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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 10/30/2009 7:16:27 AM

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ORIGINAL: monaslave

When we were supposed to meet he canceled eight times, the reasons were sickness where I can at least confirm two cases, and the other times he "got into bad mood" because of some incident,or,slightly misunderstandings between us.

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I'd have dropped him like a hot potato, after the second straight cancel. He's just not that into you.

I'd have dropped him right then, as soon as he told me he was cancelling because he "got into a bad mood".

Self-esteem. Get some.

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 10/30/2009 7:23:50 AM

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Okay, I'm going to focus on something no one else seems to have mentioned yet:

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ORIGINAL: monaslave

He seemed serious,to me. He has told me all times how much he wants me.
Hes asked me if I want him even though we havent met,so I said to him you dont know until you have met. So I didnt wanted to answer that. I asked why he asked,then he said for security. many times I thought he really liked me.

There's nothing wrong with seeking some security and making sure that the other person is really, seriously interested. But added to everything else you describe, this strikes me as icing on the cake that this guy, no matter how serious he is in his fantasy world, is incapable of being the person he claims or wants to be irl.

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 10/30/2009 8:15:05 AM

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monaslave,

Are you so insecure in yourself, and so desperate for a reltionship, ANY relationship, that you are willing and almost eager to be treated like dirt in order to be able to say you have one, even if its nearly non existant?

If you are that insecure, the you need toi work on yourself before expecting to pledge yourself to anyone. Even the best in the world will get tired, sooner or later, of dealing with a whiny, insecure submissive.

If you are actually secure in yourself as a person, then you wouln't hav this much troubl recognizing that He is even more insecure than you a re, and if the rela tionship ever did materialize, it would end up being the relationship from hell, and you would run s fast as you can in the opposite direction.

I wish you well in finding a relationsdhip that will be nourishing to you and your Dom/me

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 10/30/2009 8:35:10 AM

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ORIGINAL: monaslave

I could not see any marriage signs anywhere.

bi-polar? and how are they?

it might sound crazy but he really have an ability to talk for himself, and I tend to give ppl the bennefit of doubt,
especially if we have much in common. and no hes never been allowed dominate me,hes asked me several times,
if I want him as my DOM but I said I cant know that before we meet and later more than that.
(in the beginning he wondered why he only met 20 years old subs,and nobody elder,and I also questioned that,
but again,bennefit of doubts.. and 20 years old can be just as good enough so didnt really thought about it)
I am BAD at seeing SIGNS, my senses are blurred because of past abuse.
I AM over the abuse but Ive always been blurred about right that spot.
but Im also the type to give bennefit of doubt. and too nice. and also hes been pulling me around most of the times,
he sounded quite normal! this comes as a surprise. its obvious,he couldnt handle my emotions,for some reason. but what reason?

No, you aren't over the abuse.
If it is interfering with your ability to make good choices, then you are not over it and should seek counseling.

For him to handle your emotions he would have to care about them first, and it seems rather obvious that he does not.

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 10/30/2009 11:11:26 AM

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Just my opinions....

OP: you're not being "nice" - you're being a doormat. (Doormat being the nicest word I could use here)

Bipolar: look it up and study it. Very difficult to deal with. I've done it. Its not impossible, but both people need to be on the same page...you two are not.

Marriage signs: can't talk cause my nephews are over = can't talk cause my wife is home
Can't meet cause some incident made me upset = wife was supposed to work OT but didn't so I have to be home for dinner

I was in this position once. I met someone as a penpal through a friend. I fell in love.
He lied about his age. I forgave him.
He lied about his nationality. I forgave him.
He lied about having a job. I forgave him.
He cheated, he stole from his jobs at least twice. He landed in jail and was abusivve to me and our children. I forgave him.
I spent 10 years living in chaos with a man who constantly lied. I finally left him. When I had him removed from my home with a restraining order (yes it required one) he stalked me for months.
I am not proud of my own naivete, I so wanted to believe he could stop lying. But maybe it can help you now...I think I am being too hopeful in that though.

Not happy I had to remember this part of the past but hoping it knocks some sense into someone!

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 10/30/2009 3:22:40 PM

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"Do you think he is serious?"

Do you? Yes or no.

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 10/30/2009 5:00:19 PM

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

guess I shoulda known by the way your parked your car outside; (8 times)
and waved, that it wouldn't last;
'cause he's the kinda person;
who believes in making out once; (or never)
love 'em and leave 'em fast...............

I cannot make the sign of the prince

That's not a problem, since he changed his name back to Prince a couple of years ago.

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 10/30/2009 6:38:54 PM

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Just decide right now that you are a bigger and better person and that you will always come first and that he is NOT worth your time or energy.

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 10/30/2009 7:07:23 PM

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monaslave, I'm going through the same thing right now.
Wouldn't it be hilarity if it was the same guy! If so, let's gang up on him. Lol.

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 10/31/2009 2:43:08 AM

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Sounds like he wants to meet you but doesn't want to be known as the liar he is, probably not the person you are expecting. Alot of people put up lies on here, alot of fakes. You've been faked out, and should admit to yourself he isn't what he claims to be.....

Maybe he is a woman. ;0

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 10/31/2009 5:18:56 AM

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ORIGINAL: vicioustoy

monaslave, I'm going through the same thing right now.
Wouldn't it be hilarity if it was the same guy! If so, let's gang up on him. Lol.

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 10/31/2009 5:25:55 AM

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and have you ever met a Dominant in rl before? if not this would explain why your holding on. He's possibly said a few things that have captured your imagination and made you get that nice tingly feeling. The reason many Dominants go for new people is because they are much easier to captivate than those who have been at it for some time. This sort of guy wouldn't stand a chance with an experienced submissive who has toughened up to all the bollocks.

I also wonder why you put this post up because it seems your disappointed when people point out that the guys a jerk. To be honest your a jerks dream come true!

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 10/31/2009 11:33:16 AM

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I'd say that this person is full of shit... but then again I really don't trust people so much and I think nearly everyone is full of shit.

(The damn shame of it is I'm almost always right.)

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 10/31/2009 12:54:43 PM

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Is it expensive to feed that ego?

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 10/31/2009 1:58:48 PM

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Hindu proverb: "True nobility lies not in being superior to another man, but in being superior to ones previous self."

crap, I'm backsliding. I was much cooler when I wrote this profile many a year ago. ;/

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 10/31/2009 2:10:37 PM

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You can ask all the questions you like here and listen or not to the replies, but the only thing that really matters is what YOU think about it. Only you can decide in the end!

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 10/31/2009 3:16:33 PM

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I want an update. ^_^

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 10/31/2009 3:38:34 PM

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ORIGINAL: vicioustoy

I want an update. ^_^

yeah me too!

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 10/31/2009 11:01:02 PM

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I agree...update time Mona. It's Halloween - did he come? Did he bring the drinks? If he didn't come are you going to continue waiting for him? Inquiring minds wanna know...

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RE: Do you think hes serious? - 11/1/2009 12:06:41 AM

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Mm, I met a guy who told me his wife had died from a brain tumour. He also had three kids and his mother in law lived with him to help out with them. I know, I was stupid, I was 18 and he was very convincing. Suffice to say, his wife was well and truly alive, they had SIX kids and I found this out through a girl I worked with whose mother knew the WIFE.

Red flags all the way and I ignored them. Don't continue being a sucker.

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