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LadyNTrainer -> RE: How can i be a 24/7 slave for a mistress ? (10/21/2009 10:15:50 AM)

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OP: 
Do me, do me, do me, do me, here is my kinky laundry list, do me, do me, cater to all my fetishes, do me, I don't give a damn who you are or what you might actually want, this is all about me, do me, do me, do me.


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ORIGINAL: pyroaquatic
Sing to her, entertain her, massage her when she is sore, work for her, live for her, breathe for her.... [.....]
As an unowned submissive male you are my competition.


Oh no he's not.  




Lockit -> RE: How can i be a 24/7 slave for a mistress ? (10/21/2009 10:26:05 AM)

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LadyPact -> RE: How can i be a 24/7 slave for a mistress ? (10/21/2009 10:38:33 AM)

Make that three of us, pyro.  All I can say is you're lucky I didn't snatch you up before I changed coasts.  LOL.




drizzt87 -> RE: How can i be a 24/7 slave for a mistress ? (10/21/2009 11:07:10 AM)

I think he asked a polite question and recieved some negative repsonses maybe he's new like myself and asked a "stupid" question I dont think he should get humiliated for it.




pyroaquatic -> RE: How can i be a 24/7 slave for a mistress ? (10/21/2009 11:12:27 AM)

Yes, but do you truely yearn to be a slave or submissive or are you looking for material to masturbate to?

Stick around Dark Elf.

You will see why we are the way we are.




mnottertail -> RE: How can i be a 24/7 slave for a mistress ? (10/21/2009 11:13:52 AM)


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ORIGINAL: drizzt87

I think he asked a polite question and recieved some negative repsonses maybe he's new like myself and asked a "stupid" question I dont think he should get humiliated for it.



there are many here that can now click humiliation(expert) on their profile who did this very thing, or something closely akin to it.

Ron




Lockit -> RE: How can i be a 24/7 slave for a mistress ? (10/21/2009 11:14:14 AM)

Does being new... yet still adult... provide an excuse for treating women as if they are vessels for his use and benefit... to be treated as if they are nothing more than a fetish provider? Being new means you lose all social grace and respect?

I call bull shit.

It ain't rocket science sweetie and being a newbie to bdsm or d/s or anything else, doesn't mean every functioning brain cell dies. It isn't a newbie problem that men seek to be fulfilled and desire a woman to make it happen. It isn't a newbie problem even in a vanilla setting that a woman expects to be treated better than a man announcing what he wants.

Being new is no excuse.




drizzt87 -> RE: How can i be a 24/7 slave for a mistress ? (10/21/2009 12:25:45 PM)

*bow's head to Lockit*
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Lockit: It isn't a newbie problem that men seek to be fulfilled and desire a woman to make it happen.

I agree with your statement and I guess one should be held responsible for what he claims on a forum board especially one this judgemental.




Lockit -> RE: How can i be a 24/7 slave for a mistress ? (10/21/2009 12:34:56 PM)

Nods to drizzt87...

I don't believe that responding in any way will be fruitfull. So just so you know I wasn't ignoring you... and something more you could add to the judgemental thing, I thought I better respond. I don't intend to argue with you.




LadyNTrainer -> RE: How can i be a 24/7 slave for a mistress ? (10/21/2009 12:49:11 PM)

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ORIGINAL: drizzt87

I think he asked a polite question and recieved some negative repsonses maybe he's new like myself and asked a "stupid" question I dont think he should get humiliated for it.


What, exactly, is polite about posting a laundry list of sexual demands?  It's not being directly rude to any individual, but it does clearly demonstrate a "domme as my personal fetish provider" attitude that is never, ever going to get a lady interested.  Not even if she thinks that all the things on his list are fun.  She still isn't going to want to do them with somebody who can't take his eyes off his own dick long enough to be a considerate partner.

Reverse the paradigm for a moment.  It's a submissive woman posting the same thing.  Granted, she'd get a lot more interest as male doms are notably less picky.  But I also think she'd get a lot of guff from dominants who will remind her that it is not a submissive's place to dictate a list of kinky activities, and that the more serious dominants would probably not be interested in a "submissive" with this attitude.  A top might be interested, but probably not a dominant.

No really, we are not the drive-through McDomme's for people to use at their convenience.  If your list of fetish activities is more important to you than who your partner is as a person, and more important than finding out what makes your partner happy, you are not a submissive.  You're a fetish bottom, and you need to advertise for a top.  And you still need to be prepared to figure out what makes your partner happy, not just blather on endlessly about what makes your dick hard while completely ignoring your prospective partner's wants and needs.  That doesn't even go over well in a vanilla relationship.  It's definitely not going to fly if you're being greedy and entirely self-focused while claiming to be a submissive.

