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why is it so hard to find female play slaves? - 10/2/2009 1:13:54 AM

russiancherry

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they either turn out to be flakes after a few messages or just never respond on here...
what's up with that?

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RE: why is it so hard to find female play slaves? - 10/2/2009 4:21:18 AM

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They aren't interested in what you're offering.

You're profile doesn't offer anything to a female sub, it is solely veered towards your male clients. I can't even tell from it if you're asking for women to pay you. It shows nothing of who you are, so why would they take a chance on you?

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RE: why is it so hard to find female play slaves? - 10/2/2009 4:27:29 AM

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Ummmmm your profile states that you are looking for female subs.....but you use CBT as a part of the sessions.....how does that work??????

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RE: why is it so hard to find female play slaves? - 10/2/2009 5:33:30 AM

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For some reason i'm getting lots of sub girls looking at my profile,
even though i'm not actively searching for them.

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RE: why is it so hard to find female play slaves? - 10/2/2009 7:06:34 AM

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If it is happening regularly, there is one common denominator.... YOU! Others don't have that problem so it isn't the site, perhaps You need to look at Your communication skills.... because certainly, from looking at Your profile, if You think that is going to be of any interest to anyone other than the submales who use pro-tops, You have a LOT of room for improvement!

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RE: why is it so hard to find female play slaves? - 10/2/2009 7:58:27 AM

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quote:

why is it so hard to find female play slaves?

It isn't.

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RE: why is it so hard to find female play slaves? - 10/2/2009 11:58:05 AM

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quote:

what's up with that?

Your profile looks like that of a wannabe - bad picture, only a single picture that could have been copied off the net, irrelevant information in fetish list, teenagery use of HTML, e-friends that mean you spend a lot of time on the internet, rather than working... They probably don't take you seriously. That's what's up with that, my dear.

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RE: why is it so hard to find female play slaves? - 10/2/2009 12:00:41 PM

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Ummmmm your profile states that you are looking for female subs.....but you use CBT as a part of the sessions.....how does that work??????

surgery? XD

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RE: why is it so hard to find female play slaves? - 10/2/2009 12:26:03 PM

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If you are serious...which I don't think that you are...at finding out why you can't seem to get female slaves interested then you need to seriously re-write your profile. That being said I personally think that you put the post on here so you could have a bunch of people look at your profile and maybe get some new clients that way. In sales it is a numbers game and if you had enough people look at your profile with a phone number on it, I'm sure that you received some phone calls already.

If I am wrong then I do apologize.

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RE: why is it so hard to find female play slaves? - 10/2/2009 1:13:19 PM

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ORIGINAL: russiancherry

they either turn out to be flakes after a few messages or just never respond on here...
what's up with that?

Have you tried attending play parties?

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RE: why is it so hard to find female play slaves? - 10/2/2009 8:12:43 PM

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ORIGINAL: russiancherry

they either turn out to be flakes after a few messages or just never respond on here...
what's up with that?

Personally, I agree that your profile isn't one that would catch my eye, were I looking. As a female submissive who prefers a lesbian domme, your profile doesn't say anything to me that would interest me as a woman in either getting to know you or looking for a play experience.

Of course, others may find it more appealing...

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RE: why is it so hard to find female play slaves? - 10/2/2009 9:23:58 PM

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big number one specific reason I as a fem sub would not play with you?

You are a Pro-Domme.

Honey, you dont seem special enough that I should pay to play with you, when I have so many others who would do it for free, or even pay ME to play with them.

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RE: why is it so hard to find female play slaves? - 10/2/2009 9:30:14 PM

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FR, after incredulous read thru

You're a hot-looking 22-year-old professional femdom in the San Francisco Bay Area & you can't find female play partners? Seriously?

Within a 50 mile radius of ya I'll bet ya there's at least one munch for every day of the week, major holidays excepted . . . . There are at least two 'public' dungeons, & lawd only knows how many different BDSM associations holding classes, socials, play parties, fund raisers, et al. You're livin' in the High Holy Capital of Global Kink, fer cryin' out loud . . . . .

If ya can't find a play partner, even a female one, amidst all that plenty I truly cannot think of a thing to offer outside of the usual advice to patience & persistence . . . . . *cough, cough* . . . . . &, ya know, go to play parties & munches & classes & so on & so forth . . . . .

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RE: why is it so hard to find female play slaves? - 10/2/2009 9:38:01 PM

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1. Women don't have to pay for it. Ever.

2. Women don't have a hard time finding someone to play with, so they're more likely to do it with someone they already know if all they want is a bit of casual spanky spanky

3. Most women come online looking for a relationship, not for casual sex or play

4. Most women (as in, a numerical majority) are interested in men

5. Your profile seems to only focus on professionally dominating male clients.

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RE: why is it so hard to find female play slaves? - 10/3/2009 7:30:43 AM

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ORIGINAL: russiancherry

they either turn out to be flakes after a few messages or just never respond on here...
what's up with that?

I don't know about the flake part, but as to the ones who do not respond there are some issues

Listing that you are a pro at the top of the profile makes people think you are looking for paid sessions
Since Pro's must lie to their clients to create various illusions, no one can ever be sure you are not lying to them
You maybe approaching individuals who lack adequate maturity to engage isn such activities
You may be approaching individuals who feel you are lacking in adequate maturity
Some may feel your activities are not in tune with their needs
Some may feel you lack enough experience
Some may feel your age is a disqualifing factor
Some may see your "ratings" as unrealistic
Some may feel you profile puts you in an undesirable light and or lacking in content

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RE: why is it so hard to find female play slaves? - 10/3/2009 5:32:48 PM

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ORIGINAL: russiancherry

they either turn out to be flakes after a few messages or just never respond on here...
what's up with that?

Are you making sure to approach only female slaves that are interested in play only interactions? Are they lesbian or bisexual? You do have to be sure that you are approaching women that might be receptive.

A lot of slaves are interested in committed M/s relationships, and it sounds like that is not what you're after

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RE: why is it so hard to find female play slaves? - 10/3/2009 6:09:26 PM

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ORIGINAL: yellowroses
That being said I personally think that you put the post on here so you could have a bunch of people look at your profile and maybe get some new clients that way. In sales it is a numbers game and if you had enough people look at your profile with a phone number on it, I'm sure that you received some phone calls already.

Wow, somebody more cynical than I am! I like you, please hang aropund some more.

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RE: why is it so hard to find female play slaves? - 10/3/2009 6:31:33 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: russiancherry

they either turn out to be flakes after a few messages or just never respond on here...
what's up with that?

Female subs have more moxie than to allow themselves to be used as a play now, toss away when done toy.

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RE: why is it so hard to find female play slaves? - 10/7/2009 12:21:54 PM

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You are looking for play not a relationship. That could be the problem.

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RE: why is it so hard to find female play slaves? - 10/7/2009 12:23:16 PM

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ORIGINAL: zephyrkajira

Ummmmm your profile states that you are looking for female subs.....but you use CBT as a part of the sessions.....how does that work??????

not very well?

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