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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 1:32:41 PM   
DrkJourney


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ORIGINAL: lilmisssubmiss

My attitude???
What am i suppose to bend over backwards saying sorry when i'm being attacked???

i do apologize if i put anybody in danger or disrespected anybody...it really was the least of my intentions i had no idea it was such a big deal.

but, i think how you guys are responding to it and attacking me... doesn't make you guys much holier either. i see i made a mistake.. i really can't do much to fix it except learn from it.

so i have to say sorry and move on..



See, maybe if you had said that at first, there would've been no "attacks".  They are up in arms, because when it was pointed out, you shrugged and blew it off and no big deal.  "that's" the problem.

A lot, including me have tried to talk in an advice manner, but even "adult's" have their limits, and when someone is trying to talk sense to you, (you did claim to come here to learn) and all you do is shrug and blast people, we have a tendency to respond in kind.

As far you are not meeting anyone before you were eighteen because you knew of the laws, can't quite buy that one.  If you posted a year ago about the trouble with meeting someone, that pretty much says you had every intention of meeting that person when you were seventeen...forutunately, for you both, you didn't.  For him because he would've been tricked into meeting someone under age, and for you, because with you maturity level, or what I've seen here, I'm not sure you are ready to make such a decision.

You could've been seriously hurt, or worse....watch the news, watch AMW happens all the time

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 1:32:41 PM   
lilmisssubmiss


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Status: offline 		i just don't see how you guys are complaining about me

why not complain about the guys who are wankers? about the people who fake??? rather than some girl who joined a year too early because she wanted to learn more and is now 18... this is soooo stupid LOL. now i'm late to meeting my friend. you guys are full of it.

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 1:33:31 PM   
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Status: offline 		Many did give good answers... they were met with attitude. It was the attitude that bothered me considering she put a lot of people at risk and continued to make light of it.

So anyone with a problem with what I have said, you are more than welcome to address it. On an adult board anywhere you will get almost anything... part of the way it is... we are no more special... however, we are more vulnerable to legal ramifications and a bit of outrage on underage cyber sexual things is a good thing.



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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 1:34:27 PM   
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ORIGINAL: lilmisssubmiss

and to be honest.

with sincere, genuine people ... i really do feel bad. if i put anyone in harms way, like i said it wasn't what i meant to do. i REALLY do feel bad. if i could change it in any way i would...

i was 17 ...confused..and wanted to learn more. i should of waited i see now that would of been my best option...but i didn't take that route.

but you guys being big bullies to me over the net... doesn't exactly make me feel so remourseful in fact it kind of makes me scared that i tell the truth on here in the first if there are such jerks on here.



And I would take the advice of the person (was it N0?) and go see support and try to straighten out your birthday and re-sign (probably delete and fully remake your profile) and try again.

Come clean, come new and come right.

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 1:34:43 PM   
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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 1:35:31 PM   
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ORIGINAL: lilmisssubmiss

i just don't see how you guys are complaining about me

why not complain about the guys who are wankers? about the people who fake??? rather than some girl who joined a year too early because she wanted to learn more and is now 18... this is soooo stupid LOL. now i'm late to meeting my friend. you guys are full of it.


But honey, you are fake, you said it.

Ron

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 1:35:37 PM   
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If I had a dick I would shove it down your throat and call you the bitch that you are.
Lets see your ugly old face, BIG MAN

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 1:36:22 PM   
DrkJourney


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ORIGINAL: Lockit

 DrkJourney!


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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 1:37:03 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		it is on my profile sweetheart. ask around, there are people on this site (who you may respect) that KNOW thats me--- and thats where I live and that is who I AM.

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 1:37:42 PM   
lilmisssubmiss


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DrkJourney

quote:

ORIGINAL: lilmisssubmiss

My attitude???
What am i suppose to bend over backwards saying sorry when i'm being attacked???

i do apologize if i put anybody in danger or disrespected anybody...it really was the least of my intentions i had no idea it was such a big deal.

but, i think how you guys are responding to it and attacking me... doesn't make you guys much holier either. i see i made a mistake.. i really can't do much to fix it except learn from it.

so i have to say sorry and move on..



See, maybe if you had said that at first, there would've been no "attacks".  They are up in arms, because when it was pointed out, you shrugged and blew it off and no big deal.  "that's" the problem.

A lot, including me have tried to talk in an advice manner, but even "adult's" have their limits, and when someone is trying to talk sense to you, (you did claim to come here to learn) and all you do is shrug and blast people, we have a tendency to respond in kind.

As far you are not meeting anyone before you were eighteen because you knew of the laws, can't quite buy that one.  If you posted a year ago about the trouble with meeting someone, that pretty much says you had every intention of meeting that person when you were seventeen...forutunately, for you both, you didn't.  For him because he would've been tricked into meeting someone under age, and for you, because with you maturity level, or what I've seen here, I'm not sure you are ready to make such a decision.

You could've been seriously hurt, or worse....watch the news, watch AMW happens all the time


I thank you for being so nice..but the thing is which i don't agree with...if i said that first these people who are attacking me right now would still be attacking me. it doesn't matter how i feel or what i put down..it's how they are going to react they've made up their mind..being a bully online to an 18 year old girl is just what they want to do.

i don't shrug off people who i deem actually can give me advice.. such as you and how you approached me. but what i do shrug off is being disrespected and  attacked why would i listen to someone who does that to an 18 year old in the first place when they are YEARS upon years older than me? why would i want to listen to one shred of advice they have for me?

and yes i think i got a bit ahead of myself and thank god things didn't go down. i've learned a lot. and i still am and i know i still have a lot of learning to do also.

