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RE: Changed my profile from switch to domme and look wh... - 11/18/2009 3:19:02 AM   
LadyAngelika


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About 30 seconds after the change my bulk email was flooded and my inbox was getting that way too. I hate to think that the other lovely ladies on this site get this daily... do you sift through emails for a laugh now or just refuse to open them?


For all the wankers I might get, I do however get great emails. I've been back on Collarme for less than a week and at first, my mailbox was flooded. I'd say it was more 50/50 but since I don't really entertain the wankers, but rather just block them and delete their message (occasionally I'll write back to tell them what they did wrong, but I do that less and less as I find that this isn't in the end worth my energy).

Now, I'm mostly getting nice email exchanges with regulars here and boys local to me.

- LA

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RE: Changed my profile from switch to domme and look wh... - 11/18/2009 10:19:17 AM   
pinnipedster


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Status: offline 		If is frustrating to hear about.  I try to be selective about who I email; I don't use form letters; and I try to say what about their profile appealed to me, both so they can get an idea about me and to show that I have read it.  A lot of my emails still go unanswered, though.   It's sad that I'm afraid some of them probably get deleted unread or just glanced at -- but I can understand the position the Dominant women are in.

As a sub, I do get occasional spam: usually from women in their early 20's with very nice pictures saying they are interested in making me their slave, but giving no details, and usually with almost nothing in their profiles.  I'm realistic/humble enough to be pretty certain they're looking for money -- but even if I were going to spend money on a ProDomme, I'd want one who was a lot more clear on what sort of domination she does...

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RE: Changed my profile from switch to domme and look wh... - 11/18/2009 11:10:23 AM   
LadyAngelika


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ORIGINAL: pinnipedster

If is frustrating to hear about.  I try to be selective about who I email; I don't use form letters; and I try to say what about their profile appealed to me, both so they can get an idea about me and to show that I have read it.  A lot of my emails still go unanswered, though.   It's sad that I'm afraid some of them probably get deleted unread or just glanced at -- but I can understand the position the Dominant women are in.


Well you know by now I'm sure that just because a woman indicates in an online profile that she is Domme that it automatically means she is a Lady.

Also, I know many use the mail filters which can exclude you based on location, gender, bdsm preference and age. The unfortunate thing is that you don't know before you write a personalised letter if these filters are on. And because it goes into a bulk mail folder on the recipient's end, you'll never know if it was a filter or if you were ignored.

I answer all well presented emails. All of them. I don't put on filters. I block wankers. That's it. It takes time to sift but you know, at the end of the day, it's not as bad, at least for me, as others make it out to be. Then again, I've learned to not sweat the small stuff.

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As a sub, I do get occasional spam: usually from women in their early 20's with very nice pictures saying they are interested in making me their slave, but giving no details, and usually with almost nothing in their profiles.  I'm realistic/humble enough to be pretty certain they're looking for money -- but even if I were going to spend money on a ProDomme, I'd want one who was a lot more clear on what sort of domination she does...


Sex and poker (which I like to combine and call Poke-Her) are the 2 biggest internet money makers and everyone is trying to find a way to get a piece of the action. I'm not surprised. But it comes with the territory!

Hang in there. I'm sure if you are sending proper introduction letters, eventually you'll catch the attention to a woman who is a great match for you.

- LA

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RE: Changed my profile from switch to domme and look wh... - 11/19/2009 12:19:41 AM   
mirror88


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Status: offline 		As a sub, I wonder why You find it inappropriate that a person would ask You to please check out his profile. There are zillions of subs and since many Dommes prefer to initiate contact, it makes sense from the point of view of one of the zillions - to ask to be considered.

I read on David Daida's website that only 3% of the female population prefer submissive men and that only 4% of men are truly submissive.

It makes one wonder about his statistics. Maybe they are skewed by the nature of Daida's seminars.

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RE: Changed my profile from switch to domme and look wh... - 11/19/2009 12:55:11 PM   
Venatrix


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Status: offline 		Not sure if you intended to respond to me or to someone else.  Regardless, even when I was looking for someone, I rarely wrote first.  I was simply too busy answering people who wrote to me, so I have no problem with men initiating contact. 

