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Padriag -> RE: Warning signs (3/7/2006 2:32:23 PM)
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ORIGINAL: slavejali
SimplyV: You made some good points, it really is an individual thing and there are very few absolutes.
I was just thinking about the time I spent on the internet when Master and I were chatting. I was basically a recluse and just sat online. Long story to this..but basically part of what I was doing was greiving and giving myself time to heal (partner had died). Which brings up another issue too, a lot of the time I spent online, I was just playing around, relieving the stress, I cant tell you how many times I got messages from people saying how bad a slave I was, or that I was just a player etc...people taking how I was acting or being or talking online as an assessment of my nature and intentions.....which was far from the reality. Guess my point here is, you cant even take peoples "type" as an assessment of character or whether the person is a player or not. There are so many variables. Master took the time to get to know me..the real me...and He got rewarded with the most fantastical slave who ever lived *grin* hehe
Jali, you actually kind of hit on something I do take seriously. When I meet a prospective slave I assess them. A lot of that is done through passive observation, just seeing what their habits are, etc. Taking the example of yourself, your behavior indicated something a dominant taking an interest in you should have been aware of, that you were in a grieving process. Dominants should always take the time to learn a bit about the past history of a submissive, particularly the traumas and other events that might affect them emotionally. Sometimes this is a temporary situation, like your case appears to have been, but in others its long term. By knowing about it and being aware of it the dominant can be better prepared to deal with it, or simply choose to remain friends with the submissive until they get past that point in their life. I've seen some dominants who love to talk about how slaves are property... but forget that they are human property, and human beings will always have emotions and histories that affect their behavior. That's just reality.
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