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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
As for the rest, this is a message board.  There are all kinds of different people here with different styles of communication.  The minute someone puts something out there for public opinion, they really are getting exactly what they asked for, even if it wasn't especially what they wanted to hear.

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ORIGINAL: agirl

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ORIGINAL: lilmisssubmiss

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

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ORIGINAL: lilmisssubmiss
i probably shouldn't even be missing any college to see them.

No, you shouldn't.  One indication of how serious they are (or aren't) is whether they are willing to visit you, and keep things Platonic when they visit.  They have enough money to remodel their home for months.  A round-trip ticket to Boise from most anywhere in the continental US is less than $300.  Not exactly impossible to swing, for someone with the dough for construction work.  I think you should invest your time with people who can put their money where their mouth is.

they do have enough they just want to be all moved in by the time i come..which i understand. they want to be able to pay attention to me and the house they are currently in i guess is in really  bad shape.

i kinda feel good they want to kinda impress me i guess. shows they care i guess.
until the house closes or w.e he doesn't know how much money he will have to spend on it or something so he is saving up a lot .

i don't really understand all of it but i know he has money.. i know he will use it to get me there no problem when the situation is better.

but, i still just feel like i have to be so weary and cautious. you just are never sure.. and personally?

lets see i'm 18
i'm serious
i'm not horrible looking
i'm normal...
i'm getting well educated

shouldn't a dom be jumping at my feet if i like him? :/ i have so many guys who want me REALLY badly. but i'm so picky and i'm kinda taken aback from him. (this is not to sound snotty at all i'm just confused)

I think I'd be slightly more impressed if they came to visit YOU on your own ground , so to speak. I'd also be be more impressed if they didn't *allow* you to miss college to visit them, whether you're prepared to or not.

sweetobedience gave a lot of very good advice..but I'd add one more thing.......

If they're flying an 18yr old out to stay with them , I think , if they are responsible and sensible, THEY will buy a return ticket for you. If they have thought in any serious depth about it, they will have considered the possibility that there's the chance that EITHER side might decide it's not quite what's wanted and it'd be less than satisfactory to have a young person stuck there, without the funds to go home.

For what it's worth.

agirl

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ORIGINAL: zephyroftheNorth
 Since when do Doms jump at the sub/slave's feet. Somehow I've always thought if anything it should be the opposite.

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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

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ORIGINAL: zephyroftheNorth
 Since when do Doms jump at the sub/slave's feet. Somehow I've always thought if anything it should be the opposite.

And fortunately not everyone lives in your world where a s-type thinks a dom should do whatever that s-type thinks they should.

the.dark.

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ORIGINAL: zephyroftheNorth

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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

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ORIGINAL: zephyroftheNorth
 Since when do Doms jump at the sub/slave's feet. Somehow I've always thought if anything it should be the opposite.

And fortunately not everyone lives in your world where a s-type thinks a dom should do whatever that s-type thinks they should.

the.dark.

That's not what I meant....it just seemed to me that she has things turned around and Doms should be jumping at her command....or at least that's how I saw it.

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ORIGINAL: zephyroftheNorth
That's not what I meant....it just seemed to me that she has things turned around and Doms should be jumping at her command....or at least that's how I saw it.

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ORIGINAL: zephyroftheNorth
 Since when do Doms jump at the sub/slave's feet. Somehow I've always thought if anything it should be the opposite.

And fortunately not everyone lives in your world where a s-type thinks a dom should do whatever that s-type thinks they should.

the.dark.

That's not what I meant....it just seemed to me that she has things turned around and Doms should be jumping at her command....or at least that's how I saw it.

So she understands and has a sense of her own worth?  I don't see how that is saying the doms should be jumping at her command, just that they should be falling at her feet.  I say - why not?  I am a hetro woman and I can see she is cute.  She's got age on her side.  Shes got plus points.
I just see irony in the fact that you agree with agirl when she says that shes be more impressed if he flew out to the OP and yet find the OP incorrect for thinking that dominants should be jumping at her feet.  Both are what the stype thinks are shoulds.