If you are unable or unwilling to focus on your partner and what makes her happy because you can't take your eyes off your own wish list, you're going to need to pay a pro.  True in a vanilla relationship, even more true in femdom.  This has been a harsh and perhaps humiliating but hopefully useful reality check.  But at least it wasn't delivered by a priestess of Lolth with a sentient snake-headed whip. 

PS - Go Artemis Entreri.  [:D]




mnottertail -> RE: How can i be a 24/7 slave for a mistress ? (10/21/2009 1:00:09 PM)


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ORIGINAL: LadyNTrainer
Reverse the paradigm for a moment.  It's a submissive woman posting the same thing.  Granted, she'd get a lot more interest as male doms are notably less picky. But I also think she'd get a lot of guff from dominants who will remind her that it is not a submissive's place to dictate a list of kinky activities, and that the more serious dominants would probably not be interested in a "submissive" with this attitude. A top might be interested, but probably not a dominant.



LOL, saved yourself nicely.......

Ron (ne)




mazotala -> RE: How can i be a 24/7 slave for a mistress ? (10/27/2009 3:59:19 PM)

sorry about that ,

my english is not perfect .

my mean is i can do every think for mistress and write some samples .




Lockit -> RE: How can i be a 24/7 slave for a mistress ? (10/27/2009 6:21:38 PM)

Many of us would like to know what things you could do that are not kinky or sexual. Can you cook? Can you carry on a conversation? Can you dance? Who are you and what are you about? I don't see service as sexual things. Service is whatever I want or need that makes my life easier or some thing we do as 'our' protocol like his serving me in the mornings by getting my morning drinks and kneeling beside me to talk.

When you focus on kinky or sexual things, it seems that is your only interest and doesn't appeal to most of us.




Andalusite -> RE: How can i be a 24/7 slave for a mistress ? (10/27/2009 7:58:05 PM)

For that matter, I have been a top in a couple of egalitarian kinky relationships, and I still needed to connect on more than just a kinky basis. I've had a few casual playpartners, but I wasn't interested in having sex with them, and we still went out to dinner and hung out and got to know each other as friends first. My current female submissive playpartner and I had been friends for about 3 months before we started playing, and we talk about her family, my Master, work, our friends, our hobbies, and so forth. She's a fun, *interesting* person, and she doesn't see me as a Kinky Santa Claus here to deliver her wish list, even though I'm very much open to requests and input from her. With the approach you have in the first post, the only way you'll get anyone to play with you is if you hire a pro-Domme.




Drifa -> RE: How can i be a 24/7 slave for a mistress ? (10/27/2009 8:10:32 PM)

OP, in order to achieve your fantasy you must be richer than Donald Trump and pay to have this kind of sexual fantasy smorgasbord offered to you.




mazotala -> RE: How can i be a 24/7 slave for a mistress ? (10/28/2009 11:19:36 AM)

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Many of us would like to know what things you could do that are not kinky or sexual. Can you cook? Can you carry on a conversation? Can you dance? Who are you and what are you about? I don't see service as sexual things. Service is whatever I want or need that makes my life easier or some thing we do as 'our' protocol like his serving me in the mornings by getting my morning drinks and kneeling beside me to talk.

When you focus on kinky or sexual things, it seems that is your only interest and doesn't appeal to most of us.


hi

i can cook , i cant dance , i can repair and house work , i can programming .




mazotala -> RE: How can i be a 24/7 slave for a mistress ? (10/28/2009 11:29:23 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Drifa

OP, in order to achieve your fantasy you must be richer than Donald Trump and pay to have this kind of sexual fantasy smorgasbord offered to you.


i dont want to buy a mistress . but if mistress need money i can work for her .





lobodomslavery -> RE: How can i be a 24/7 slave for a mistress ? (10/28/2009 12:20:24 PM)

Mate i dont wish to be patronising. But you know, negative and all as some of the Dommes here have been to you, they have a point. Your 24 you have a long way to go. Engage your brain and use it to talk to the Dommes here. They are real women who are interested in interesting personalities not dicks. Sorry to be so rude but you seem to have used your dick and not your brain in writing this post
Best wishes
Kevin




Lashra -> RE: How can i be a 24/7 slave for a mistress ? (10/28/2009 12:53:52 PM)

On this list you are missing a few things, here are some suggestions.

1. YOU take a cooking class so you can cook for her.
2. YOU learn to give pedicure and manicures.
3. YOU learn to do household repairs
4. YOU learn to wash her car and do automotive maintenance.
5. YOU learn what it really means to be a 24/7 slave, instead of the book variety "sex slave/whipping boy".

Once you have these things to offer, a Mistress just may consider you.

~Lashra




mnottertail -> RE: How can i be a 24/7 slave for a mistress ? (10/28/2009 12:57:35 PM)

this is what slaves/submissives seem to overlook, Lashra.

If you cannot enhance nearly every aspect of your Dominant's life, then they can just go out and buy one of those little potted cactuses, and they don't need you, that is about the alpha and omega of the situation, kids.

Ron(ne)




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