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How did you meet? - 10/18/2009 5:17:35 AM

Elizabeth666

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If this has been posted, I apologize. I searched but didn't find anything. Also, if this is not the right forum, I apologize again.

My question is: How did you meet your Dom(me)?

I met mine on a vanilla dating site. My vanilla ex boyfriend and I had broken up a while before I joined "the site" and I was curious who was out there after being in an almost 4 year relationship.

My sister had joined the site a long time before me and met her boyfriend, who she is disgutingly happy with LOL so I thought, why the hell not? After a couple dates with a couple of guys, He messaged me. I model for fun part-time and had some pretty tame bondage shots. I posted a head shot (with me wearing a collar) on my profile and when He messaged me, He said that the collar made Him curious. I told Him I could have been wearing it for fun, or not.......

In the course of our conversations off the site through msn we discovered what each of us were. We had both almost given up on finding someone in the lifestyle until then. We talked alot on the phone and through IM/text before we met. He came to my work and brought me coffee, we chatted a while and He left. We talked more on the phone and invited me for dinner. We have been together since. 2 months, which doesn't seem that long, but it has felt longer. We feel like we've known eachother for years. After a month passed I asked Him if He realized it had only been that a short a time and He was surprised as I. He said it seemed like longer as well.

A day doesn't go by where we don't talk. He comes to see me everyday at work, we talk on the phone, online and through text. We spend quality time together once a week (More than half an hour as when He sees me at work I take my break) and it's been great. We hadn't seen eachother this weekend yet as I was having a bad week and He wanted to give me my space, but I'm better, we're missing eachother and He asked me to come over and He will make me lunch. :)

What's your story?

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RE: How did you meet? - 10/18/2009 6:03:26 AM

DesFIP

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Met him on bondage.com back when free members could still email each other.
Emailed, chat, phone for about a month before we met. That meet for brunch turned into an 8 hour day. And that was 8 years ago.

And yes, we are that disgustingly happy couple. Still hold hands, still do everything possible together.

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RE: How did you meet? - 10/18/2009 7:24:40 AM

peppermint

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I met Gary at a week long BDSM camping event in WA called In The Woods. He'd driven 550 miles from Montana to attend the event. After the event we kept in contact through email and phone. A few months later he brought his motor home to my place and we spent 3 weeks together driving around and trying to decide if we really were compatible. A few months after that I took a leave of absence from my job to go to AZ to be with him. I never went back to my job. We've been living in the motor home, traveling from MT to WA to AZ in the fall and the opposite each spring. In January we'll have been together full time for 4 years. I can't imagine living in any other way now.

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RE: How did you meet? - 10/18/2009 7:31:53 AM

maat

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He found me on alt.com we spoke shortly and i made all kinds of exuses not to see him, i compleatly lost my mind and agreed to see him that first day since we happend to be in the same city. we met in a coffe shop and after he walked me to the subway, i knew then and there. It lasted for about five years before i broke it off but we are back to playdates right now.

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RE: How did you meet? - 10/18/2009 7:39:05 AM

NewGothamSub

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I met him at a munch. I was curious about the local scene, and asked a Dom friend to go to the munch. He was sitting by the door when I came in, and I knew instantly I wanted to know the man better. He had commitments at the time that meant we were only friends initially, but when we successfully went Christmas shopping together, I knew I wanted him in my life for a long time. That was ten years ago. Anniversay coming up in November!

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RE: How did you meet? - 10/18/2009 9:06:56 AM

leadership527

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It was a totally vanilla thing. I was travelling on business. There was a reception party and she was there.

Heh, and the one thing I swore I'd NEVER do is pick up a chick on a business trip.

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RE: How did you meet? - 10/18/2009 9:18:48 AM

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I met my ex partner on here and we lived together for four years.... We are still best of friends.
I met my present partner on here and we are now engaged and getting married in the New Year.
Collar me is a great dating site and we are proof of that

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RE: How did you meet? - 10/18/2009 10:33:15 AM

sweetsub1957

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~Fast Reply~
Sir and I met on collarme. He checked out my profile and then I checked out His, to see Who was looking at me. Plus I thought He was hot.

Then He wrote to me and I wrote back. After that we wrote for awhile and progressed to phone and instant messaging and finally met after about a week. Right away we knew it was going to happen for us. Wonderful!!

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RE: How did you meet? - 10/18/2009 10:46:42 AM

Surrenderwithin

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We met at a local BDSM munch. We had a mutual friend who had been telling us that he knew someone he wanted to introduce each other too. He planned to introduce us at the local munch. He insisted we would be a perfect fit. However, Master and I found each other and had already delved into a deep conversation before said friend had the chance to introduce us... he walked up saying," So, I see you two have already met"......and meet we did.

