that she is not interested in anything related to what she refers to as painful, humiliating situations. She wishes to control / deny my orgasms, and me to obey her by serving her sexually with just one snap of her finger. However, she wants to explore the control over sex more, by not only telling me to make her climax or to tell me not to climax for a week, but a tad more than that.



Venatrix -> RE: only a sexual demand (9/30/2009 7:38:58 AM)

So, what you're saying is that we are supposed to give up our time to help her out, all the while guessing what it is she might be interested in because she can't even be bothered to come here to introduce herself and tell us a bit more about what she wants ?  You've got to be joking.





mespecialone -> RE: only a sexual demand (9/30/2009 7:44:10 AM)

This is exactly what she wants, she only wonders whether certain toys can be used for this, or certain rules, as all we both find on the internet automatically meets the heavier forms of bdsm?



Venatrix -> RE: only a sexual demand (9/30/2009 7:55:44 AM)

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ORIGINAL: mespecialone

This is exactly what she wants, she only wonders whether certain toys can be used for this, or certain rules, as all we both find on the internet automatically meets the heavier forms of bdsm?


Please ask her to post here with SPECIFIC questions.  What certain toys?  What "this"?  What certain rules?  Or, seriously, are you just looking for kinky scenarios that you can masturbate to?



mespecialone -> RE: only a sexual demand (9/30/2009 7:56:47 AM)

She wants to know what toys she could apply in the bedroom, what rules she could set, and no, this is really on her behalf!



LadyPact -> RE: only a sexual demand (9/30/2009 9:22:13 AM)

I think what she's saying is that we'd like to hear from her so we can assist her better.



Venatrix -> RE: only a sexual demand (9/30/2009 9:46:04 AM)

Okay, you're obviously not going to make this easy on us.  Please see the link below for books at Amazon.  Some of the books listed are fiction, so she will have to sort out which ones are not.  After she has read some of them, she should then come back and ask us specific questions, and most of us will be happy to help.  Asking us to give her ideas without knowing anything about her and without any effort being made on her part is simply asking too much.  But the books will only get her so far.  A lot of her journey as a femdom is simply going to be trial and error, and there's nothing anyone can do to help her around that.

http://www.amazon.com/gp/search/ref=sr_nr_n_0?rh=k%3Afemdom%2Ci%3Astripbooks%2Cn%3A%211000%2Cn%3A10&bbn=1000&keywords=femdom&ie=UTF8&qid=1254328727&rnid=1000



sandra25 -> RE: only a sexual demand (9/30/2009 10:50:10 AM)

interesting!



Lockit -> RE: only a sexual demand (9/30/2009 12:02:20 PM)

When someone takes the time to post in their profile, who they are seeking and not explain anything about themselves and make sure certain info is there, I consider that info most important to them. So in my view, going by your profile, you have yet to change as you said you plan to do, I go by what is there.

You are seeking other people.

Now you come and ask questions on behalf of a girlfriend.

I am sure you can understand, with what has been said on this thread and taking a look at your profile, how we would come to the conclusions we have or the questions we might have.



subtlebutterfly -> RE: only a sexual demand (9/30/2009 1:56:33 PM)

Any rules?
...
Computer says no.[8|]



Politesub53 -> RE: only a sexual demand (9/30/2009 3:48:14 PM)

They should rename this place "Ask a cynic"...... Whats a guy got to do for some inspiration around here...... < Smiles innocently >



gentlemanprince -> RE: only a sexual demand (9/30/2009 6:46:31 PM)

Where would you possibly find a cynic on the message boards? lol



Venatrix -> RE: only a sexual demand (9/30/2009 6:56:31 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Politesub53

They should rename this place "Ask a cynic"...... Whats a guy got to do for some inspiration around here...... < Smiles innocently >


Surely you meant "Ask a Cygnet," because we femdoms are all beautiful young swans.



Politesub53 -> RE: only a sexual demand (10/1/2009 12:54:21 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Venatrix

quote:

ORIGINAL: Politesub53

They should rename this place "Ask a cynic"...... Whats a guy got to do for some inspiration around here...... < Smiles innocently >


Surely you meant "Ask a Cygnet," because we femdoms are all beautiful young swans.


Thats true Ma`am, but if only you would all stop tucking your boots inside your jeans. [8D]



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