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Face slapping - 3/8/2006 11:34:43 AM   
MHOO314


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Status: offline 		Ok I researched this and all I found was a wanker thread and mentions of it as an aside in other threads--so

I adress this to Mistress' more than Masters, though everyone is open to respond but I noticed the female subs for the most part did not like this in their world--( and lets not go the abuse route, ok?)--but I am curious Mistress' how many of you incorporate this, to what extent, how did you get started, what does it do for your submissive? And any times it went wrong?

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RE: Face slapping - 3/8/2006 11:42:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		I slap Fox when I feel the need to just express a bit of sadism in a quick fashion OR when I want us to feel that high level of trust for a brief second.

It took time to work up to and he's only responded once badly and that was years ago -- he started to cry and asked if I was angry at him.

I slap him with one hand craddling the opposite cheek to make sure I don't damage his neck or his muscles. I'm careful where I aim.

Its not just something we do in private either and this is a sample of the double standard in our society. I, as a woman, can slap a man in public and most will either ignore it or nod or laugh. If I slapped a woman or if I were male, I'm betting I'd get a different reaction. He's even begged me to slap him in public to show off the relationship (I guess).

It does turn me on but not in a direct sexual way. Its more a sense of trust and power that turns me on.

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RE: Face slapping - 3/8/2006 11:46:57 AM   
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Status: offline 		Face slapping is one of those things where a sub hopes the Domme really knows what She is doing, as it can have medically damaging effects. lucky thinks this is one of those things where a Domme new to this would benefit from mentoring from a Domme who is experienced and knowledgable. That said, lucky agrees it can be an intense way to clarify roles in a D/s relationship, for sure!

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RE: Face slapping - 3/8/2006 11:52:12 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MHOO314

Ok I researched this and all I found was a wanker thread and mentions of it as an aside in other threads--so

I adress this to Mistress' more than Masters, though everyone is open to respond but I noticed the female subs for the most part did not like this in their world--( and lets not go the abuse route, ok?)--but I am curious Mistress' how many of you incorporate this, to what extent, how did you get started, what does it do for your submissive? And any times it went wrong?


i'm not a Mistress and in fact have never posted on this part of the board before. However, this question is of interest to me. i LOVED being faceslapped... 99% of the time it wasn't done in anger... just sort of an attention-getter (boy howdy did it ever get my attention). He was the quickest son of a gun... lol never did learn how to 'see it coming'. The one time it 'went wrong' from a slave's perspective was when i had just had dental work... he knew it and slapped me fairly hard on the same side of my face.

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RE: Face slapping - 3/8/2006 11:54:15 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MHOO314

Ok I researched this and all I found was a wanker thread and mentions of it as an aside in other threads--so

I adress this to Mistress' more than Masters, though everyone is open to respond but I noticed the female subs for the most part did not like this in their world--( and lets not go the abuse route, ok?)--but I am curious Mistress' how many of you incorporate this, to what extent, how did you get started, what does it do for your submissive? And any times it went wrong?



I use face slapping in a number of ways. It's humiliating, and it definitely gets their attention. It's been incredibly effective to put them in a wonderfully submissive headspace, I've also used it in interrogation and cuckolding. On their knees in front of me puts them at a perfect level to give them a really good slap. If their knees aren't well placed they will be knocked over by a good hard slap, even more humiliating.

The only time it's gone wrong, was when a sub that bruised easily wore my handprint in a beautiful black and blue for about a day too long and had to cover it with makeup to go to work. But that actually turned out to be a good thing, lasting effects of humiliation and all.


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RE: Face slapping - 3/8/2006 11:57:18 AM   
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Status: offline 		MHOOO,

Interesting...I use it rarely...when I do there is not any question that the recipent has messed up. When I used it on my last boy (sadly have none now :(
he responded by falling to his knees and placing his forhead on my feet. A lovely move, which also momentarily gave me the opportunity to consider my next one.

I am curious to see if anyone uses is on a frequent basis.

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RE: Face slapping - 3/8/2006 12:55:13 PM   
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Status: offline 		Face slapping absolutely rocks from my perspective. It's a very intimate thing to do between people and I enjoy it with Sir.

I wonder sometimes if submissives simply say they don't like something because they are afraid of it and haven't tried it, or if there's been any empirical research done to come to some of these conclusions.

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RE: Face slapping - 3/8/2006 2:19:06 PM   
Beatmehrdr


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Status: offline 		I looooooove being slapped, however, it can be very dangerous. If you slap with the heel of your hand rather than with your fingertips, it will feel more like a punch than a slap. Hard slaps can also do serious and permanent damage, such as detached retinas, etc. Finally, a slap that hits the ear is also a very nasty thing as well. For humiliation play and for that entry into subspace, though, IMHO, faceslapping can't be beat.

