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Hard spankings - 3/5/2006 2:23:27 PM

HarshReality

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Can any of you help me find an answer to this question; When it comes to spanking a naughty males bottom, Why do most women hold back on the severity ?
they all seem to be afraid to do a really meaninful spanking, I need the kind of spankings that are NOT FUN as they should not be, I have NEVER met a dominant woman who was willing to administer spankings at this level. I need and want the REAL THING. How do I find the right partner with simular interests. My profile, even as well written as it is tend to cause Dominant women to back off.... What am I doing wrong ??? Please Help.

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RE: Hard spankings - 3/5/2006 2:33:47 PM

MstrssPassion

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what are you doing wrong??

I'll show you & tell you...

quote:

From your profile:
I need a woman who does not play games when she spanks. A woman who very firmly believes that a Proper Spanking is something that should be Feared and her use of the Paddle or Razor Strap should never be spared when her subject misbehaves, A Woman Who's comfortable administering Severe OTK Spankings, is the most prefered.

Most dominants tend to not reward bad behavior.

You are stating you NEED to have a severe spanking yet you wish to have a have it administered as a form of punishment for your bad behavior.

That is playing games in my book & not the kind of game I will engage in with anyone.

BTW, I should mention... many subs, both male & female have always conveyed to me that they get a much more severe ass whipping from a female than they do from a male.

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RE: Hard spankings - 3/5/2006 2:36:18 PM

MasterFireMaam

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What you're doing wrong: Well written or not, your profile is still all about what you want. This attitude is most seen in your request of a picture from HER first. Why not offer a picture of yourself first?

If you focus more on the Dominant, you're more likely to attract more interest, which means you're more likely to attract a play partner to suit you. What do you have to offer? Talk about that in your profile.

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RE: Hard spankings - 3/5/2006 2:40:33 PM

Smythe

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MstrssPassion

what are you doing wrong??

I'll show you & tell you...

quote:

From your profile:
I need a woman who does not play games when she spanks. A woman who very firmly believes that a Proper Spanking is something that should be Feared and her use of the Paddle or Razor Strap should never be spared when her subject misbehaves, A Woman Who's comfortable administering Severe OTK Spankings, is the most prefered.

Most dominants tend to not reward bad behavior.

You are stating you NEED to have a severe spanking yet you wish to have a have it administered as a form of punishment for your bad behavior.

That is playing games in my book & not the kind of game I will engage in with anyone.

BTW, I should mention... many subs, both male & female have always conveyed to me that they get a much more severe ass whipping from a female than they do from a male.

I'm in complete agreement with MstrssPassion here and also suggest that this kind of specific request is most usefully directed to a ProDomme. One thing about us Dommes, we don't like to be told what to do!!
Smythe

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RE: Hard spankings - 3/5/2006 2:56:22 PM

MHOO314

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I can tell you, My boy will attest to the ability of his Mistress in delivering punishment---but in MHEO, using the tactic of calling out Dommes to defend themselves to find one is childish--and deserves My favorite punishment when a sub demands it--

tie him to the tree, then beat the tree and walk away--

If its all about you, find a Pro and "pay the price".

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RE: Hard spankings - 3/5/2006 3:13:32 PM

MsSonnetMarwood

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quote:

What am I doing wrong ??? Please Help.

If in a relationship: I would certainly consider giving a sub the heavy spanking he craves as a reward for good behavior, however I would certainly not give him what he craves as some sort of mock punishment.

If not in a relationship: Fuggedaboutit.

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RE: Hard spankings - 3/5/2006 4:14:27 PM

yourMissTress

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quote:

ORIGINAL: HarshReality

Can any of you help me find an answer to this question; When it comes to spanking a naughty males bottom, Why do most women hold back on the severity ?
they all seem to be afraid to do a really meaninful spanking, I need the kind of spankings that are NOT FUN as they should not be, I have NEVER met a dominant woman who was willing to administer spankings at this level. I need and want the REAL THING. How do I find the right partner with simular interests. My profile, even as well written as it is tend to cause Dominant women to back off.... What am I doing wrong ??? Please Help.

Even though this post reeks of "do me", I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt here.

I don't hold back on severity. When I play I play as hard as the bottom (or any other body part including the mind) of the sub in front of me can stand. That's the way I like to play, I'm a sadist.

As MH very nicely stated, it's sometimes more sadistic not to beat someone at all.

In your case, I would stand you in the corner when you are naughty. And only use my whip when you are well behaved.

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RE: Hard spankings - 3/5/2006 5:48:15 PM

EarthGoddess52

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When I'm first geting to know a potential partner, I'm very interested in their past experiences and what worked for them and what didn't. It's My choice whether or not to indulge them. I don't really take it to mean that they're a 'do me" sub at that point or "topping from the bottom". From a safe and health perspective, I also think you should take into consideration the integrity of their skin. Can they handle a good sound spanking?? Is there enough adipose tissue there to take it?? Will I use My hand or a plexiglass paddle or something in between......or warm them up with My hand and move on to other implements.

Good points that were brought up in previous posts were that any kind of corporal punishment will not do as punishment for a masochist. More subtle, mental sorts of punishment are called for...or just ignoring a waywad sub.

ut I DID love the comment about tying him to the tree and whipping the tree. And walking away!!

