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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

That she really isn't a friend.

If she was absolutely set on friendship then she would see past the reasons that chains offend her and instead, see why you find them interesting - in the same way that although you do not agree with her, you can understand her POV.

If she wants to be so blinkered in her ideas, that it causes issues with you both, she isn't a friend but an aquaintance.  If she is trying to manipulate you with negative words into her way of thinking, playing the guilt card, then shes struggling and deep down knows she is incorrect, but has no other place to sit.  You live in a town that is sits on the very edge of the UK with boats and fishing being playing a large part - of course there is going to be lost chains and links that are nothing to do with slavery.  Next time she goes on about slavery and how you don't understand, tell her just how many local people were taken from the Devon and Cornish coasts into slavery to serve in spain and italy by pirates back in the day.

The way she is acting, she isn't a friend but someone who you know and have to deal with.  If she was a friend, she would accept you as you come, no more, no less.  Isn't that what you have always told me?

the.dark.