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why does my master want me to have sex with another man - 10/17/2009 5:43:01 PM

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why does my master want to have sex w another man so that he can watch? why does he get off of this and is not jealous? i will do it i jsut want tunerstand why.

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RE: why does my master want me to have sex with another... - 10/17/2009 5:44:07 PM

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why does my master want to have sex w another man so that he can watch? why does he get off of this and is not jealous? i will do it i jsut want tunerstand why.

Why not ask him. It would seem that he's the one who would have the answrs

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RE: why does my master want me to have sex with another... - 10/17/2009 5:46:56 PM

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I know I'm a raving lunatic, but asking him would be where my scientific evaluation would start. Be sure to have a lab coat and heaps of beakers filled with important looking fluid for when you pop the question. I use koolaid and and tea candles for my own desired effects.

Really though, just ask him, eh?

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RE: why does my master want me to have sex with another... - 10/17/2009 5:48:46 PM

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why does my master want to have sex w another man so that he can watch? why does he get off of this and is not jealous? i will do it i jsut want tunerstand why.

Because it's sexy as hell.

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RE: why does my master want me to have sex with another... - 10/17/2009 5:48:47 PM

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Gosh, I don't know. Why don't you ask him?

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RE: why does my master want me to have sex with another... - 10/17/2009 5:50:03 PM

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Will you enjoy it? Does he want you to enjoy it? Does he want you to suffer during it, skin crawling from the touch of a man who does nothing for you? What happens if this other man has the magic touch, making you cum continuously while you have difficulty achieving even one with your owner? How will he feel then?

This is one of those tricky things that can end well or wind up ending the relationship. Better make sure you're both on the same page. And that this guy gets a brand new std scan right beforehand and that you can guarantee he hasn't been with anyone else since he got tested. Because getting a permanent disease will damage the relationship in many ways. Have you got health insurance?

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RE: why does my master want me to have sex with another... - 10/17/2009 5:56:29 PM

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Well, I'm thinkin' maybe your Master is a voyeur.....Someone who likes to watch. Before I'd have sex with someone besides my D-type, I'd make damn sure He had a brand new STD scan, like DesFIP said. Your health is on the line & you don't want some disease. That could ruin your day and then some.

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RE: why does my master want me to have sex with another... - 10/17/2009 6:05:17 PM

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thank you for the good advice. i am sorry for your loss. i lost my soldier to the war in april and i can not get over it. i do not see the light at the end of the tunnel. i have master now to forget all my sorrow. i hope that he beats it out of me.
i think it is easier to be dumb then you have no idea what is going on and you do ont care......

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RE: why does my master want me to have sex with another... - 10/17/2009 6:07:47 PM

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Speaking from the perspective of a female Dominant: This is one of the reasons I am not poly. Not only do I not enjoy sharing, I do not as a rule enjoy being shared. I am a one-man Woman, through and through, body and soul.
That being said, I am very happily married, but well aware that My Husband has a very serious voyeur and sharing fetish, and has never, until perhaps now, been with any partner who was willing to help Him live that out, which in turn is one (just one) of the many reasons I got serious about My search for a slave. I will be fully in charge of the situation and be able to say how far it goes and when it stops. However, if I were a sub/slave being forced to go against My principles for another Man's pleasure, it would not transpire nearly so well. I personally would not have a Man, Husband, Dom, or not, who would have so little regard for My feelings that He would make Me do something that potentially traumatic. Sex may be just.. well, sex to some folks, but I have to have some emotional content or it does absolutely nothing for Me; even friends with benefits is better than just bumping uglies with a random stranger - to Me.
Please remember that these are only My personal opinions with regard to My own life, and are in no way whatsoever intended to reflect any judgement about how or why anyone else should choose to feel about the subject at hand. The OP may be an owned sub/slave, but in the end she still has to be able to live with herself, and should, for her own physical and mental well-being, be certain this is something that will not land her in hospital or on a shrink's couch down the road. Just sayin'..

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RE: why does my master want me to have sex with another... - 10/17/2009 6:16:31 PM

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thank you so much for your candor and honesty. i greatly appreciate it. i am deciding if this is where i want to go or not. ty so much.....you brought up some good points.

