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Venatrix -> RE: New slaves (10/3/2009 8:40:26 AM)
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Well, *when* I was looking, I was looking for someone intellectual and cultured, someone who shared a lot of my interests, both kinky and vanilla. I need to have a mental connection with someone before I can have any interest in dominating him, and I know that to be true for the vast majority of non-pro-dommes. So, telling us about your outside-of-kink interests is always a great place to start, and it's better to write in depth about a few interests than just list several.
For example, "I like sailing, art, and music." Doesn't do much to get someone's attention, does it? But, "I recently saw a Sam Francis exhibition and was struck by his masterful use of vibrant colours" tells us a bit more about you: you like modern art, you go out and do things (instead of sitting home wanking on the sofa to BDSM porn), and that you are analytical and capable of being emotionally moved (you didn't just look at the paintings, you actually *saw* the paintings and got something out of them).
This sort of detail also makes it easier for a woman to have a reason to contact you: "I was looking at your profile and saw that you were interested in Sam Francis. I love his work so much, I even own the Swatch watch that he designed. I was recently at the DeYoung Museum here in San Francisco and spent several minutes looking at one of his paintings. Blah, blah, blah."
That gives you a reason to write back: "So, what other types of modern art do you like? More blah, blah, blah." Before you know it you might have made a kinky friend who will be happy to tie you up and use you for her pleasure when she's not blathering on about modern art.
See how it works? It's not that difficult. We may be kinky, but when all is said and done, for most of us, the kink is only one facet of our lives.
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