barelynangel
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BUt what's more is I being overweight and out of shape, CLEARLY expect to be judged negatively because of same by Men who are looking for a slave. I don't sit around saying well he should get to know what's INSIDE, if he doesn't like the outside
did you ever think that is your perception, and not his? I am serious with this because we rarely see ourselves as others see us, and we are brutal critics toward the one in the mirror sometimes.
Angel...if you saw a woman walking down the street with your exact weight, height, waist size, etc., would you think she was overweight?
Holly, the short answer is if i saw them on the street -- yes i would consider them overweight and out of shape, if they resembled me currently. As most of this is about appearance NOT A NUMBER on a scale.
The perception the Men i know is very specific in what they wish from a slave and yes, being in shape and not overweight or fat is usually one thing that will have someone i am interested in saying thanks but no. Their slaves MUST be aesthetically pleasing to them. I accept this but more so expect this from these Men. My former MAster was the same way, he would not keep a overweight out of shape slave and he maintained me so i was not. I do see myself more critical than others do, and a lot of it is because of the slave in me. grins, however, being critical of myself lol hasn't pushed me to do much about it. I accept and expect the negative judgment of Men seeking slaves. Why would i expect them to inspect me any differently than for all of what they wish and if they determine that my appearance -- no matter what it is, it could be my height, it could be my shoe size, it could be the way my body is proportioned -- NOT just weight --- if they don't find it aesthetically pleasing to them then yes, i expect them to man up and say it and decide if they wish to pay the cost (which they would have too due to the time and energy it would take to have the woman become what they aesthetically enjoy and deal with NOT finding her appearance pleasing until such time the change has occured) for the potential value they may see --- or i expect them to move on to a different girl until such time i raise myself to their standards to catch their interest.
I think people are taking this thread and making it about WOMEN in general, but to me its not, its about a Man seeking a specific concept and utilizing his desires to accept or reject the "candidates."
I don't sell myself as a slave to anyone, but i do know if i wish to be a Man's slave who determines he won't inspect me further until such time my appearance suits him --- I accept that rejection and then the choice is mine as what to do.
I am not all that concerned about it as to me weight and appearance is all changeable if the desire is great enough. Some people are judged on things they can't change like well being plain or not attractive at all. People judge by appearance and what they deem fat is arbitrary. That is a fact.
You know what's funny, is i don't believe a woman should try and create herself into what she believes is a slave, but i do believe Men do accept and reject based on MANY levels especially aesthetically. One thing i do not like is the term BBW, it amazes me that big women who are secure in who they are and enjoy being that way have to coin a term to tell the world as if in defiance.
angel
< Message edited by barelynangel -- 10/20/2009 10:49:52 AM >
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