I do have a problem with the ones that start out with, "I want to submit to you.  I'll let you spank me and tie me up, and I'm into face-sitting."  Ditto those who simply ask me to look at their profiles; I'm far too busy to browse profiles just on the off chance that they were offering what I sought.  Men have to write a proper, interesting, and mostly vanilla introduction if they want my attention.  And you know what?  The one who did this, and made our initial three-day meeting such a pleasure, is the one who gained my affection.  So many men make it difficult to find someone because they behave so badly.


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RE: Changed my profile from switch to domme and look wh... - 11/19/2009 1:12:57 PM   
slavekal


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Status: offline 		Ms. Mlicious has instructions on her profile that all correspondence should come to me first. Even so, she still gets a ton of messages. Most are from time wasting wankers. I don't know what is wrong with some of my brethren.

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Re Thank you - 11/19/2009 2:37:15 PM   
Slave4you48


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Status: offline 		I am one of the slaves that applied to serve Lady Aliena and may i just thank her on here for the politeness and consideration she showed when replying to all messages sent,it really serves to show a Mistress that although having a slave for her personal use also cares as well,thank you Lady Aliena

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RE: Changed my profile from switch to domme and look wh... - 11/23/2009 2:25:17 PM   
nmf78


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ORIGINAL: pinnipedster


As a sub, I do get occasional spam: usually from women in their early 20's with very nice pictures saying they are interested in making me their slave, but giving no details, and usually with almost nothing in their profiles.  I'm realistic/humble enough to be pretty certain they're looking for money -- but even if I were going to spend money on a ProDomme, I'd want one who was a lot more clear on what sort of domination she does...



i've had similar experiences, after inquiry it was usually someone who was trying to get me to a paysite, or to pay her for taking her clothes of on a camsite



Myself, i've sent only one message so far, to a dominant female who lived relatively close and whose interests seemed compatible with mine but got no response, other then that i'm afraid most dom/swithc women here live to far away or are to swamped with mail from men, i guess thats no different from more vanilla sites

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RE: Changed my profile from switch to domme and look wh... - 11/23/2009 9:33:09 PM   
BiteGirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: nmf78


quote:

ORIGINAL: pinnipedster


As a sub, I do get occasional spam: usually from women in their early 20's with very nice pictures saying they are interested in making me their slave, but giving no details, and usually with almost nothing in their profiles.  I'm realistic/humble enough to be pretty certain they're looking for money -- but even if I were going to spend money on a ProDomme, I'd want one who was a lot more clear on what sort of domination she does...



i've had similar experiences, after inquiry it was usually someone who was trying to get me to a paysite, or to pay her for taking her clothes of on a camsite



Myself, i've sent only one message so far, to a dominant female who lived relatively close and whose interests seemed compatible with mine but got no response, other then that i'm afraid most dom/swithc women here live to far away or are to swamped with mail from men, i guess thats no different from more vanilla sites



It's a shame.

I get plenty of mail from boys and men who don't read my profile, who are bottoms who are just gagging for kinky sex or sessions but are too cheap to go to a pro domme or a prostitute (I say the later as many pro dommes don't have sex with their clients, so if someone was looking for sex with a few kinks, a prostitute would probably be better). Too much mail from people who send one liners, or emails that just simply waste my time.

On the other end, submissives of both genders have people approaching them who are unsafe, demanding, who had serious personality disorders and the like, and yes, those who are just after money.

I think the best way to meet other kinksters is at events, where you can get a feeling for who they are and what they're about before apraching them. That being said though, not everyone, myself included, can make it to every event, so we're left to find other places, and the internet is just too open and easy to have the clueless all over the place.

