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RE: Letting your kink include others nonconsensually - 10/25/2009 4:47:58 PM

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But how much of that squicky feeling is coming from her own knowledge about BDSM and the nurses choice of the word "fetish"? my dad has a fetish about no one touching his remote controls... he definitely isnt BDSM oriented. my ex roommate had a fetish about not wearing shoes past the doorway... again... not BDSM oriented.

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This morning, as I was being discharged Doctor Suppository launched off into telling me how wonderful it was that I could go home, where I could now have all the prune juice and enemas that I wanted. And wouldn't that be special? This was the first time I'd ever seen a True Believer sermonizing on a topic that they BELEEEVED!!! in like this. I thought he was going to come in his pants

Im assuming this is the part you are referring too? There are complications after such a surgery. Seeing how he is specializing in this field, and not just practicing more generally, i can understand how he possibly may see more than his share of complications.

I would also find it highly demeaning, to myself as a patient, and the surgeon who operated on me, to have other hospital personnel roll their eyes after a question i asked, belittle a man who obvious has alot of knowledge, then after saying such things, not even offering to get a patient advocate.

I personally feel the OP is upset at the wrong person.

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RE: Letting your kink include others nonconsensually - 10/25/2009 4:56:41 PM

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I MIGHT believe what you are saying if I didn't know there are doctors out there who behave inappropriately. But I do and that's why I believe what she said. Damn to listen to you, you would think all doctors are pristine and genuinely caring of their patients.

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RE: Letting your kink include others nonconsensually - 10/25/2009 5:01:40 PM

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But I do plan on discussing my discomfort with the hospital's ethics committee, my regular OB/GYN and GP, and possibly with the state medical association. He may not be indulging a kink - but if not, his patient communication techniques SERIOUSLY need work. And while I don't care if the man has a suppository/laxative fetish, I *DO* care that he not inflict it on non-consenting people under his medical care if that's so. Whether it was him being weird or not, the way he approached it made me really uncomfortable.

I know there is some doubt in this thread, but I say good for you.

It seems like there is a lot of evidence that there is something suspicious going on, but in the unlikely event that you are wrong, that's what the job of the hospital ethics committee is, to investigate.

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RE: Letting your kink include others nonconsensually - 10/25/2009 5:04:22 PM

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I know better than that. I have worked with many who were total assholes. But to undermind a patients confidence in such a way is.. just wrong. Now, if he had been trying to ram the thing up her bottom while he was there... or he insisted he be the only one to insert it, then i could agree it could be a fetish in the BDSM sense and recommend she find a good lawyer.

I also have enough experience in the health field to know that Dr's squabble, nurses have favorites and un-favorites, and it can sometimes look like highschool yet again. the show SCRUBS isnt that far off.

I do have a feeling that if the OP gets a look at her medical record, she may be surprised as to what is written there... and what isnt.

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RE: Letting your kink include others nonconsensually - 10/25/2009 5:12:36 PM

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But I do plan on discussing my discomfort with the hospital's ethics committee, my regular OB/GYN and GP, and possibly with the state medical association. He may not be indulging a kink - but if not, his patient communication techniques SERIOUSLY need work. And while I don't care if the man has a suppository/laxative fetish, I *DO* care that he not inflict it on non-consenting people under his medical care if that's so. Whether it was him being weird or not, the way he approached it made me really uncomfortable.

I know there is some doubt in this thread, but I say good for you.

It seems like there is a lot of evidence that there is something suspicious going on, but in the unlikely event that you are wrong, that's what the job of the hospital ethics committee is, to investigate.

I think she might benefit from seeing the file. But if she expects results from any complaints, she will have to hire a lawyer. Most hospitals wont get rid of a Surgeon based upon a few complaints... or even many. Sadly enough.

While you may think im arguing in behalf of the Surgeon, its a hard, long batter for any patient to get heard over a surgeon. All she has is her words, and what the staff said to her. If the staff wont back up what they said, it becomes a he said/she said issue. Which is why i think getting the chart may be a good idea. She may be surprised at what she finds.

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RE: Letting your kink include others nonconsensually - 10/25/2009 5:28:23 PM

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No they were not required and she was pooping regularly, if you're pooping all by yourself you don't need laxatives and stuff to make you poop, all they'll do is give you diarrhea. She felt he was behaving creepily, and other people said it was his "fetish" to give patients suppositories. He also made her very uncomfortable with his gleeful comment that she's lucky she can go home now and have as many enema's as she wants. She has a right to mention it to someone, maybe not the medical board, but a superior or something.

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report him to the medical board?

Regardless of his true motives, the fact remains that suppositories were required and it is up to him as to what form her perfers to dispense. At best, the only thing his actions maybe called is insensitiive, hardly a case of mal practice

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RE: Letting your kink include others nonconsensually - 10/25/2009 5:52:53 PM

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What part of taking dilaudid (which may cause your pooping to stop) along with abdominal surgery (which can cause your abilty to poop to slow down) didnt anyone understand?

Any web site will tell you

Constipation is a common... i repeat... common side effect of this surgery... even weeks later.

NORMALLY... no.. if your pooping, you dont need it. This isnt a normal situation. The abdomen now has a empty space. The intestines will shift to fill, and even that can lead to constipation.

Its not just that easy to say... if you poop.. you dont need too.

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