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The cillydom turns traitorous dog - 3/8/2006 9:12:12 AM   
cillydom


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Status: offline 		The cillydom is new to collarme and when h first came on he was like a kid in a candy store with a hand full of money, looking at first one subbie profile then another, one after another. In fact he spent a lot of valuable cillydom time just drooling.

He took note of the ranting and raving and nashing of subbie teeth. It wasn’t till he perused some “dom” profiles did he understand. Shaking his head he thought “sad, really sad”. So he sat and pondered and pondered till his head hurt. Then it hit him, making his head hurt even more. The subbies are partly responsible for their own plight. The more the ranted the more amunition they gave those twisted sick pervs, making it difficult to sort out the twisted sick pervs they would be interested in. The cillydom was contacted by one subbie to see if there was any common interest to be pursued. There wasn’t and it ended civilly between cillydom and the subbie. The cillydom wishes her all the best. A few days later the cillydom spied a “dom” profile that fit like a glove what she said in her profile and as it was highly specific the cillydom thought (making his head hurt some more) this couldn’t be by chance. Ane realized that maybe the subbies shouldn’t be so detailed in saying what they want, there must be “doms” out there making camouflage suites out of what they read in subbie profiles. Maybe the subbies should be less specific and more proactive in finding the twisted sick perv that is just right for them. After observing a few “dom” profiles the cillydom realized that 75% could be eliminated out of hand. By now the cillydom was writhing in pain. Well this is just something for the subbies to think about, which they seem able to do without painful side effects.

Now the cillydom may have to go into the subbie, “dom protection program”.
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RE: The cillydom turns traitorous dog - 3/8/2006 9:20:42 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		I'm trying really hard to ignore your constant use of the s-word in this...

I think there's nothing wrong with having a definite ideal of what you want. I think it's very important in fact to understand what things you simply cannot break or bend on.

As long as people keep a reasonable amount of leeway and a rational perspective on ideal versus reality. I've never once actually been with a person who is my "ideal" and yet I am in wonderful relationships that I never could have even imagined a few years ago.

I think when people are new, they very easily fall into the trap of having lists. They are overwhelmed and they want simple review and check guides rather than just taking it slow and figuring out it's just a process of getting to know people and finding what works for you.

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RE: The cillydom turns traitorous dog - 3/8/2006 9:37:16 AM   
BitaTruble


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Status: offline 		This was just a bit too Cilly for me.

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RE: The cillydom turns traitorous dog - 3/8/2006 9:45:19 AM   
cillydom


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RE: The cillydom turns traitorous dog - 3/8/2006 9:49:42 AM   
Dom4me2


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Status: offline 		I am sorry but I am having difficulty even understanding what it is You are trying to say with this post.

*scratches head and goes back to read post for the third time*

Kathleen

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RE: The cillydom turns traitorous dog - 3/8/2006 9:53:40 AM   
Elegant


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Status: offline 		Let me see if I can decipher this cilliness.

S-type people ('subbies'..the word makes me cringe) are being too specific of their wants and needs in their profiles. This enables D-types (why not say 'dommies'?) to customize their own profiles to match the wants of specific S-types.

How is my translation?

Perhaps D-types are doing this also?

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RE: The cillydom turns traitorous dog - 3/8/2006 9:56:06 AM   
SimplyV


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Dom4me2

I am sorry but I am having difficulty even understanding what it is You are trying to say with this post.

*scratches head and goes back to read post for the third time*

Kathleen


Yep.. me too.. When you figure it out.. can you post it?

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ORIGINAL: cillydom
By now the cillydom was writhing in pain


After reading it twice and still no idea what your getting at.. so am I.. so am I

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RE: The cillydom turns traitorous dog - 3/8/2006 10:02:04 AM   
BitaTruble


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quote:

why?


Third person speech is hard to comprehend even when it's done correctly and after your thoughtful and well written posts on the other thread, I must say I was a bit disappointed with the silly rant. Also, much like LA, I have a pet peeve about the use of the word 'subbie'.

Let me put it this way. If I were looking for a Master, and this is the post that I viewed from the other side, I'd move on, rather quickly, thinking "here is a man who does not take seriously what I love so well."

So, for me, it is just a bit to silly and I wouldn't be impressed enough to want to read more. It's probably good this wasn't your first post to the forums if you want to continue to be read, which I assume you do, since you continue to write.

The post, written as food for thought, seems like it was written by someone who's had too much ice cream. Full of empty calories and not a whole lot of substance. Anytime someone tries to tell others how to fill out profiles, such admonition will, generally, fall on deaf ears. Within the silly framework, I believe there will be little to no effect for those who even understand it.

Celeste





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RE: The cillydom turns traitorous dog - 3/8/2006 10:20:08 AM   
Dom4me2


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ORIGINAL: Elegant

Let me see if I can decipher this cilliness.

S-type people ('subbies'..the word makes me cringe) are being too specific of their wants and needs in their profiles. This enables D-types (why not say 'dommies'?) to customize their own profiles to match the wants of specific S-types.

How is my translation?

Perhaps D-types are doing this also?


If I go on the assumption (which I know is not generally a good idea, but am feeling a bit brazen today) that the deciphering is correct then I have this to say…

IF the D-types are customizing their profiles with the sole purpose of ensnaring a certain S-type, would it not become clear at some point that this D-type had done just that? That he was not the type of person claimed to be?

