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Need support - 11/5/2009 8:50:39 AM   
breatheasone


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Status: offline 		i am needing some prayer(if you are so inclined) i am dealing with some issues like, despair, fear, loneliness. i am having some really hard times right now. PLEASE pray for me. i have tried to talk to my Master....and will continue to try. Any advice on talking would be helpful. 

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RE: Need support - 11/5/2009 9:48:48 AM   
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Status: offline 		Sorry to hear you're having a rough time. If you're talking to your bloke, and it's not working as well as usual.......maybe write a messy email and let him have a wade through it.

Hard to know what else to say but best wishes, anyhow.

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RE: Need support - 11/5/2009 11:16:15 AM   
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RE: Need support - 11/5/2009 11:24:28 AM   
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Status: offline 		A lot of whats bothering me is not his fault, we are both having a busy turbulent time in our "separate lives" and its just getting rough is all....i just think since its apparent that things are going to be hectic, We (He) needs to make sure i feel "in" His life. Before anyone jumps on me for not being patient and understanding, DON'T. i have been, and AM continuing to be.... but i do have BASIC needs! Geez i'll shut up....i'm depressing myself FUCK!

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RE: Need support - 11/5/2009 12:39:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		i write in my journal as a way to deal with the feelings i can't cope with, would that work for you? If it is things i would like to talk about with Him but can't i will offer to show Him my journal and then He knows what is going on in my head.

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RE: Need support - 11/5/2009 1:59:20 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: breatheasone

A lot of whats bothering me is not his fault, we are both having a busy turbulent time in our "separate lives" and its just getting rough is all....i just think since its apparent that things are going to be hectic, We (He) needs to make sure i feel "in" His life. Before anyone jumps on me for not being patient and understanding, DON'T. i have been, and AM continuing to be.... but i do have BASIC needs! Geez i'll shut up....i'm depressing myself FUCK!


It's just human to feel a bit neglected sometimes ....... even when we completely understand why. At the moment his life is *hectic* and I've been boringly *ill* for 3 weeks. Sometimes life just ends up leaving us feeling a bit lonely or fed-up, even when we know why.

I've had to neglect some of my children when one of the others was extremely ill......they WERE patient, they WERE understanding .....but they STILL missed the usual stuff I provided normally. Natural really.

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RE: Need support - 11/5/2009 2:36:08 PM   
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Status: offline 		Agirl, excellent point.... and spot on...i'm stressing too much about stressing..... how absurd is that?

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RE: Need support - 11/5/2009 3:11:06 PM   
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Status: offline 		It's easy to make *excellent* points when it's not your own life..lol

I mish-mash and muddle along when things go a bit hay-wire myself. I cry a bit , write the odd messy email....try to be stoic and belly-flop a bit here and there and think I'm rubbish........ and then a while later the sun comes out again and it's ..........* Crumbs, those were a shit few weeks, weren't they master..*.lol

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RE: Need support - 11/5/2009 4:02:58 PM   
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ORIGINAL: breatheasone

 i have tried to talk to my Master....and will continue to try. Any advice on talking would be helpful. 


Where are you getting stuck?
Why is it that communication now has gotten more difficult if that is the case?

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RE: Need support - 11/5/2009 4:13:15 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: breatheasone

 i have tried to talk to my Master....and will continue to try. Any advice on talking would be helpful. 


Where are you getting stuck?
Why is it that communication now has gotten more difficult if that is the case?

i can actually answer that .... "The squeeky wheel gets the grease." my mind says, "The squeeky wheel gets kicked to the curb for squeekin."
i'm scared. i'm scared that if i say whats on my mind it will be bad. And not because i want out or anything bad like that....i'm talking about stuff like some loneliness maybe, or some discontent, not that i mean to feel that way...i swear i don't.....but if i say something...... i don't know.... i just seem to be petrified here....


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RE: Need support - 11/5/2009 8:42:49 PM   
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ORIGINAL: breatheasone
i'm scared. i'm scared that if i say whats on my mind it will be bad. And not because i want out or anything bad like that....i'm talking about stuff like some loneliness maybe, or some discontent, not that i mean to feel that way...i swear i don't.....but if i say something...... i don't know.... i just seem to be petrified here....