Neither option takes into account of what the dominant decides.  And in my world - what the dominant decides is all that matters.  Whether that is who is getting on the plane, or whether they want to pursue a girl.

the.dark.

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As to "endangering" this site and everybody on it...
It seems to me that publicly making this big of a circus about the whole issue is doing more to endanger the site than anything the OP ever did.
She never went to flaunt the fact that she was underage before she was pressed publicly for an answer on it.
If the real, serious, concern was that she might have been underage, it seems to me that, in the name of the safety of the site, such a matter should have been handled privately by those concerned about it... perhaps followed by reporting the issue to the CM administration.

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ORIGINAL: zephyroftheNorth
 Since when do Doms jump at the sub/slave's feet. Somehow I've always thought if anything it should be the opposite.

And fortunately not everyone lives in your world where a s-type thinks a dom should do whatever that s-type thinks they should.

the.dark.

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shouldn't a dom be jumping at my feet if i like him? :/ i have so many guys who want me REALLY badly. but i'm so picky and i'm kinda taken aback from him. (this is not to sound snotty at all i'm just confused)

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

As for the politeness police.........too bad, so sad, you don't like plain speak, don't read it. It's your choice.

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Well, if he did, then wouldn't he be just like all those guys who want you really bad? Would you see any value in him, would you respect him more if he were an eager little puppy willing to jump through hoops for you rather than a dominant that sets his own pace and makes up his own mind? You have to decide at some point (mayby now isn't that time): do you want to be on the pedastal worshipped by all these slavering, adoring, BORING guys who do not meet your needs, or do you want to sit quietly and humbly at the feet of someone you really admire and respect and worship and who maybe does give you what you really need? The worship (of you) thing gets very old, very fast. It's always the same, and it's always unsatifying, at least for a submissive. The alternative involves feeling the way you do now (taken aback by the lack of attention at times, even lonely and lost) but it can be a lot more rewarding...if you're deeply submissive.

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As for the politeness police.........too bad, so sad, you don't like plain speak, don't read it. It's your choice.

Politeness Police.....lol   I'm not talking about those that use "plane speak"  Im talking about outright rude, arrogant, pompous, belittleing speak.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
As for the rest, this is a message board.  There are all kinds of different people here with different styles of communication.  The minute someone puts something out there for public opinion, they really are getting exactly what they asked for, even if it wasn't especially what they wanted to hear.

With all due respect LadyPact, the OP asked to be called 'jailbait'?
I agree with CougarStud.  It's the same line trotted out alongside 'well the site is full of sadists - what do you expect!'.
Sadism and putting it in the line of fire is no excuse for people to act like children, when it's supposedly children they are trying to deal with (no offense meant to the OP because I don't see her as a child myself but using the example of how people were thinking).  Do people really think that immaturity teaches anything?  It's laughable.
Stringing people along?  That was what everyone was going to the OP and she unfortunately didn't pick up on it (see Alpha - I am keeping on topic)
And honestly, when this started to kick off, we could make a list of who would respond and how they would respond and we would have been correct.  Fortunately we have a life.

And before anyone says... Condecending?  Damn right.  It's great to be us.</s>

the.dark.

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shouldn't a dom be jumping at my feet if i like him? :/ i have so many guys who want me REALLY badly. but i'm so picky and i'm kinda taken aback from him. (this is not to sound snotty at all i'm just confused)

Well, if he did, then wouldn't he be just like all those guys who want you really bad? Would you see any value in him, would you respect him more if he were an eager little puppy willing to jump through hoops for you rather than a dominant that sets his own pace and makes up his own mind? You have to decide at some point (mayby now isn't that time): do you want to be on the pedastal worshipped by all these slavering, adoring, BORING guys who do not meet your needs, or do you want to sit quietly and humbly at the feet of someone you really admire and respect and worship and who maybe does give you what you really need? The worship (of you) thing gets very old, very fast. It's always the same, and it's always unsatifying, at least for a submissive. The alternative involves feeling the way you do now (taken aback by the lack of attention at times, even lonely and lost) but it can be a lot more rewarding...if you're deeply submissive. And a good dominant will make sure you're not alone for too long. He's keeping in touch with you, isn't he? He hasn't gone completely silent or disappeared from your life. Those are excellent signs that he's still very interested in and serious about you.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
As for the rest, this is a message board.  There are all kinds of different people here with different styles of communication.  The minute someone puts something out there for public opinion, they really are getting exactly what they asked for, even if it wasn't especially what they wanted to hear.

