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RE: beating - 11/5/2009 2:40:30 PM   
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would you like me to beat the answer into you?

LOL

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RE: beating - 11/5/2009 2:41:28 PM   
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Status: offline 		see? it can be pleasurable for both parties!!!!!!!!

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RE: beating - 11/5/2009 2:53:30 PM   
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Status: offline 		Master and i have talked about this many times over the past 2 and a half years..... something He said tonight stuck. He said its not  that He has to spank or beat, its that He prefers to use that with talking.

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RE: beating - 11/5/2009 2:54:39 PM   
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RE: beating - 11/5/2009 3:01:19 PM   
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But i'm confused as to why punishment is fun.


Enjoying something doesn't mean it's necessarily "fun." My boyfriend and I enjoy a punishment dynamic. To us, it's interesting and productive.

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RE: beating - 11/5/2009 3:14:59 PM   
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But i'm confused as to why punishment is fun.


It's not *fun*(for us)........it just gets the best results and is a proven effective method.

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RE: beating - 11/5/2009 5:20:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		For me punishment isn't fun at all. I'm beaten as punishment because it's not something I'll forget anytime soon and so I won't make the same mistake twice..at least not for a very long time until I've physically and mentally healed.

There are rules and boundaries. Sometimes I fuck up. I get beaten. I'm forgiven, my guilt is washed away and we move on..but I don't forget what I did wrong.

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RE: beating - 11/5/2009 5:53:24 PM   
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But i'm confused as to why punishment is fun.



Didn't state it was "fun"... just the dynamic many enjoy/want.



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RE: beating - 11/5/2009 7:03:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		I do not "beat" as punishment, my male is a masochist so it would not work. Instead I talk to him and give him a writing assignment if punishment is called for. I have yet to have to go beyond that as he is obedient. We do have "funishment" but that is fun for both of us. If I were angry and beating him (which I'd never do) I doubt either of us would enjoy it.

Different strokes for different folks as they say.

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RE: beating - 11/5/2009 7:15:45 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't think anyone suggested it was "fun". Play is play, talk is talk, and punishment is a dynamic that works for some people. It may alleviate guilt, it may be a demarcation point where something bad is now forgotten and moved forward, it may be that some people need it to settle themselves. Fun? Not likely. I doubt any one of us who submit enjoys feeling we have disappointed.

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But i'm confused as to why punishment is fun.


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RE: beating - 11/5/2009 9:25:10 PM   
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Why? i assume everyone in a D/s and or BDSM relationship is at least 18. So why do some "D" types feel the need to beat their "s" type as punishment? i for instance am a 46 year old, reasonably intelligent, grown woman, i feel like i respond well to conversation. Why is it necessary to beat a reasonable adult as punishment? Or are the "D" types that beat or spank their "s" types doing that because they have "s" types that can't be reasoned with?


I am not sure of your definition of "Beat" Corporeal punishment works for some, but to go to such an extreme, seems like you should be taking a serious look at the relationship

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RE: beating - 11/5/2009 9:57:20 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm not a huge fan of bratty submissives that need to be conquered. I prefer the sort who feel better in life submitting, and seek the opportunity. As such, knowing they've failed is usually punishment enough. Even being corrected for next time, in a loving way, is excruciating.

That said, I'm not above using a spanking to lessen the blow of despair. My Pet, for example, did not mail me her work schedule (as I requested). I have choices in how to respond. The most passive being a simple "when you get a moment, please forward me your schedule", the most invasive option: sitting her down and explaining to her she has failed a task. Just TYPING the word fail makes me feel her heart sink. Hell, she might cry when she reads this.

In that regard, a spanking is far preferred. It allows her to pay for the tiny indiscretion with her body, as opposed to her mind. I find most good-faith submissives would rather the former.

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RE: beating - 11/6/2009 2:49:48 AM   
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But i'm confused as to why punishment is fun.


same for me as others have mentioned; it is fun when in (sexual) play but
other times, when done to shut me up it might be difficult to take because my initial reaction will be... oww man that hurt (there being no proper warming up and all that)  and i might be uppity but also it is a relief and gets good results...
it puts me in my place, and i rather have Him put me in my place than have Him agree with me...

ETA indeed as i picked up earlier... maybe beat is too strong a word... i never suffered black eyes or anything remotely close to that... maybe just a mark of a hard pinch in my side or the prick of a skewer, or a handprint on my ass
He knows how to control Himself even when i have thoroughly annoyed Him

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RE: beating - 11/6/2009 5:59:52 AM   
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I don't find beatings to be an effective form of punishment for me either. However, there are other people who do. The reason people do it is because they are wired that way. It works. Why do you find beatings fun? Because you are wired that way. It works for you as enjoyment.

I have found that some beatings will help me get out of a "funk" in which I have feelings that are not logical / rational. The beating lets me get into a completely emotional space and express those emotions that I've been holding back. While it's not punishment, it is also not fun. It is cathartic.

I think several people have explained. Sometimes we just have to face that we won't understand some things. C'est la vie. Understanding is not necessary for acceptance.

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RE: beating - 11/6/2009 9:36:11 AM   
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I have found that some beatings will help me get out of a "funk" in which I have feelings that are not logical / rational. The beating lets me get into a completely emotional space and express those emotions that I've been holding back. While it's not punishment, it is also not fun. It is cathartic.

i think this would describe me....i feel like it does.... i don't have a whole lot of experience with the physical part of this. i don't see Master that often, and when i do He usually decides not to be "physical" Its getting VERY frustrating.


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RE: beating - 11/6/2009 11:45:56 AM   
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My girl and I have discussed this.  There are times that she gets in a frenetic irrational mood and NEEDS physical punishment to stabilize.  Her caps, not mine.  We have a specific implement and place for "punishment" as opposed to rough playtime.

Stefan


Oh dear gawd, I read that as "specific IMPALEMENT".
Beatings work because they freakin' HURT....usually.


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RE: beating - 11/6/2009 2:17:11 PM   
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Why? i assume everyone in a D/s and or BDSM relationship is at least 18. So why do some "D" types feel the need to beat their "s" type as punishment? i for instance am a 46 year old, reasonably intelligent, grown woman, i feel like i respond well to conversation. Why is it necessary to beat a reasonable adult as punishment? Or are the "D" types that beat or spank their "s" types doing that because they have "s" types that can't be reasoned with?



well....why not. *Beats* having cabin...fever...

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RE: beating - 11/6/2009 2:21:59 PM   
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Not every dominant person uses corpral punishment. Although punishment is part of our dynamics he does not treat me like he would a child, he punishes me like he would his grown slave. Those dynamics don't suprise me, infact I would loose respect for him if I did something to warrant punishment and he didn't take action and do so.

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RE: beating - 11/6/2009 2:37:12 PM   
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Status: offline 		i agree with you, i also would lose respect if,
"I did something to warrant punishment and he didn't take action and do so."


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RE: beating - 11/6/2009 2:49:49 PM   
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But i'm confused as to why punishment is fun.


I just read this line and I find it kind of disturbing. Punishment isn't fun for me or him, to us that means there was a break in communication and or I simply choose to no longer surrender to his will. Now funishment is a totally different story. I openly admit to loving when I get funishment. lol

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