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TimrehIX -> What to say in reply... (10/19/2009 5:07:00 PM)

So, I am on another site similar to this one, personals with a BDSM theme. And I get a message from a Dom “your my slave now” What does one say to that? My first impulse was to say “Alright.” But I doubt that would be the appropriate response. Also I doubt I should critique his spelling and punctuation. I could bark back a “YES SIR!” But I am not THAT submissive. (At least not right away) And if I immediately kick the submission level to 10 I worry I will be biting off more than I can handle.

His picture is nice but his profile is sparse. There is enough there where I am vaguely interested but not enough to really crave interaction. There aren’t any noticeable red flags. He is about 200 miles away but I live close enough to a major city where he could wind up here fairly often.

Any advice?



whiteslavebitch -> RE: What to say in reply... (10/19/2009 5:13:22 PM)

I would probably reply in a snarky manner. I wouldn't appreciate someone assuming ownership over me without discussion of any kind.



bluefireeyez -> RE: What to say in reply... (10/19/2009 5:17:27 PM)

Ha, I would probably tell him where to go and how fast.

If you are considering getting to know him...you could tell him that AND that you have to know him before you'll be his slave. Kicking in sub mode would be very bad right now...in my honest opinion.



DarkSteven -> RE: What to say in reply... (10/19/2009 5:24:59 PM)

Tell him he's an idiot and block him.



Wolf2Bear -> RE: What to say in reply... (10/19/2009 5:32:25 PM)

Could try asking what his interests are and see what he says. It it isn't anything which captures your interest then tell the guy thanks but buh bye.



porcelaine -> RE: What to say in reply... (10/19/2009 5:46:52 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: TimrehIX

So, I am on another site similar to this one, personals with a BDSM theme. And I get a message from a Dom “your my slave now” What does one say to that? My first impulse was to say “Alright.”


if the same individual approached you while walking down the street would your response be the same? i'm going to guess you wouldn't hesitate to tell him where to go. why would you exercise less discretion with a virtual stranger? it would seem his approach isn't how most go about winning brownie points. you can pursue a conversation, but unless he clearly indicated that he was teasing and wrote something of merit, i'd simply decline the unwarranted claim and focus my attention on someone a bit more adept at conversing.

porcelaine



winterlight -> RE: What to say in reply... (10/19/2009 6:00:44 PM)

Sounds like an idiot. I would have replied LOL at him.

Red flags that he is a wannabee and probably dangerous...

I agree with the above...block him..



dreamerdreaming -> RE: What to say in reply... (10/19/2009 6:04:24 PM)

[sm=danger.gif]

Block and delete, without reply.



Annabelle83 -> RE: What to say in reply... (10/19/2009 6:04:28 PM)

People respond to those emails?

Wow.

I just block and delete.



littlewonder -> RE: What to say in reply... (10/19/2009 6:09:14 PM)

I don't give any reply.

I ignore and then delete.

Why waste another stroke of the fingers?



sweetsub1957 -> RE: What to say in reply... (10/19/2009 6:11:04 PM)

No noticeable red flags EXCEPT for the one where He says "You are my slave now" to someone He's had no previous correspondence of any kind with.  That's pretty damn presumptious and annoying to say the least.  If Someone said that to me when I'd never before had any kind of contact with Him, I would say "The hell I am.  You presume too much.  Buzz off.....SIR!"  Then block and delete.  I guess I just think telling Him off would be worth the small satisfaction of my doing so. 

~edited to add the last sentence~



MasterSlaveLA -> RE: What to say in reply... (10/19/2009 6:19:24 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: TimrehIX

So, I am on another site similar to this one, personals with a BDSM theme. And I get a message from a Dom “your my slave now” What does one say to that?



You say, "Sorry, I'm not your type... I'm not inflatable."

LOL [sm=rofl.gif]




Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: What to say in reply... (10/19/2009 6:27:07 PM)

I'd reply with no I'm not but nice try.
quote:

ORIGINAL: TimrehIX

So, I am on another site similar to this one, personals with a BDSM theme. And I get a message from a Dom “your my slave now” What does one say to that? My first impulse was to say “Alright.” But I doubt that would be the appropriate response. Also I doubt I should critique his spelling and punctuation. I could bark back a “YES SIR!” But I am not THAT submissive. (At least not right away) And if I immediately kick the submission level to 10 I worry I will be biting off more than I can handle.

His picture is nice but his profile is sparse. There is enough there where I am vaguely interested but not enough to really crave interaction. There aren’t any noticeable red flags. He is about 200 miles away but I live close enough to a major city where he could wind up here fairly often.

Any advice?




alittleevil -> RE: What to say in reply... (10/19/2009 7:42:51 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: TimrehIX

So, I am on another site similar to this one, personals with a BDSM theme. And I get a message from a Dom “your my slave now” What does one say to that?


Hello,
This one doesn't say anything to that, one sorta giggles and pushes delete.  For me, he would have to be just exceptionally exceptional, for, like, a really long time to even begin to overcome that first stunning lapse of presentation in basic human-ness.

Peace,
aj



devilishpixie -> RE: What to say in reply... (10/19/2009 9:58:31 PM)

I would reply with sarcasm and then block and delete him.



Surrenderwithin -> RE: What to say in reply... (10/19/2009 10:36:26 PM)

I am going to offer some mildly unsolicited advice. I realize you are asking about how you should reply to him and I will get to that. However, I want to point out a couple of things first. You mention that you see no red flags, but you missed a huge one. Anytime someone thinks they have the right to just assume ownership of you it is a red flag, one of the most obvious and easily detected ones. Secondly, I think you need to turn your thoughts back to self for a time. You should probably ask yourself why you are feeling inclined to respond to this person, especially in a possible affirmative fashion. That fact alone makes me wonder if you are thinking from a point of desperation or eagerness that isnt healthy or wise. The best thing I believe you can do at this moment is take a minute to examine yourself.

Then you can think about the OP. The person has waved a red flag in your face you should probably just move on and possibly block him. In the meantime take some time to figure out what you want and learn about how to identify red flags and ensure your own safety.

Just my two cents,
Maggi
25 NZ points and counting



agirl -> RE: What to say in reply... (10/20/2009 5:40:10 AM)

"I AM?  Gosh , you're GOOD. I didn't feel a THING!"

agirl



YoursMistress -> RE: What to say in reply... (10/20/2009 7:01:52 AM)

If it were me, I might reply respectfully.  imho, there's no need for nastiness, unless it gives you some pleasure.  You are not gonna cure him of habits with a snarky response (sorry, there is no snarky cure).  Being able to generate "vague" interest doesn't seem like much to go on.  All in all, I'll go with the majority and say just block and delete.  Stay at it and this will look less and less like a real opportunity.  You will have to be active, but that's good for you anyway.  Good luck. 

yours



OsideGirl -> RE: What to say in reply... (10/20/2009 7:21:11 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: TimrehIX
There aren’t any noticeable red flags.
I'd consider the email saying "You're my slave now" to be a red flag. A BIG red flag.



fluffyswitch -> RE: What to say in reply... (10/20/2009 7:32:12 AM)

personally i wouldn't respond. i would just block. those types of messages are just wastes of my time, and i have enough to deal with people posturing around me in real life that i don't need to deal with it in my in box.



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