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RE: How did you meet? - 10/18/2009 11:00:13 AM

Toppingfrmbottom

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He's not my Dom he's my Daddy, there's a difference in case people were wondering* giggles* And we met on alt.com. He was just about to make the move from Lake County to Santa Rosa, and he made the 2 hour drive every week after work like clockwork unless something came up. And then finally moved in with me and my parents.

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ORIGINAL: Elizabeth666
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My question is: How did you meet your Dom(me)?

What's your story?

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RE: How did you meet? - 10/18/2009 11:33:28 AM

whiteslavebitch

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I posted this answer in June of this year.

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Almost 4 years ago (it'll be 4 in July), I posted a message on Paddles' yahoo group message board. MasterK responded and we got to chatting. We met a couple of weeks later on a trip to New York I had already planned, and hit it off. I moved here about 18 months ago, and have been wearing his collar since January 30th of this year.

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RE: How did you meet? - 10/18/2009 1:35:41 PM

sblady

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We met here......good old Collarme!!

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RE: How did you meet? - 10/18/2009 3:03:44 PM

slavekal

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At the first fetish party she ever attended. She was looking to make a quick exit. The hostess, noticing her discomfort, told her that she knew of a good guy to show her around. A few minutes later, she dragged me over by my leash and introduced us. That was over six years ago.

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RE: How did you meet? - 10/18/2009 4:55:13 PM

Aileen1968

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I met him from this site, the message boards. We both joined within five days of each other back in 2005 and he noticed me here on the boards very early on, probably within a few months from when I started posting. I had no clue he existed. He figured out what my real name was through bits of info I posted and proceeded to physically find me in real life, still without me having any clue that he existed. He watched me for about two years physically (the freak sat in my driveway) and online before he started making posts here directed towards me. I started noticing him at that point and viewed his profile. He then proceeded to email me, we hit it off, physically met a few months later in a Lowes parking lot and are now headed towards a 24/7 relationship.

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RE: How did you meet? - 10/18/2009 5:04:59 PM

littlewonder

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I met him here on collarme. He would email me all the time for about 2 or 3 years late at night since we're both nightowls. I would throw one line emails back in response, really had no interest in him being he had a blurry pic and his profile just wasn't something I would have been attracted to.

I finally agreed to meet him even though he lives 3 hrs away but I figured, ehh..what the hell. I had no plans that weekend and could use a minivacation and maybe I'd get a free cup of coffee and dinner out of it. <G>.

Saw this guy walking in the front of me..."if things don't work out between us I'm going home with THAT guy!"....turns out that guy was him lol.

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RE: How did you meet? - 10/18/2009 6:21:26 PM

Lashra

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I met my now submissive playing an online game called Star Wars Galaxies. At the time he was separated from his slave/wife. They eventually parted ways and we became a couple with me as the Dominant and him as the submissive. That was almost 7 years ago and we have been going strong ever since.

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RE: How did you meet? - 10/18/2009 7:05:17 PM

NyDaddysGirl

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We met here. He sent me cmail encouraging my attempt to quit smoking. We emailed back and forth, then IMed for a bit and within 6 weeks met and that was that.

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RE: How did you meet? - 10/18/2009 7:13:04 PM

Freakgirl4

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I knew him in a chat room I frequented,had kind of dismissed him as a *troll* type until one day he started asking to show me a piece of jewelry he thought I would really like.It was something I did love,and we started chatting as friends.Pretty soon I realized I had been completely wrong about him.....

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RE: How did you meet? - 10/18/2009 9:07:08 PM

lucylucy

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I put an ad on craigslist under “Casual Encounters” saying I had never experienced bondage and really wanted to. I got about 300 responses and about five kept my attention for more than 30 seconds. I emailed those five men and decided to meet two in person. I went out with man #1 twice, had a couple mild bondage experiences with him . . . but something was missing. I kept emailing man #2. He was really smart and had a wicked sense of humor. At some point in our emailing about what we were looking for, I asked how he felt about rape fantasies. It became clear that we were both interested in rapeplay. I had never done anything like that and he took pains to make sure I was comfortable with it and trusted him. At this point, we still hadn’t met.

Finally, we agreed on a date and time and I showed up at his house wearing an outfit he had already told me I would never see again. He grabbed me from behind so I never even saw him, dragged me into his garage, and raped me for hours. I was blindfolded the whole time. Finally, he took my blindfold off and introduced himself. We talked for hours.

That was seven months ago. Man #2 has been my only man since.

(A very dangerous, very stupid way to meet someone, I know. I wouldn’t recommend anyone else try this method . . . although I’m thrilled with how it worked out for me.)

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RE: How did you meet? - 10/18/2009 11:06:54 PM

Thedragonman9326

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lashra

I met my now submissive playing an online game called Star Wars Galaxies. At the time he was separated from his slave/wife. They eventually parted ways and we became a couple with me as the Dominant and him as the submissive. That was almost 7 years ago and we have been going strong ever since.

~Lashra

I am still having trouble with that game

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