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 1:38:08 PM   
mnottertail


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DrkJourney

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lockit

 DrkJourney!


Lockit!!!! muah!



Ohhhhhhhhh, baby!!!!

Me

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 1:38:47 PM   
DrkJourney


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ORIGINAL: STLDom48

..and name calling, rudeness, insults and the lack of basic human decency protects you how exactly? I read the entire thread and my opinon stands. If you truly have age of consent issues and concerns, I don't think public ridicule is the most effective way to "protect the site" do you? Well, apparently you do. Like I said - you should all be ashamed of yourselves.


I have nothing to be ashamed of.  I didn't call her any names, nor was I rude or nasty.  She posted for advice and that's what I offered.  If she or anyone else doesn't like it, they are more than welcome to ignore it.

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 1:38:51 PM   
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ORIGINAL: subtlebutterfly

Am I the only one feeling bad for madame 11?

(I'm a suckup I know!!)



Actually, I do.

Now for the fun.......

Anybody want to take a guess at how long it's going to be until certain posters on this thread have the famous awaiting approval sign hanging by their posts.

I'm thinking twenty minutes tops.


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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 1:39:26 PM   
lilmisssubmiss


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ORIGINAL: mnottertail


quote:

ORIGINAL: lilmisssubmiss

and to be honest.

with sincere, genuine people ... i really do feel bad. if i put anyone in harms way, like i said it wasn't what i meant to do. i REALLY do feel bad. if i could change it in any way i would...

i was 17 ...confused..and wanted to learn more. i should of waited i see now that would of been my best option...but i didn't take that route.

but you guys being big bullies to me over the net... doesn't exactly make me feel so remourseful in fact it kind of makes me scared that i tell the truth on here in the first if there are such jerks on here.



And I would take the advice of the person (was it N0?) and go see support and try to straighten out your birthday and re-sign (probably delete and fully remake your profile) and try again.

Come clean, come new and come right.

Ron


and that's the first piece of advice you've said that is actually helpful and not said in an attacking manner.


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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 1:40:38 PM   
lilmisssubmiss


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ORIGINAL: Lockit

Many did give good answers... they were met with attitude. It was the attitude that bothered me considering she put a lot of people at risk and continued to make light of it.

So anyone with a problem with what I have said, you are more than welcome to address it. On an adult board anywhere you will get almost anything... part of the way it is... we are no more special... however, we are more vulnerable to legal ramifications and a bit of outrage on underage cyber sexual things is a good thing.




that's such bullshit they gave me advice with attacking nature.


i don't get all up in arms for no reason.

[rolleyes]




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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 1:43:04 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		no, I am a grouch, not attacking.......you need to get some skin, this is just like anywhere else you are gonna get hard words.......examine the intent and soundness of advice, not what you FEEL asynchronously about the way it is said.

At the end of the day, there is no difference between:
please wipe your ass, honey.
and
wipe your fuckin ass, bitch.

Ron

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 1:44:47 PM   
CarrieO


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quote:

ORIGINAL: lilmisssubmiss

i just don't see how you guys are complaining about me

why not complain about the guys who are wankers?? about the people who fake?? rather than some girl who joined a year too early because she wanted to learn more and is now 18... this is soooo stupid LOL. now i'm late to meeting my friend. you guys are full of it.


Pot meet kettle.

We do complain about wankers and fakes...they seem to be a regular thing on CM.
If you want to learn, go about it in a mature, age-appropriate manner and don't lie and expect people to allow you to say "I'm sorry"...pat you on the head and then justify your choices.  You've had a year (if you are to be believed about your joining date. You have said in the past that you've created fake accounts http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=2250145.) so, what have you learned? 


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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 1:45:52 PM   
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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

it is on my profile sweetheart. ask around, there are people on this site (who you may respect) that KNOW thats me--- and thats where I live and that is who I AM.

Ron Melby


Ron, are there muskie in Ottertail Lake?

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 1:46:36 PM   
mnottertail


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quote:

ORIGINAL: lilmisssubmiss

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lockit

Many did give good answers... they were met with attitude. It was the attitude that bothered me considering she put a lot of people at risk and continued to make light of it.

So anyone with a problem with what I have said, you are more than welcome to address it. On an adult board anywhere you will get almost anything... part of the way it is... we are no more special... however, we are more vulnerable to legal ramifications and a bit of outrage on underage cyber sexual things is a good thing.




that's such bullshit they gave me advice with attacking nature.


i don't get all up in arms for no reason.

[rolleyes]







ok, eyeroller, you come here, not understanding what you should feel regarding someone you talked on the phone to, you made essentially the same post a year ago, and were given the same advice nicely..I read that fucking thread..

And now you are imputing motives of attacking natures to us?

so, how did you become The Amazing Kreskin, between your OP (on this thread) and post 3 or 4?

confused is confused


Ron

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RE: I'm confused - how do you know if someone is just s... - 10/27/2009 1:46:42 PM   
HerLord


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Status: offline 		Yeah... I expect a certain profile to be banned, I expect to see mail in my inbox about being nice. Fuckem. I want a place free of danger to me and mine from those who would damage my freedoms and those freedoms of them around me.

To ALL MINORS, ADMITTED OR NOT

GO THE FUCK AWAY!


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