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RE: why does my master want me to have sex with another... - 10/17/2009 6:28:57 PM

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thank you for the good advice. i am sorry for your loss. i lost my soldier to the war in april and i can not get over it. i do not see the light at the end of the tunnel. i have master now to forget all my sorrow. i hope that he beats it out of me.
i think it is easier to be dumb then you have no idea what is going on and you do ont care......

hijack:

I really hope you're not in this relationship to forget your sorrows instead of actually being with this dom because you have feelings for him. If you are with him simply to forget your sorrows I hope it's a prearranged deal between the two of you. If not I highly advise you to let him be aware of this reason for being with him.

And I hope that you are seeking grief counseling in some form.

Best of luck to you.

Back to our previously scheduled convo.

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RE: Crossposting - 10/17/2009 9:18:20 PM

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Mine is good with watching, and doesn't seem to get jealous. I don't understand it at all, but I've learned to live with it.
I agree that it's important to tell your other half what's going on as far as the grief, I hope he already knows.

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RE: Crossposting - 10/18/2009 8:40:14 AM

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My boyfriend shared me with someone else a few months ago. Normally, I would not be into that, but it was an amazing experience for both my boyfriend and me (and the other guy, I'm assuming). For me, it was a way to demonstrate my complete submission, and for my boyfriend, it was a way to test my submission. I felt completely safe and secure because my boyfriend was there.

I would caution you, though, if you have any reservations about this, to talk extensively to your Master about this before you do it. He needs to understand your concerns and you need to trust him completely in order for it to be a pleasant (and safe) experience.

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RE: why does my master want me to have sex with another... - 10/18/2009 8:58:44 AM

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The same reason men like to watch porno it is a turn on, and knowing you are doing "anything" to please him is also a big turn on.

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RE: why does my master want me to have sex with another... - 10/18/2009 9:05:17 AM

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why does my master want to have sex w another man so that he can watch? why does he get off of this and is not jealous? i will do it i jsut want tunerstand why.

Who could answer that question but your master? I can tell you why I want that authority with Carol. For us, it's all about her letting go of herself. She is a monogamous person used to thinking that her body is her own. She entered into a monogamous relationship with that in mind. She has no inclination to "swing" or "play" or whatever else you want to call it. And all of that is exactly why I demand the authority to have her perform sexually on command with me or anyone I choose, whether or not she knows or likes the person in question. She cannot be "mine" if she is still holding onto bits and pieces of herself. As long as she thinks that her own opinion of who's cock is in her matters, then that part of her is not mine by my definitions... your mileage may, of course, vary.

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RE: why does my master want me to have sex with another... - 10/18/2009 9:41:07 AM

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why does he get off of this and is not jealous?

If this is a first, I wouldn't assume he won't be jealous. Other than that, it is a control thing for me, I-own-your-ass-so-I-can-give-it-away. What it means to him you need to ask him, not us, we don't know him, right?

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RE: why does my master want me to have sex with another... - 10/18/2009 9:41:59 AM

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Lacy-
I was about to reply to your original post when I saw this comment-

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i lost my soldier to the war in april and i can not get over it. i do not see the light at the end of the tunnel. i have master now to forget all my sorrow. i hope that he beats it out of me.
i think it is easier to be dumb then you have no idea what is going on and you do ont care......

And I stopped cold. I can't say what is going on inside you, but forget about having sex with anyone. You need some help, serious professional therapy to deal with what is happening.

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RE: why does my master want me to have sex with another... - 10/18/2009 10:04:41 AM

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And I stopped cold. I can't say what is going on inside you, but forget about having sex with anyone. You need some help, serious professional therapy to deal with what is happening.

*applause* I wish I had spotted that AR. I agree. Now that I look closely at the point you are highlighting, it sounds very much like despair.

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RE: why does my master want me to have sex with another... - 10/19/2009 9:03:32 AM

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Yiu have to ask him. We cannot goive you the answers you sek only he knows why. If you are that upset about losing you man (i am sorry for you loss) should you really be in another relationship? You sound like you couls use some prefessional help to deal with you grief not to have it as you said "beat out of you" .

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RE: why does my master want me to have sex with another... - 10/27/2009 4:09:11 PM

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My Master has often had me used by other men and women whom I have never met before. He owns me and as my body completely belongs to him he can do with it as he wishes!

He will usually have me strip for them before allowing them to inspect my body and then they are allowed to use me, I will be instucted to do any thing they wish though Master will insist that protection is used before they penetrate me.

Master is always there to protect me and I so love pleasing him in this way

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