i don't want to put words in your mouth but i feel like at times this so could have been written by me... And can i tell you the worst part? In hindsight.... it was generally over nothing more than fear or anxiety that i had created on my own... It was not usually over something like He has said something that had hurt my feelings, or was going to do something to harm me, or something equally horrible...... No, it was generally something i derived on my own.. Some thought i had on my own that left to my own devices created a huge world disaster...
i don't know if you can relate to this at all... But, it sounds like somehow you've created something huge in your mind and the only way to alleviate it is to talk to him about it.....Although, it sounds like you feel like you have tried to talk to him about it... Which reminds me of one of my favorite sayings... My feelings, while very valid are not always accurate. They tend to lie to me.. I would try to write them to him..journal to Him.. Do what you need to do to feel better.. Trust in Him...After all, this is the same man who you have submitted to right?
You will be in my prayers,
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RE: Need support - 11/5/2009 10:15:47 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: breatheasone

i am needing some prayer(if you are so inclined) i am dealing with some issues like, despair, fear, loneliness. i am having some really hard times right now. PLEASE pray for me. i have tried to talk to my Master....and will continue to try. Any advice on talking would be helpful. 


You have to have faith and trust in your Master that you should not have to watch what you say.
you must to be true to yourself, first and formost

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RE: Need support - 11/6/2009 2:10:11 AM   
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RE: Need support - 11/6/2009 4:32:03 AM   
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Status: offline 		Just a couple of things...

First, could it be seasonal depression?  This is a real condition, the days are shorter, the weather cold and grey and the anticipation of holiday activities just adds to stress levels and causes a temporary or seasonal change in brain chemistry.  You could try watching your diet, take even 15 minutes a day to exercise, something where you count reps which keeps your mind focued on count, not on your inner dialogue.

It seems like you already know how destruction our inner dialogues can be, often leads to circular thinking so that the next pass round the circle gets worse and worse.  It's like," if I say this, then this horrible thing will happen and if that horrible thing happens then the worse thing will happen and then the devestating thing will happen... "  Try changing your inner dialogue to force yourself toward more positive thoughts?

Best of luck to you.



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RE: Need support - 11/6/2009 5:30:02 AM   
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If you don't feel this is the time to speak your honest thoughts, then write them out as has been suggested. You don't have to send it to him right now. I would suggest you tell him that you have written them out and ask him to let you know when he is ready to deal with what's going on with you. That may help you 'let out a little steam', relieve a little of the stress knowing that you will both be ready to discuss it when the time is right.
One of the things I have learned is that holding it in only postpones things. If whatever is wrong is going to be a deal breaker, then isn't it better to find out sooner than later?
Are you fearful that if you speak honestly it will damage or end the relationship? Try looking at it more positively, it is a chance to heal things between you.

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RE: Need support - 11/6/2009 5:31:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		May peace be with you. You have my prayers.

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RE: Need support - 11/6/2009 5:35:00 AM   
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Status: offline 		Feelings aren't facts, they are just feelings. But they are valid to have, and to need to have heard and validated. So don't say "You've been neglecting me" just say "I feel neglected/marginalized/unheard". If he gets angry, then that would be a tip off that it is true. If he just reminds you this is only for a few weeks while you both deal with things, then you know it is only a feeling.

If you're afraid to talk to him because you think it is true and that this will be the end, well in that case it is heading to the end anyway. Up to you if you want to spend six more months like this or just rip the band aid off quickly.

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RE: Need support - 11/6/2009 4:23:42 PM   
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Feelings aren't facts, they are just feelings. But they are valid to have, and to need to have heard and validated. So don't say "You've been neglecting me" just say "I feel neglected/marginalized/unheard". If he gets angry, then that would be a tip off that it is true. If he just reminds you this is only for a few weeks while you both deal with things, then you know it is only a feeling.

If you're afraid to talk to him because you think it is true and that this will be the end, well in that case it is heading to the end anyway. Up to you if you want to spend six more months like this or just rip the band aid off quickly.


Well, I do say feelings are facts because there is no 'should' or 'shouldn't' about them. We feel what we feel. If I'm happy or sad or angry, the truth is that is how I feel; whether anyone else believes it is right or wrong that I feel a certain way is irrelevant.

But I agree with everything else you said!


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RE: Need support - 11/6/2009 4:25:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have been through this... I understand the way it feels and its scary and sickening all at the same time. If you need to talk just shoot me a note on the other side!!

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RE: Need support - 11/6/2009 4:49:35 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Acer49


quote:

ORIGINAL: breatheasone

i am needing some prayer(if you are so inclined) i am dealing with some issues like, despair, fear, loneliness. i am having some really hard times right now. PLEASE pray for me. i have tried to talk to my Master....and will continue to try. Any advice on talking would be helpful. 


You have to have faith and trust in your Master that you should not have to watch what you say.
you must to be true to yourself, first and formost


I agree with Acer 100%.

*hugssss* breatheasone* Hang in there.

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