With all due respect LadyPact, the OP asked to be called 'jailbait'?
I agree with CougarStud.  It's the same line trotted out alongside 'well the site is full of sadists - what do you expect!'.
Sadism and putting it in the line of fire is no excuse for people to act like children, when it's supposedly children they are trying to deal with (no offense meant to the OP because I don't see her as a child myself but using the example of how people were thinking).  Do people really think that immaturity teaches anything?  It's laughable.
Stringing people along?  That was what everyone was going to the OP and she unfortunately didn't pick up on it (see Alpha - I am keeping on topic)
And honestly, when this started to kick off, we could make a list of who would respond and how they would respond and we would have been correct.  Fortunately we have a life.

And before anyone says... Condecending?  Damn right.  It's great to be us.</s>

the.dark.

Good Morning the.dark.  My best to Darcy.

Before anything else, I do have to agree.  The new pic is wonderful.  It's a very nice shot. 

I'm not going to own anyone else's words on this thread, such as the jailbait comment.  Just the ones that I've written.  I have no trouble defending those.

It seems to Me that the OP's original question was a combination of would the house really take that much time and attention away from her and/or is it possible this couple isn't being as trustworthy as they should be.  The first half of that is pretty simple.  If it's a major home renovation, it's going to take time and attention to complete.

The other half boils down to will people tell you things that aren't true to keep you interested in them.  Since during the course of the thread the OP herself was exposed as a liar, that was kind of a no brainer, too.  The post was even made from the same account where she falsified her age so she could deceive people into believing she was an adult at a time she really wasn't.

Am I going to feel bad for her when her lack of character is brought to light?  No, I'm not.  I don't expect anybody else to either.  There's no reason the OP couldn't have learned abouit BDSM without involving other people (reading the site without participating, other research on the web, buying a book, etc).  Instead, she proved herself as someone willing to lie to others to justify getting what she wants.

And right there, was the answer to her own question all along.

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ORIGINAL: lilmisssubmiss




Ok,
Now i'm pissed.
Will you shut up already?
YESSSSSSSSSSSSs i lied about my age being ONE YEAR DIFFERENT. so i could use this damn site before i was 'allowed'
i could of easily just deleted this and made a different one.. but no i decided to be truthfull. YESSSSSSSSSSS i am the most untruthful person on this fucking site because i lied about my age once SO YOU GUYS KNOW ME SOOOOO WELL. Shut up already. I get it, I'm the most horrible person who lies lies lies because i lied about my age.



Anyways, back to the subject.
- They will buy me a ticket back home. I'd be coming up friday after classes and come back monday for the first visit. I'd only miss monday which is dueable.
- Jumping at my feet was a term...that he shows he is interested. Just because he is a dom doesn't mean he shouldn't show how interested he is. When I first started talking to them I sensed they were a lot more interested.. that's all i'm saying. And with not talking to her since the revnovation of the house..it's a bit sketchy to me. But, whenever I ask him...I get a " Sweetie don't worry we want to come up you will come up we are just really busy" ...it's like saying, but not doing in the sense... you think he'd talk to me a bit more somehow make some time... well he does a BIT but she doesn't. That has me a little...weary.
- They barely have time to talk to me but he/she has time to check collarme?
Seems to me they are REALLY keeping their basket open, if you know what I mean.
I just have no idea what to do at this point.

I'm thinking with text - let him start the convos. because i am done with getting maybe 1 2 (3 if i'm lucky) replies inbetween i'd say ...6 hours. that doesn't cut it with keeping in touch with me.

PLUS i plainly state in my profile..." if you are too busy to have a relationship it won't work"

because somehow someway when i get bsuy and YES i get BUSYYYYYYY esp being in college and the classes i am taking i somehow , SOMEWAY find the time i need to if something is important to me.