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RE: Being called "slut" - 9/16/2004 3:09:00 PM   
kiki blue


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ORIGINAL: temptation

I hate the word slut.. because I guess, for the younger generations.. we havent completely owned the term yet.. its hard to just jokingly call eachother it...

because to us, it means.. we're easy :|


And that's a problem how.....?

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RE: Being called "slut" - 9/18/2004 11:53:44 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: kiki blue

quote:

ORIGINAL: temptation

I hate the word slut.. because I guess, for the younger generations.. we havent completely owned the term yet.. its hard to just jokingly call eachother it...

because to us, it means.. we're easy :|


And that's a problem how.....?


Temptation, You don't want to be called "easy". Does that mean you prefer "difficult"? I can see how some dominant women might like to be thought of as difficult. I know certain vanilla women who like to be thought of as difficult, though they would likely not admit it. I don't think difficult is an admirable quality for most submissives (exceptions because some like SAMs or "captive subs") and certainly not an admirable trait for a slave. Actually, easy seems a very desirable trait for a slave or sub. Yes, I know that you meant "easy" in a very special definition of being easy to get into bed. Is that so bad? I want my sub to be easy to get into bed. At least for me. Sometimes for others, too, if easy means all they have to do is ask me politely

Leto
(who uses "slut" to refer to his wife but who is ethically opposed to the usual vanilla use of the word to demean women)

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RE: Being called "slut" - 2/7/2007 9:08:28 PM   
MasterMyst07


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Status: offline 		for somebody, if slut is a hard limit, such a person has no place on this site.
Run back to vanilla or sign up for a monastery.
Respect is given at the right time, but the terms in BDSM are not always honorable and many girls like this freedom as an escape.

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RE: Being called "slut" - 2/7/2007 9:11:28 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		AS a Domme, caling someone slut is a limit of MINE becasue I dont like the term. I prefer pet, and if they have a problem with my not getting abusive enough with my verbiage, then they arent much of a match with me.
Its just to me, the term puts too much focus on the sexual aspect of someones position and since I am not looking to focus on the sex it doesnt work for me.

My 2 cents
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RE: Being called "slut" - 2/7/2007 9:13:06 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MasterMyst07
for somebody, if slut is a hard limit, such a person has no place on this site.
Run back to vanilla or sign up for a monastery.
Respect is given at the right time, but the terms in BDSM are not always honorable and many girls like this freedom as an escape.

Wow thanks for reviving a years old thread just to let us know that there are certain limits that make someone "vanilla"  Very worthwhile.

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RE: Being called "slut" - 2/7/2007 9:15:25 PM   
Lorelei115


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Status: offline 		What is with the people digging up inflammatory threads from years ago lately? Does this happen a lot and I just miss it?

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RE: Being called "slut" - 2/7/2007 9:17:38 PM   
joyinslavery


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I love being called a slut!

Really I do. 

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RE: Being called "slut" - 2/7/2007 9:19:47 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Lorelei115
What is with the people digging up inflammatory threads from years ago lately? Does this happen a lot and I just miss it?

It's generally discouraged by TPTB, but new people go where they will and sometimes it can bring a good thread back.

This case however, does not seem to be one of them.

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RE: Being called "slut" - 2/7/2007 9:21:45 PM   
all4yourplsr


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Status: offline 		A Mistress I know calls me a slut(and no, I am not collared by her.) all the time and she says it is a compliment.

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RE: Being called "slut" - 2/7/2007 9:22:10 PM   
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Status: offline 		I can handle the word "slut" - I just can't handle the word "whore".

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RE: Being called "slut" - 2/7/2007 9:23:26 PM   
sweetnurseBBW


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lorelei115

What is with the people digging up inflammatory threads from years ago lately? Does this happen a lot and I just miss it?


Well soon the fat threads will be coming and sub vs slave. Wow, can't wait.

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RE: Being called "slut" - 2/7/2007 9:28:14 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: SusanofO

I can handle the word "slut" - I just can't handle the word "whore".

- Susan


You see a slut just gives it away Susan, at least whores get paid. You know I think we all sell ourselves out in some way or other, we are all whores

About digging this thread up to comment on another person's limit... all I can say is that is just freakin odd.

