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Romancing the moan - 10/27/2009 2:53:00 PM   
GYPSYMAMBO


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Status: offline 		I realize this has been undoubtedly asked before BUT..there are new ppl....dif circumstances and  lots of change....
soooooooo
 
Has/is ROMANCE been part of your M-s relationship?
From the beginning?
Unexpectedly?
OR
IS there no place/need/want/desire for romance in your dynamic?

**ROMANCE..feeling in love..falling in love..learning to love..
building love...solidifying love..maintaining love..courting..
coupleness...sensuality..sexuality...dating..**etc

GM

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RE: Romancing the moan - 10/27/2009 2:54:17 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Romantic love?  No.

Love of another type?  Yes.

Did it start out that way?  No.


ETA  The answers above reflect My current dynamic.


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RE: Romancing the moan - 10/27/2009 2:54:27 PM   
Venatrix


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quote:

ORIGINAL: GYPSYMAMBO

Has/is ROMANCE been part of your M-s relationship?
From the beginning?
Unexpectedly?



Yes, to all three questions, and what a lovely surprise it is.

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RE: Romancing the moan - 10/27/2009 3:00:15 PM   
kccuckoldmist


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Status: offline 		Romantic love is the only way I go. I have a dominant personality and a power exchange dynamic works best in my relationship and that is why I am in this life. Way back when I casually would play or casually was with a submissive man I really did not ever get much from it.

Being my slave means that I love you and I am a one slave woman.


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RE: Romancing the moan - 10/27/2009 3:01:49 PM   
firmlove


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Status: offline 		I think is should be a part of any sexual relationship

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RE: Romancing the moan - 10/27/2009 3:20:09 PM   
aidan


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Status: offline 		Romance and romantic love are integral to the relationship Mistress and i have. I couldn't be slave to woman I was not deeply in love with and who didn't reciprocate that feeling.

I've never loved another person or really any other thing in the world as much or in the same way as I love Her.


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RE: Romancing the moan - 10/27/2009 3:23:29 PM   
IBused


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Status: offline 		define LOVE...?
Big Love was a cool series and Big girls are easy to Love. So, yes...no...maybe.

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RE: Romancing the moan - 10/27/2009 4:13:21 PM   
DrkJourney


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Status: offline 		Romance and love definitely a part of what I do.  It is a requirement.

however, having said that, when I met mine, I was so fed up with the ones I had been meeting, I was just looking for someone to click with that I could train, and totally gave up on romance, love, etc.

So it was a nice suprise when he was romantic any way, an even nicer suprise when we fell in love, and even bigger when he asked me to marry him

ok, lost my train of thought..lol

I feel the romance in the way he submits to me, so I think it's part of all dynamics here...and I'm loving it!

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RE: Romancing the moan - 10/27/2009 6:22:33 PM   
sweetsub1957


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quote:

ORIGINAL: GYPSYMAMBO


Has/is ROMANCE been part of your M-s relationship?
From the beginning?
Unexpectedly?
OR
IS there no place/need/want/desire for romance in your dynamic?


Yes!!  It was always a part of our relationship from the very beginning.  I would not have a relationship without it, it's a necessity for me.  This answer reflects the relationship Sir & I had, and I will need love & romance in any dynamic I enter into with Someone.  I want and need the whole package.....love, romance, and D/s. 

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RE: Romancing the moan - 10/27/2009 7:20:44 PM   
SnowRanger


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Status: offline 		Hello GM,

I have had romance, as you define, it in a D/s relationship in the past.  I feel that it added a great deal to the whole experience.  I want to adore my Mistress!  I want to rub her neck/shoulders/back/feet for hours and not even notice (or if I do notice... glory in the discomfort I endure for my beloved).  I want to rub the underside of my tongue raw on my lower teeth because I am so focused on giving her pleasure.    I want to wake up to find my Mistress beside me... Her head on my shoulder...  Her arm across my chest...  Her legs entwined in mine... And feel the sublime satisfaction that my ardore is reciprocated... Even if it is just a bit....

I have had D/s relationships with and with-out,
I ache for "with."

Respectfully
Mike
SnowRanger


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RE: Romancing the moan - 10/27/2009 7:43:17 PM   
Venatrix


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Status: offline 		Hey, wait a minute, Gypsy.  Does this mean you have something to tell us?

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RE: Romancing the moan - 10/28/2009 8:04:44 AM   
frankieboy52


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Status: offline 		Well i can only say that i was in love with a certain Mistress and it took a long time to develop that love for her,but,she wouldn't accept it whatsoever so she removed her collar from me and ran for the hills.Now she liked me a whole hjelluva lot but love could never be uttered.I feel that was unfair but it taught me a valuable lesson.So i gag myself now both in mind and speech so i will never again say it to anyone..even if i feel it.That may be non-sublike but i don't want to get hurt again.