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RE: Face slapping - 3/8/2006 2:32:16 PM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		Well i am the other side of the coin and i HATE being slapped on the face. Want to hit my ass or breasts i don't necessarly like it but would choose it before my face.

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RE: Face slapping - 3/8/2006 4:26:35 PM   
LadyJulieAnn


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Status: offline 		I enjoy faceslapping my sub combined with some verbal humiliation. I don't go overboard with it, but enjoy it intermittently throughout a scene. As far as safety, I once was off on my aim and hit him more over his ear than his cheek, which was not pleasurable and could have caused damage to his ear, so being precise with your slap is important.

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RE: Face slapping - 3/8/2006 4:26:54 PM   
MistressOfGa


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My pup doesnt like it, but I did have a submissive a couple of years ago who loved it. He liked it when least expected. I would just come up to him and slap his face hard. It was like a trigger for him, he would automatically drop to his knees at my feet. I agree with thetammyjo, it wasnt a sexual turn on for me, but one of power. The rush of knowing I could slap him at any time, and he would enjoy it.

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RE: Face slapping - 3/8/2006 4:46:23 PM   
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Well I used face slapping for the first time today and wow it took my sub by suprise but he was even more submissive afterwards - so yes I will use it in future for punishment

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RE: Face slapping - 3/8/2006 5:22:54 PM   
openmindedslave


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Status: offline 		Slapping of any kind, when your not prepared for it , can be an awesome shock to a slave. It reminds them that there can be surprises all around them and not to take anything or specially anyone for granted...

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RE: Face slapping - 3/8/2006 5:59:42 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well shoot...I was going to reply, but thought that I would just say

YUMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMy instead

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RE: Face slapping - 3/8/2006 6:01:33 PM   
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Slapping of any kind, when your not prepared for it , can be an awesome shock to a slave. It reminds them that there can be surprises all around them and not to take anything or specially anyone for granted...


that is exactly what would happen to me... he and i would be having a conversation... just a normal every day sort of conversation... then BOOM... honestly the only really bad thing (let me reiterate here i LOVED it because it reminded me of who i was)... it started happening so much i started to cower when he even moved his hand.. and i don't cower easily LOL

as a side note... completely different from when he was beating me...

i guess my opinion is some REALLY like it... some don't...

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RE: Face slapping - 3/8/2006 9:29:13 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have a fondness for face slapping.... doing it, that is. I was hesitant in trying it in My beginning stages, yet really wanted to... then one day, to My surprise, and to the shock of My first submissive, I slapped him a good one on the cheek. His look of shock... and almost sadness, as he looked down in a most submissive way was enough to thrill Me all the more.

I find face slapping a good way to get him to focus, or to encourage him to do things he is having difficulty in doing. If used too regularly, I think face slapping will lose some of its effectiveness... so I use it sparingly, but often enough... and just the fact that a wicked face slapping is possible at any time, any place without notice is an effective tool for any Mistress to have.

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RE: Face slapping - 3/8/2006 9:39:11 PM   
HisGirl8


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Status: offline 		Well I can say that I like being slapped in the face. He doesn't do it too often but I know how much he enjoys it. The whole trust thing and bonding that comes from it... intense. It makes me "softer".

But it did go bad one time. We had some general rough sex, nothing too crazy, but he slapped me around a bit before- I was so hot and the whole thing was amazing... until the next day when I realized I had this fairly small bruise on my left eyelid. Visible marks are not something we do that can't be covered up due to my job. I had some explaining to do but worked out a little lie- I hate lying about anything. Other than that- bring it on...

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RE: Face slapping - 3/8/2006 9:59:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		I appologize for answering from teh s-type side, but I think it feeds into the spirit of the question.

I 'like' being slapped in that it gets my attention really fast.

For me, slapping tends to be...more drawn out. He makes me look at him, tells me to take off my glasses, -then- hits me. It's a quick "you are gettting out of line, girl." I find that the prep actually makes it -more- effective than just a casual slap would.

If we're in the middle of something hot and heavy though (and the glasses are off) a casual slap is an incredibly turn on.

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RE: Face slapping - 3/8/2006 10:48:21 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well, since you said everyone is open to respond.....

i write stories for him. i incorporated slapping into a story and he noticed how i responded in the story. So he incorporated it into his next use of me, and greatly enjoyed my reaction. Sometimes i don't see it coming. Sometimes he holds his hand up and lingers it and i don't know when it's coming down. Sometimes it's just one or two slaps...sometimes...well...a lot more. It makes me feel my place. When it is used for punishment, i feel horrible.

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RE: Face slapping - 3/8/2006 11:40:09 PM   
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Status: offline 		Even if it wasn't a hard medical limit for me to engage, I would be too concerned about breaking a nail to actually slap someone in the face. ;)

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