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Serving my Mistress! What to expect - 10/24/2009 4:10:17 PM   
bondageDick


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Status: offline 		I have always been into bondage type stuff and always felt I was submissive, but the thought of a tied woman turns me on also. Well anyways, I have met a Mistress who wants  me to have a session  as her slut slave boy. I am a little confused and scarred. I don't know what to expect as I never been with Real Mistress before. She lives far away but is frequently around my area. We have fooled around with each other already as friends,  but she did not know I was a submissive now that she knows her whole attitude is different and she wants me as her slut boy slave. What am I getting into?
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RE: Serving my Mistress! What to expect - 10/24/2009 4:27:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ask her.  Everything else is conjecture.

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RE: Serving my Mistress! What to expect - 10/24/2009 4:31:35 PM   
Aileen1968


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So you should probably talk to her because only she knows what's in her head.

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RE: Serving my Mistress! What to expect - 10/24/2009 4:36:37 PM   
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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

Ask her.  Everything else is conjecture.

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What CalifChick said. Have a talk with her and find out what she wants from a slut slave boy. It is possible that some of what she has in mind you won't fancy at all, which is why it's going to be worth your while discussing it with her first. If she isn't willing to establish limits and stick to them, can you trust her in that situation in the first place?

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RE: Serving my Mistress! What to expect - 10/24/2009 5:19:06 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well I want to ask her.  But am not allowed to email her because she said I was being a impatient and need to show some restraint in emailing her. I defiantly don't want to screw this up she is a amazingly beautiful woman with such a perfect body.  I asked about  vanilla love making with her and she said she does not enjoy being topped from the bottom. Please note I paying tribute to this amazing women and I already had a vanilla session with her before she knew I was Submissive. 

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RE: Serving my Mistress! What to expect - 10/24/2009 5:24:06 PM   
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Status: offline 		I would take things slowly since the dynamics have changed and be open and honest about what you both need and expect from the realationship.

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RE: Serving my Mistress! What to expect - 10/24/2009 5:30:14 PM   
bondageDick


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Status: offline 		Ya taking things slow sounds good. Mistress told me to wait for her email so I will wait. I am dropping coin, so I don't want to be disappointed by how the session goes. But Mistress says I can only be her fully slut boi or nothing else. I can not stop thinking about her though.

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RE: Serving my Mistress! What to expect - 10/24/2009 5:33:04 PM   
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ORIGINAL: bondageDick

Well I want to ask her.  But am not allowed to email her because she said I was being a impatient and need to show some restraint in emailing her. I defiantly don't want to screw this up she is a amazingly beautiful woman with such a perfect body.  I asked about  vanilla love making with her and she said she does not enjoy being topped from the bottom. Please note I paying tribute to this amazing women and I already had a vanilla session with her before she knew I was Submissive. 


Underline mine --- So you are paying for the session, ie, this is a transaction? Important to know as it impacts negotiation etc.

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RE: Serving my Mistress! What to expect - 10/24/2009 5:36:47 PM   
Venatrix


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ORIGINAL: bondageDick

Well I want to ask her.  But am not allowed to email her because she said I was being a impatient and need to show some restraint in emailing her. I defiantly don't want to screw this up she is a amazingly beautiful woman with such a perfect body.  I asked about  vanilla love making with her and she said she does not enjoy being topped from the bottom. Please note I paying tribute to this amazing women and I already had a vanilla session with her before she knew I was Submissive. 


As one of the resident cynics on the CM boards, I feel it incumbent upon me to point out that she is likely stringing you along in order to maximise her income from you.  So, just sit back and enjoy the ride - I have a hunch she's going to take you for one.

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RE: Serving my Mistress! What to expect - 10/24/2009 5:39:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		I admit I am pretty ignorant to the whole "tribute" idea and paying for a session with a pro but in doing so are you not paying for a service? So should those services not be negotiated before payment is made not after. Plus if you are paying tribute or for the session can you truly be "owned" by that person?

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RE: Serving my Mistress! What to expect - 10/24/2009 6:15:43 PM   
bondageDick


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Status: offline 		Well it started as I was paying her for as GFE service. I don't like the idea of tribute myself, but paying for the service to me is different. I understand it is to benefit her income that is the reason she travels. 

