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DONT KNOW WHAT I AM - 10/13/2009 5:36:25 PM

southsider316

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this is probably a stupid question but after 4 months on this site,i have NO IDEA what i am.

first off i would like to say thank you for letting me be a part of this site. i am from canada and i am 29 years old..i enjoy weight lifitng, body building is my hobby of choice . i also enjoy my gardens as i grow all my own food. i had a gf but she cheated on me after 8 years and moved 2000 miles away with my friend and took MY DOG. i MISS my dog,,it was my dog, i had the dog before i was even with her. so now i been single about 18 months. i dont look for a gf becasue i promised myself i would NEVER feel like that again,, But nights are getting kinda loanly now. i spend most of my time either training for UFC or restoring old furniture i find at yard sales. im restoring a solid oak table that has atleast 56 layers of cat shit yellow oil paint on it, HARD JOB.

i dont know rather im a sub or a dom because i hold a real high respect for women, and i just do not have the urge to hurt them in any way. HOWEVER there is a part of me that when i see a female i like i wanna make hardcore love to her.i also have the feeling sometimes that i want a female to just POUND ME,,in the ass with her toy. i dont know what i am.

if any females would like to get to know me , i would like that alot. i warn you now tho i am HUGE, 6 foot 4,,300 lbs, so if your looking for prep boy joe the 130 lbs curtin salesman,, i am not him,, i have webcam and mic.

i am not online alot becasue i have a house payment and i cant rely on daddy to pay it for me, so i work, and i work hard. i also will not stay home from the gym to chat with anyone, i need my 2 hrs a night gym time.

i also am not a man to just shack up with a woman after 2 dates, i like getting to know someone, i only had sex with 1 woman so i have a clean penis HAA. i was with the same chick for 8 years.

thank you for your time

BIG DADDY

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RE: DONT KNOW WHAT I AM - 10/13/2009 5:40:54 PM

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Well, you sound like a stand up, straight shooting kinda guy.

You're not going to appreciate this, but there's a third way... if you're not pure Dom or pure sub and still kinky, then you're a switch. So labeling yourself just got more complicated.

The way in which you describe sub and Dom roles sound like scening. Would you be comfortable submitting to or leading another outside of the bedroom?

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RE: DONT KNOW WHAT I AM - 10/13/2009 5:45:19 PM

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Woohoo another Canuck! Welcome!

I agree with Steven why not just go with switch? It might be easier than trying to decide whether you are a Dom or a sub

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RE: DONT KNOW WHAT I AM - 10/13/2009 6:20:09 PM

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Well, it sounds like you are uniquely you! Don't worry so much about labels.

If, however, you feel a need to define and can relate to both top/dom and bottom/sub...step to the switchy darkside

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RE: DONT KNOW WHAT I AM - 10/14/2009 3:14:16 AM

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RE: DONT KNOW WHAT I AM - 10/15/2009 3:35:14 AM

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RE: DONT KNOW WHAT I AM - 10/15/2009 4:21:09 AM

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You are penpals with Charles Manson? Damn, guess I don't want to know what you do for fun.

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RE: DONT KNOW WHAT I AM - 10/15/2009 4:44:19 AM

Rule

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quote:

ORIGINAL: southsider316
this is probably a stupid question but after 4 months on this site,i have NO IDEA what i am.

You are a sub.

I agree with DarkSteven: You are looking only at the sexual topping / bottoming angle, not at the submissive angle, which goes way beyond the sexual; this is why you are confused.

I recommend poly; not necessarily sexual. Do not look for a dom(me) only.

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RE: DONT KNOW WHAT I AM - 10/15/2009 5:26:45 AM

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what is poly?

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RE: DONT KNOW WHAT I AM - 10/15/2009 5:27:30 AM

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having/being open to have multiple partners...polyamory

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RE: DONT KNOW WHAT I AM - 10/15/2009 12:05:57 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: wandersalone

You are penpals with Charles Manson? Damn, guess I don't want to know what you do for fun.

HAAAAAAAAA,,,charles manson isnt half as retarted as some ppl out there,,

i have a fun life my darling
seems like there isnt enuff hours in the day for me to do everything i like

as far as my life goes,,ITS AWESOME

but i have been single for over a year
havent touched a woman in over a year

and its getting kinda loanly

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RE: DONT KNOW WHAT I AM - 10/15/2009 12:14:40 PM

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RE: DONT KNOW WHAT I AM - 10/15/2009 12:16:36 PM

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you appear to be of the homo sapiens species. Just thought I'd let you know.

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RE: DONT KNOW WHAT I AM - 10/15/2009 12:18:32 PM

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This is a running theme for me today! lol!! People not knowing what they are...and not what *I* am for that matter. I was told this morning I'm not a sub. And not rehash it as I've already done in my journal..so I won't. But I love how everyone here is offering helpful suggestions instead of telling him what he is and isn't, which is what I had happen. Good luck, I'm sure you'll figure it out and it'll be something that works well for you!

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RE: DONT KNOW WHAT I AM - 10/15/2009 12:23:32 PM

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OP:

welcome!!!! from a AB woman..

.I like your lighthouse.

GM

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RE: DONT KNOW WHAT I AM - 10/15/2009 12:33:46 PM

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*looks around* **RUNS THROUGH THREAD NAKED!!**

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RE: DONT KNOW WHAT I AM - 10/15/2009 12:50:31 PM

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RE: DONT KNOW WHAT I AM - 10/15/2009 2:25:49 PM

VelvetAngelique

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Welcome indeed!

I believe that is why some choose to label themselves as "switches" because they have both dominant and submissive tendencies. Despite being a submissive myself, I suppose I am commanding and demanding sometimes as well, I would expect my Dominant to over-power me in such a situation.

As you explore further you may just find out what you truly are.

Good luck. :)

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RE: DONT KNOW WHAT I AM - 10/16/2009 2:06:22 PM

GYPSYMAMBO

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quote:

ORIGINAL: southsider316

i dont know rather im a sub or a dom because i hold a real high respect for women, and i just do not have the urge to hurt them in any way. HOWEVER there is a part of me that when i see a female i like i wanna make hardcore love to her.i also have the feeling sometimes that i want a female to just POUND ME,,in the ass with her toy. i dont know what i am.

Doms can have high respect for women and so can subs...

Hardcore love does not have to mean DOM

Getting your ass stimulated does not have to mean submissive.

A DOM can have his ass stimulated if he directs his sub to do so.
A sub can make hard core love..

IT is about personality..not necessarily sexual actions

GM

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