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RE: Hard spankings - 3/5/2006 6:21:10 PM

fastlane

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I was going to comment...but you all hit too hard!

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RE: Hard spankings - 3/5/2006 6:47:54 PM

chercher

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MHOO314

I can tell you, My boy will attest to the ability of his Mistress in delivering punishment---but in MHEO, using the tactic of calling out Dommes to defend themselves to find one is childish--and deserves My favorite punishment when a sub demands it--

tie him to the tree, then beat the tree and walk away--

If its all about you, find a Pro and "pay the price".

Tie him to the tree...MHOO, I admire your sadistic nature, and I learn from it <grin>.

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RE: Hard spankings - 3/5/2006 9:14:37 PM

Jasmyn

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Take heart we are out there.

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RE: Hard spankings - 3/5/2006 9:27:48 PM

HarshReality

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Wow, I had no idea; I am a bit new to this. How do I word my profile properly ???

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RE: Hard spankings - 3/5/2006 9:30:18 PM

HarshReality

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Thanks for the advice, I didn't realise I was comming off selfish.

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RE: Hard spankings - 3/5/2006 9:36:51 PM

HarshReality

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Ms Smythe

My intent was to show my interests, not to tell a Dommme What to do, Perhaps you can show me how to do my ad
properly, I have only seen Pro's in the pass, I reallyon't know how the Collarme forum is suppose to work.

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RE: Hard spankings - 3/5/2006 9:41:47 PM

HarshReality

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I really don't understand, Perhaps I should not even be here, I think I may become discouraged, Reading all the responses make me feel that I am in way over my head.

How does one start out in the BDSM scene ???

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RE: Hard spankings - 3/5/2006 9:49:45 PM

HarshReality

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Ms Tress

I placed my ad in good faith, I was not intended as a do me ad, Try guiding instead of condeming, We were ALL NEW TO THIS AT ONE TIME, I will pull the ad A.S.A.P.

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RE: Hard spankings - 3/5/2006 10:33:21 PM

MsEmily

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I would have to say that I pride myself on a rather stern spanking.... though I do have a heavy hand, I cant help but get carried away! I'm one of the nastiest spankers I know..though not many boys can take full force... though sometimes the girls suprise me

a strong arm, and a firm hand.

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RE: Hard spankings - 3/5/2006 11:05:42 PM

ShadeDiva

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This is a perfect place to learn.

And BDSM can be as deep and as shallow as the person chooses to make it - or people for that matter.

Heavy handed corporal punishment isn't all that difficult to find, but yes I do believe it takes a touch of the sadist to be able to do that and enjoy it.

I'd agree with the other ladies that posted - if it's a reward, that only comes with good behavior. If you WANT it, then you won't GET it if you misbehave. Period.

I enjoy giving harsh spankings, but I have to say there is only a certain level of force that I can achieve with an open hand. It frustrates me because I'm not weak, I can deal and deliver a great deal of force, but my arm and palm seem to not be able to deliver that kind of impact when my hand is open. Ray is convinced I am spanking wrong, and he could be right - I know quite a few women that can spank REALLY freaking hard and they don't seem to have that issue that I do. It's like the force of the impact sends vibrations up the bones of my arm, and it is really just ... icky. Each one is more and more affected by the last blow.

But now give me a paddle or instrument or hell even a closed fist and I can go to town.

Just wish I understood why it hurts my arm bones. *sigh*

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RE: Hard spankings - 3/6/2006 2:07:00 AM

MarinaBlack

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This, I truely do not understand.

I have heard many male subs complain that they just can;t find anyone to beat them hard enough - a challange to me, of course.

The problem then lies in the fact that their bravado implies to me that they can take my worst - or my best, depending on how one looks at things - and they seldom can.

Also, recal that we do call this "play" for a reason. Any Domme worth her salt recognizes what true punishment really is - to tie up a cheeky sub and IGNORE the little bastard. That's how I treat someone who has been bad.
Someone good gets to play.

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RE: Hard spankings - 3/6/2006 4:32:42 AM

MstrssPassion

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quote:

ORIGINAL: HarshReality

Wow, I had no idea; I am a bit new to this. How do I word my profile properly ???

Seeing that you chose this as your name... the harsh reality is that you most likely already wrote a proper profile for where you are at right now. Don't go writing a script that reads like a dream come true to someone who may happen to stumble across it. You have to convey the truth about yourself. If you write some glorious profile & then begin a conversation via email exchange, 1 to 1 chat/phone or even face to face & in reality you don't match the profile... you will be considered a fraud.

So, you want to get your ass spanked... no big deal. Sure you might be going about it the wrong way, but at least you are being honest about it. That speaks volumes about the sincerity of this particular kink. My suggestion to you at this point would be take time to learn more about you rather than learn how to promote yourself. Outside of getting your ass whipped... what is you goal.

I removed the part of my post pointing out that your ad read like a perfect solicitation for a pro. I didn't want to open up a pro related debate. By your own words you say that this has been your only interaction. Why is it you are not seeking a pro now? You mention that the women you have interacted with have not been able to give you a severe spanking... is this why?

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