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RE: Serving my Mistress! What to expect - 10/24/2009 6:29:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		What do you mean by "having a vanilla session" with her? What kind of session?


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RE: Serving my Mistress! What to expect - 10/24/2009 6:35:43 PM   
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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

quote:

ORIGINAL: bondageDick

Well I want to ask her.  But am not allowed to email her because she said I was being a impatient and need to show some restraint in emailing her. I defiantly don't want to screw this up she is a amazingly beautiful woman with such a perfect body.  I asked about  vanilla love making with her and she said she does not enjoy being topped from the bottom. Please note I paying tribute to this amazing women and I already had a vanilla session with her before she knew I was Submissive. 


Underline mine --- So you are paying for the session, ie, this is a transaction? Important to know as it impacts negotiation etc.

Akasha



Agreed.  Sounds to Me like a client/pro situation, but I could be wrong.

My answer would depend on further information.


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RE: Serving my Mistress! What to expect - 10/24/2009 6:56:31 PM   
DrkJourney


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Status: offline 		I'm a wee bit confused.

ok, so you say you have been friends for a while and you've fooled around as friends, what does that mean?  I ask because you also say in a later post that you asked her about vanilla love making, then you say you had a vanilla "session" (not quite sure what that means) with her before she knew you were submissive. So am I guess her being dominant is her moonlighting job and her main job is having sex for money?.....so ....huh?

She just found out that you are submissive, if you are friends and you knew she is dominant, did she ever discuss with you some of the things she does?

You've never been with a "real mistress" before....so what kind of mistress have you been with?

If you are paying for this, aren't you the one to tell her what you want done?  As you are paying you at the very least have the right to know what's going to happen, not step by step but generally.  ( I am also, ignorant of the ways of pay, so forgive me on this one)  I can't see a responsible dominant, not having a discussion with you, especially someone who's never served and especially their first time together...this just doesn't make sense to me. 

Also, you say you are "dropping coin" so you don't want to be disappointed....so the question begs, why are you asking here?  you're not paying us, why not ask the person you are actually paying?  I mean you do know that all dominants are different, so since there is no cookie cutter rules, we have no idea what "she" will do?  Also, if she's a friend, why would you feel comfortable in asking?

As someone else asked, if she only wants you as her full slut boi and nothing else, why do you have to pay?

Actually, none of this does, maybe it's because you insist on using the term "slut slave boy" so much...lol  

Just seems like this has a lot of holes in it (no pun intended) either from her side....or from yours








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RE: Serving my Mistress! What to expect - 10/24/2009 6:59:32 PM   
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RE: Serving my Mistress! What to expect - 10/24/2009 7:06:19 PM   
DrkJourney


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what is GFE service?


thanks, I forgot that question....lol

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RE: Serving my Mistress! What to expect - 10/24/2009 7:09:48 PM   
CalifChick


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Status: offline 		GFE = Girlfriend experience.  Many prostitutes are non-GFE, which means they won't kiss and do that girlfriend/boyfriend stuff.

So it sounds like he paid for sex and kissing and stuff, and now she wants to ratchet up the kink aspect, but suddenly she's throwing power into it.

Cali


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RE: Serving my Mistress! What to expect - 10/24/2009 7:10:57 PM   
Venatrix


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Status: offline 		And a fuller explanation from our good friends at Wikipedia:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Girlfriend_experience

Edited to add:  It would appear that the OP is confusing a prostitute with a mistress.

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RE: Serving my Mistress! What to expect - 10/24/2009 7:11:54 PM   
DrkJourney


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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

GFE = Girlfriend experience.  Many prostitutes are non-GFE, which means they won't kiss and do that girlfriend/boyfriend stuff.

So it sounds like he paid for sex and kissing and stuff, and now she wants to ratchet up the kink aspect, but suddenly she's throwing power into it.

Cali



oooooooh....man, I am so sheltered...I had no idea that was a service...thought you just had to "be" to get experience....lol

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RE: Serving my Mistress! What to expect - 10/24/2009 7:12:49 PM   
CalifChick


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Status: offline 		C'mere Drk, I'll kiss on ya and hold yer hand for free. 

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