Kathleen

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RE: The cillydom turns traitorous dog - 3/8/2006 10:40:24 AM   
MistressOfGa


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Status: offline 		cillydom,
Your post is one of the silliest I think I have ever read. Talking in the third person format as if you are a child. Talking about your physical pain over reading profiles. Is this a serious post? I understand, somewhat, why slaves talk in the third person, but to read a Dominant's post, talking in the third person format is just a bit to much. I have my doubts as to who actually wrote your last post. You seem like a completely different person now. As to your actual post, what do you care how Dominants fill in their profile? How does it effect YOU? I cant possibly take this post or you seriously.

Oh and welcome to the boards.

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RE: The cillydom turns traitorous dog - 3/8/2006 10:43:44 AM   
cillydom


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Status: offline 		What im trying to say is that when detailed instructions are given out about what is and is not wanted, you’ll waste a lot of time wading through the rejects.

If your less detailed, those that would be suitable will be able to read between the lines and the others will be less likely to mirror back to you what they think you want to hear.

A thoughtful dominant has a pretty good idea of what your all about.

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RE: The cillydom turns traitorous dog - 3/8/2006 10:50:18 AM   
cillydom


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Status: offline 		What im trying to say is that when detailed instructions are given out about what is and is not wanted, you’ll waste a lot of time wading through the rejects.

If your less detailed, those that would be suitable will be able to read between the lines and the others will be less likely to mirror back to you what they think you want to hear.

A thoughtful dominant has a pretty good idea of what your all about.

I didn’t know that dominants were locked in certain behavioral patterns.

And it wasn’t the dom posts I was referring to, it was the “submissives” post I was talking about. And how they are so detailed that anyone could tailor a response. As I said, I have a pretty good idea about they are seeking. And I don’t tailor my responces to suit the “submissive” but that’s just me. Milage may vary.

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RE: The cillydom turns traitorous dog - 3/8/2006 11:03:41 AM   
angelic


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Status: offline 		Personally i would prefer to read a very specific profile than a broad sweeping one.
my profile is very specific on very specific things... things that i will not/cannot budge on. For instance i will not do long distance, because i cannot. It's non-negotiable for me at this moment in my life. Anyway, for me, the more specific, the better. That way not as many false starts.

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RE: The cillydom turns traitorous dog - 3/8/2006 11:08:44 AM   
cillydom


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Status: offline 		this was just a personal observation and not men to be gospel.

And I still think it applies to some women who are getting unwanted attention.

I do enjoy the discussion and differing opinions.

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RE: The cillydom turns traitorous dog - 3/8/2006 11:13:20 AM   
valeca


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Status: offline 		So, you're saying a submissive should be less specific in her profile about what she's looking for, and that the ones who would, indeed, suit her, will be able to read between the lines enough to get a good idea of what it is she wants?

Scenario 1
Submissive Profile A: I would like XYZ in my future.
Dominant Reading: I like X, but Y and Z aren't what I'm looking for. Next Profile.

Scenario 2
Submissive Profile B: I've been active for 8 years, I live in ____. I like a Stong Man to keep me in my place.
Dominant Reading: Interesting, I'll write.

...2 weeks later submissive confides that she'd like to see XYZ in her future. Dominant likes X, but Y and Z aren't for Him.

Two weeks invested with the same result.

I suppose it would work for some, but I'd personally rather not have invested the two weeks to get the same answer I could have gotten in fifteen seconds.



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RE: The cillydom turns traitorous dog - 3/8/2006 11:17:24 AM   
MHOO314


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Status: offline 		good gawd--I can't agree more---

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RE: The cillydom turns traitorous dog - 3/8/2006 11:18:27 AM   
cillydom


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Status: offline 		I wasn’t referring to worthwhile dominants I was referring to those looking for a cheap thrill and women complaining about the deluge of emails.

And yes it takes time.

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RE: The cillydom turns traitorous dog - 3/8/2006 11:19:59 AM   
cillydom


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Status: offline 		agree with what?

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RE: The cillydom turns traitorous dog - 3/8/2006 11:27:48 AM   
valeca


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ORIGINAL: cillydom

I wasn’t referring to worthwhile dominants I was referring to those looking for a cheap thrill and women complaining about the deluge of emails.

And yes it takes time.


See how important clarity is? You missed it with that first post.


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RE: The cillydom turns traitorous dog - 3/8/2006 11:27:59 AM   
SimplyV


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ORIGINAL: cillydom

What im trying to say is that when detailed instructions are given out about what is and is not wanted, you’ll waste a lot of time wading through the rejects.

If your less detailed, those that would be suitable will be able to read between the lines and the others will be less likely to mirror back to you what they think you want to hear.

A thoughtful dominant has a pretty good idea of what your all about.

I didn’t know that dominants were locked in certain behavioral patterns.

And it wasn’t the dom posts I was referring to, it was the “submissives” post I was talking about. And how they are so detailed that anyone could tailor a response. As I said, I have a pretty good idea about they are seeking. And I don’t tailor my responces to suit the “submissive” but that’s just me. Milage may vary.


OOOOOOH.. why didn't you say so in the first place?

As for your theory here.. it works both ways as suggested by Valeca. Either its so detailed and gets only replies from those who would seriously fit that sub or "fakers" who are just out to ensare that sub. Or its so vague, that it takes days/weeks to figure out you're not a good fit.

"Fakers" aren't that hard to find out anyway. Just talk to them long enough, they'll start to smell.

I'm one for a bit more detailed profile when seeking. Maybe not the laundry list of "Do nots" or "Wants".. but a good suggestion of what that particular person wants out of the relationship and how "hardcore" they want to get. Aka.. do they want their balls actually nailed to the wall or is proverbally ok.

V

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