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RE: Changed my profile from switch to domme and look wh... - 11/25/2009 2:41:15 PM   
gordsub123


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Status: offline 		Interesting post, i am like BalletBob, i have sent emails, but only to a few, i do read the profiles, and yes i can actual read and understand (though my typing can be improved). But it is funny these emails one gets from across the ocean, even though my profile is sub, they stil lsend looking for a Master -- so i do understand the Doms situation in getting mail.
i am more interesting in learning and hear from others expereince, one never knows what i am missing

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RE: Changed my profile from switch to domme and look wh... - 7/6/2010 2:11:08 AM   
csholmes


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Status: offline 		i'm new - i read entire profiles and journals - if i respond, i follow all of the do's and don't's and address the woman by her appropriate title - my paragraphs correlate with what i read and i answer the questions ask - i attach five, face photos and four, tasteful-torso pics - and of the few dozen messages i have sent, 9 out of 10 were, "deleted unread" - wow!  it's just a vicious circle!  blame falls on a majority of the boys - spam to woman ratio seems to be 5:1 - i'm burn'd out and i've barely been here a week - i'll continue to read but i ain't sendin' no mo' messages!

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RE: Changed my profile from switch to domme and look wh... - 7/6/2010 3:26:16 AM   
gedienstig


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Status: offline 		This thread once again makes me want to make a fake Domme-profile on here for just a week, and see what would happen to my Inbox. Just a picture of an obvious fetish model and a text like "I like naught boys". Just to get a glance at what the female dominants have to put up with on here.

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RE: Changed my profile from switch to domme and look wh... - 7/6/2010 3:33:00 AM   
gedienstig


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ORIGINAL: gedienstig

This thread once again makes me want to make a fake Domme-profile on here for just a week, and see what would happen to my Inbox. Just a picture of an obvious fetish model and a text like "I like naught boys". Just to get a glance at what the female dominants have to put up with on here.

Mistresshihi exists for 10 SECONDS and she gets a oneliner question whether she is a "nazi domme" (although I admit the fetish model kinda looks like she's wearing a nazi outfit).

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RE: Changed my profile from switch to domme and look wh... - 7/6/2010 3:59:08 AM   
delicatelydirty


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Status: offline 		I have a some male subs and Doms, even fem subs who send the same or very similar message on a weekly basis. One particular Dom even stalks me on a couple of sites, it is quite sad really, I shudder to think what would happen if I changed my orientation.

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RE: Changed my profile from switch to domme and look wh... - 7/6/2010 1:57:13 PM   
csholmes


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Status: offline 		unfortunately, when in the public eye, regardless the size of the environment, you are subjected to mentalities separated by 180 degrees - i can't defend the obsessiveness, but i will note that single contacts are often misconstrued, for text is without inflection - i know some of my greetings have fallen prey, under that category

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RE: Changed my profile from switch to domme and look wh... - 7/6/2010 2:10:18 PM   
csholmes


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Status: offline 		i definitely agree gedienstig - why come to a site, where your inbox is flooded with idiots, stalkers and more idiots - i'm in no way discounting the root of the issue

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RE: Changed my profile from switch to domme and look wh... - 7/6/2010 4:46:50 PM   
xxblushesxx


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ORIGINAL: csholmes

i definitely agree gedienstig - why come to a site, where your inbox is flooded with idiots, stalkers and more idiots - i'm in no way discounting the root of the issue



Put some clothes on and I'll be more apt to take whatever you say seriously.

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RE: Changed my profile from switch to domme and look wh... - 7/7/2010 1:28:43 AM   
csholmes


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Status: offline 		i will take that into consideration 

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RE: Changed my profile from switch to domme and look wh... - 7/7/2010 8:37:24 PM   
ALadyspet


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ORIGINAL: GeorgiaMaam

My profile even says for subs not to email me, because I prefer to initiate contact myself  (what a shock - a Domme who prefers the hunt!)...and I still get tons of email.    I'm sure there are those who will come on here and rant that I tend to delete unsolicited email.

i like that GeorgiaMaam likes the hunt :) i kind of feel it is not my place to contact Domme's and instead wait for their interest, so i often wait. It makes me happy knowing there are Domme's out there on the prowl :)

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RE: Changed my profile from switch to domme and look wh... - 7/8/2010 12:41:11 PM   
blackpearl81


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Status: offline 		I've only sent emails to people if 1-2 of the following are listed on a profile

1. Common interests
2. Forum posts (although, 1 & 2 are interchangeable. More often than not, it's usually a forum post that piques my interest enough to view their profile on the other side. If I notice a common interest or two, then I'll shoot an email)
3. Location

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