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lookingforsame -> RE: He says one thing but does another. (10/31/2009 9:11:20 PM)
Sorry this is happening to you. The signs are all there....another Fake Dom!! Move on honey there are some real ones out there, but far and few between. Good luck to you in the future........looking

tsatske -> RE: He says one thing but does another. (10/31/2009 9:18:06 PM)
vicioustoy, when caught between doubt and not being sure it's time to give up, try mirroring. Write him when he writes you. Call him when he calls you. message back when he messages you. be the first to say goodbye on the phone. when writing and messaging back, try to keep your message length simular to his. One couple I did this with, a few years ago, said they wanted to begin negotation of me moving in. They said they wanted me to call everynight. yet, i started feeling that they just weren't as in to me as they claimed. So, i didn't call one night - and never heard from them again. not even an email to see if i had dropped off the face of the earth because of a hospitalization, ect. try it. it is an interesting technique, and you can learn a lot.

SaharahEve -> RE: He says one thing but does another. (11/1/2009 7:17:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: vicioustoy Also, he has been neglecting me. Our communications went from constant to basically rare and he is basically ignoring me . He does not respond to my texts or emails, despite my telling him that I am beginning to lose faith in him but when he does reply he again maintains that I am "stuck" with him and we will meet etc etc etc. It has been one week since he went from doting to barely around. Not a very thoughtful way to handle the situation on his part. You deserve the respect of him expressing his disinterest. Consider this a sign of what you can expect from him if you two were to enter into a relationship. Have you lost a gem, or a headache? You most likely just saved yourself a lot of headache I would imagine. Time is too precious.

vicioustoy -> RE: He says one thing but does another. (11/1/2009 11:54:16 AM)
Yep, still nothing after what I thought was a rather heartfelt email so I sent back something somewhat derisive and I'm moving on. That mirroring technique is something I am totally going to adopt. Thank you for that! It's quite sensible! Thank you all for your input. Not a piece of bad advice in the lot of ya! If any more drama arises from this situation I'll be sure to post it for entertainment (and revenge) purposes. As far as I'm concerned I can slag the anonymous to my heart's content. Thanks again, peeps! ^_^

SteelofUtah -> RE: He says one thing but does another. (11/1/2009 6:04:39 PM)
First there is nothing funny about getting jerked around. There is nothing funny about having your feelings toyed with. There is nothing funny about presenting yourself as something you are not. That being said... I always shake my head and smile when I read threads like this. I am more used to hearing them from men than women so when I see it happens on both sides there is a Sadistic part of me that finds minimal pleasure in knowing that it's an equal opportunity Annoyance. I think everyone deserves a shot so where as I find your height requirement to be a Dominant odd it is your choice and so you will have to deal with it's annoying side effects giving you a smaller pool of Dominants to look from. The problem is that those who lie and abuse the truths will find you easy prey. I just don't see why anyone would actually go anywhere but to the source with their problem. Yeah Yeah Yeah the whole Dominant submissive aspect but seriously if you feel you are getting a raw deal you know you really should speak up and find out what is going on and if you don't like the answer you get. Kick Rocks and walk away. What I really don't get is why someone would go through all this shit for someone who you haven't even met. Steel

vicioustoy -> RE: He says one thing but does another. (11/1/2009 6:31:05 PM)
I'd rather laugh than cry. And my height requirement is not as much a requirement as it is just a personal preference.

DavanKael -> RE: He says one thing but does another. (11/1/2009 7:10:51 PM)
Married and/or wanker would be my bet. Wtf is 'velcro collared'?! Each unto their own but um, I would suggest not investing so much so quickly in someone you haven't met and to educate yourself about what actualy interests you. Further, and the crux of the matter: saying one thing and doing another=inconsistency=unsafe. Davan

vicioustoy -> RE: He says one thing but does another. (11/1/2009 7:17:11 PM)
The term "velcro collar syndrome" pertains to "Masters" who tell a sub what they want to hear (like a vanilla guy saying "ooh baby I'll love you forever") to get what he wants. I will not invest so much in someone online again for this long without meeting and I'll be less likely to accept excuses. This was a learning experience for sure. What actually interests me is hard wired at this point, I have been in the BDSM world for over a decade. This is just the first time I've used the net to pursue BDSM activities and relationships and the learning curve is not THAT steep lol. This experience shall not repeat to this extent.

Rhodes85 -> RE: He says one thing but does another. (11/1/2009 7:20:36 PM)
'Married and/or wanker would be my bet. ' They call that a 'Manker' for 'Married Wanker' [:D]

vicioustoy -> RE: He says one thing but does another. (11/1/2009 7:22:18 PM)
LOL. From now on I'm going to call him "Manker"

Rhodes85 -> RE: He says one thing but does another. (11/1/2009 9:08:39 PM)
'LOL. From now on I'm going to call him "Manker" ' Yay does happy dance [:D] 'I will not invest so much in someone online again for this long without meeting and I'll be less likely to accept excuses. ' I'm glad to hear it.

lucylucy -> RE: He says one thing but does another. (11/1/2009 9:21:57 PM)
My rule of thumb is What a person says = what they wish were true What a person does = what is true Good luck.

vicioustoy -> RE: He says one thing but does another. (11/1/2009 9:23:17 PM)
Awesome, lucylucy. I'll take that to heart.

SaharahEve -> RE: He says one thing but does another. (11/1/2009 9:27:31 PM)
Amen to that. ;-)

vicioustoy -> RE: He says one thing but does another. (11/1/2009 9:29:25 PM)
I second that amen (and get one post closer to losing the cone. ;))

SaharahEve -> RE: He says one thing but does another. (11/1/2009 9:30:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: vicioustoy I second that amen (and get one post closer to losing the cone. ;)) lol ;P

vicioustoy -> RE: He says one thing but does another. (11/1/2009 9:33:12 PM)
Ooooh so close to losing the cone now! I wonder which post it'll be that rids me of my cone. I'm beginning to think of it as if it were my virginity or something. PS. Left the manker final message. He always did (claim) to find my accent so so sexy...so that'll be the last time he hears it I surmise. :P

darkme -> RE: He says one thing but does another. (11/2/2009 6:25:14 AM)
Hmmm I smell a rat! Get rid, move on... why settle for a rat when there are plenty of fish ;-) All the best to you x

dreamerdreaming -> RE: He says one thing but does another. (11/2/2009 10:39:29 AM)
Go say hi and welcome the newbies in the intro forum. That'll up your posts.

Huntertn -> RE: He says one thing but does another. (11/2/2009 4:28:39 PM)
Married...or has a other part.I want to meet someone I would. Even if I had to drive half the night. As the guy is local.....it's just a short hop and a skip ....not good! Not good at all....

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