Edited to say, the last couple of lines were not pointed at you Susan, and the other part was tongue in cheek

< Message edited by juliaoceania -- 2/7/2007 9:29:16 PM >

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RE: Being called "slut" - 2/7/2007 9:29:14 PM   
Siona


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RE: Being called "slut" - 2/7/2007 9:31:22 PM   
SusanofO


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Status: offline 		Well, I see what you mean julia (and I do know you are joking, btw) - I can be a real slut for a great night out at a fancy restaurant, followed by an evening lof lovey-dovey lovin' and cuddling and "wow 'em" bdsm activity.

I am just so - Easy. E-Z Susan, that's what they call me...(yes, I am joking). Actually, there aren't many things I won't do for a good seafood dinner (especially lobster or crab-cakes, hehe). 

Or better yet -take me shopping and I am yours. Especially if we are using your credit cards, and you take me to Victoria's Secret, or to Nieman-Marcus, or Saks Fifth Avenue (another joke. And it is a joke. Please don't anybody write me whining about what a mercenary I am, or anything. I'm really not. At least, maybe only on week-ends (wink, wink).

- Susan 

< Message edited by SusanofO -- 2/7/2007 9:41:14 PM >

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RE: Being called "slut" - 2/7/2007 9:33:02 PM   
Tamerofwild1s


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quote:

ORIGINAL: WayHome

Question: "What do you call a male slut?"



you call him Tamerofwild1s ...... I am a slut as far back as I can remember . always never took it negatively . in my opinion . its all a concept of the mind . how you allow yourself to see the word ... when I say it most times . its meant in a very good way with feeling behind it
 
and just to lighten things up a bit:
 
Difference between a slut and a bitch?? ... a slut will fuck everyone .. a bitch will fuck everyone but YOU ... have a great night everyone 

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RE: Being called "slut" - 2/7/2007 10:00:36 PM   
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Status: offline 		Two books were recommended in the beginning of this thread: The Ethical Slut and Exhibitionism for the Shy. Has anyone who has read them care to give an opinion on them? i had not heard of them before and am curious...

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RE: Being called "slut" - 2/7/2007 10:04:01 PM   
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ORIGINAL: dawntreader

Two books were recommended in the beginning of this thread: The Ethical Slut and Exhibitionism for the Shy. Has anyone who has read them care to give an opinion on them? i had not heard of them before and am curious...


This is a TOTAL thread hijack and will NOT be tolerated (except by the moderators, those reading this thread and me). 



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RE: Being called "slut" - 2/7/2007 10:07:59 PM   
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ORIGINAL: dawntreader

Two books were recommended in the beginning of this thread: The Ethical Slut and Exhibitionism for the Shy. Has anyone who has read them care to give an opinion on them? i had not heard of them before and am curious...


I am half way though The Ethical Slut and so far it's pretty good.  I too am very interested in anyone's thoughts on Exhibitionism for the Shy as I have not heard of it.

And for the record I'm proud to be called a slut, and calling someone else a slut is not in anyway a negative thing for me, actually it's more likely a compliment.  But what do you expect from someone who's nickname is KindaEasy

Edited because I can't spell.

< Message edited by kindaeasy69 -- 2/7/2007 10:09:02 PM >

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RE: Being called "slut" - 2/7/2007 10:38:29 PM   
dawntreader


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quote:

ORIGINAL: joyinslavery

quote:

ORIGINAL: dawntreader

Two books were recommended in the beginning of this thread: The Ethical Slut and Exhibitionism for the Shy. Has anyone who has read them care to give an opinion on them? i had not heard of them before and am curious...


This is a TOTAL thread hijack and will NOT be tolerated (except by the moderators, those reading this thread and me). 




Wow, this was my first hijacking!  LOL!

quote:

 
And for the record I'm proud to be called a slut, and calling someone else a slut is not in anyway a negative thing for me, actually it's more likely a compliment.  But what do you expect from someone who's nickname is KindaEasy ...


LOL!

Thanks guys, you gave me 1 final laugh before bed :-)

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RE: Being called "slut" - 2/7/2007 11:23:09 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterMyst07

for somebody, if slut is a hard limit, such a person has no place on this site.
Run back to vanilla or sign up for a monastery.
Respect is given at the right time, but the terms in BDSM are not always honorable and many girls like this freedom as an escape.



Unless it's coming out of the mouth of Himself, the word slut just doesn't hold any power over me. You can call me slut, I can call you cocksucker, same difference. To say that someone is vanilla for having the word slut as a hard limit is bit of a stretch though. Unless you own this site, you don't have the power (nor the means to enforce it) to tell someone else to leave because they don't fall in line with your One True Way.

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