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RE: Romancing the moan - 10/28/2009 9:35:08 AM   
Drifa


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From: Rural Texas
Status: offline 		I would expect that you will find about as many answers as there are relationships out there. Every relationship is its own thing, and they all develop so differently. In my relationship (15 years, now) my Lady and I started as purely sex and kink play, then developed a sincere friendship, which deepened into romantic love. Once we reached that point, I was where I could commit to her long term and we began the TPE part of our relationship. I'm not sure if I could go into power exchange without the trust and love being present. I know some people do.

Back in the hazy mists of long ago when I was single, I know I had to watch myself in the early stages of either dating or sexual play to make sure I didn't do that heads-over-heels thing I think some people refer to as "sub frenzy". New relationships and new sexual partners bring with them a whole lot of excitement at a deep hormonal level, and I didn't want to let my gonads lead me into romantic entanglements.

One of the things I like about the way my relationship has evolved is that I can experience some of that "new dementia" via online chat-based sexual play/cyborz. My Lady likes that and encourages it, because I can have fun with it, then we get the delightful part of my coming to her "confess" how naughty I have been, which can lead to an intense scene or just plain hot sweaty sex. She likes it because it gets me all revved up, and depending on how she feels and what she wants, she will choose what to do with that roaring fire I have going... or she may decide to NOT let me have the play or scene or orgasm, and send me back to my online playmate, enjoying watching as I get wound up tighter and tighter until she chooses to do something with all that energy.

I've watched friends, both vanilla and kinky, fall into love hard, then fall out even harder. I've done it a time or two. I like the way in my relationship that we've worked out a way to allow some of the "shiny new" excitement to stay in and deepen the LTR and commitment between us.

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RE: Romancing the moan - 10/28/2009 10:09:26 AM   
porcelaine


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quote:

ORIGINAL: GYPSYMAMBO

I realize this has been undoubtedly asked before BUT..there are new ppl....dif circumstances and  lots of change....
soooooooo
 
Has/is ROMANCE been part of your M-s relationship?
From the beginning?
Unexpectedly?
OR
IS there no place/need/want/desire for romance in your dynamic?


i will never serve a Man i don't have the capacity to love. if the emotional is not present or has the ability to develop, i won't proceed. while it is easy in some respects to develop a mental connection, i've noticed i don't connect in the same manner with dominant men emotionally. touching my heart is much harder and it is a rarity in all honesty. nonetheless i want a balanced relationship that includes love. i consider it both a necessity and the icing on the cake as well.

porcelaine


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RE: Romancing the moan - 10/28/2009 10:49:17 AM   
DVsFox


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Status: offline 		Romance has always been a part of our M/s relationship, from the very beginning.  It makes us both very happy.

DV's Fox

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RE: Romancing the moan - 10/29/2009 12:13:24 AM   
ShaktiSama


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Status: offline 		Not all my D/S relationships have had a romantic element, but the ones that make me happiest do.

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RE: Romancing the moan - 10/29/2009 3:36:37 PM   
IBused


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Status: offline 		Dogs drool and cats are cool.....men beg, for romance as well as ass whupins.

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RE: Romancing the moan - 10/29/2009 9:58:34 PM   
undergroundsea


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From: Austin, TX
Status: offline 		I have had some dynamics that were not romantic. However, I am drawn most to those that do include a romantic component. By romantic component I mean the relationship is each a romantic relationship and a BDSM relationship. Within the non-romantic ones there is a spectrum of possibilities with respect to how formal and power distant the dynamic is and how much it includes a social, emotional component. Even in non-romantic dynamics, I have almost always had a social, emotional component. By a social and emotional component I mean there is humor and mutual fondness versus a power distance that creates a social distance.

Cheers,

Sea

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RE: Romancing the moan - 10/30/2009 12:08:07 AM   
leadership527


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Status: offline 		Well, I was married first, then happened into this whole D/s thing. So yeah, it was romance first. But even so, if I were to contemplate starting a new D/s relationship, it would not be D/s based. It would be love based. I really cannot imagine having someone around me all the time and sharing my bed that I did not love. I cannot imagine why I'd go to all the bother of mastering someone if I didn't love her.

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RE: Romancing the moan - 10/31/2009 11:28:39 AM   
Wheldrake


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ORIGINAL: leadership527

Well, I was married first, then happened into this whole D/s thing. So yeah, it was romance first.


I've had a similar experience from the other side of the kneel. Mistress and I aren't married, but we were lovers for a long time before I became her slave. For me the romantic element isn't essential, and sometimes I actually think our relationship would be simpler and easier without it - with the caveat, of course, that simpler and easier does not necessarily mean better.

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