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basic questions - 3/9/2006 3:59:17 PM   
Puck


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I'm a rookie at this so I have some basic questions.

What does body worship entail? I'm mainly into ass worship but I would branch out if it pleased my domina (if I could ever find one).

Is queening the same as face-sitting?

Is it safe to go to a professional domina? Would she allow ass worship/rimming? I'm into golden showers, too, but I'm concerned about health effects of someone who works with very many slave/subs.

I've got tons more questions but I guess this is a start. Forgive my ignorance, and any help you more experienced folks can give me is appreciated.

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RE: basic questions - 3/9/2006 4:10:53 PM   
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It's a great primer.

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RE: basic questions - 3/9/2006 4:23:56 PM   
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OK, I'll check it out. But I may have more questions.

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RE: basic questions - 3/9/2006 4:28:52 PM   
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I cut and pasted the web address, and my search engines say it doesn't exist.

Would you check the address again? I'd be grateful.

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RE: basic questions - 3/9/2006 4:31:06 PM   
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Status: offline 		I am betting odds that it is safe to go to a proMastera if you have done a little homework. The serious ones rarely kill their clients as it tends to dry up various revenue streams.

Just be sure that a pro is a pro, anyone who will supply you with reasonable assurances (you decide what that means as a reasonable man) are prolly not gonna go Ed Gein on your ass, unless you pay extra.


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You prolly got yourself a good one there partner.

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RE: basic questions - 3/9/2006 4:41:41 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Puck


I'm a rookie at this so I have some basic questions.

What does body worship entail? I'm mainly into ass worship but I would branch out if it pleased my domina (if I could ever find one).

Body worship is what it sounds like. Of course the domme in question may want you to give a specific area attention.

Is queening the same as face-sitting?

I do believe so, and I've heard it used also when toilet play is involved, if I'm not mistaken.

Is it safe to go to a professional domina? Would she allow ass worship/rimming? I'm into golden showers, too, but I'm concerned about health effects of someone who works with very many slave/subs.

It is generally safe, but you'd be well advised to do some investigation before picking one. Some will allow rimming and ass worship, some won't. And being concerned with your health is quite wise.

I've got tons more questions but I guess this is a start. Forgive my ignorance, and any help you more experienced folks can give me is appreciated.

Puck

Puck, we're ALL ignorant of one thing or another, and there is nothing wrong with asking questions.



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RE: basic questions - 3/9/2006 4:46:11 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Puck
I'm a rookie at this so I have some basic questions.

What does body worship entail? I'm mainly into ass worship but I would branch out if it pleased my domina (if I could ever find one).


Body worship to me is simply worshiping the entire body. So think of ass worship but everywhere.

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Is queening the same as face-sitting?

My impression is that queening involves some sort of special stool to sit on someone’s face without all of the weight being on his or her face. Face sitting is just literally sitting on someone’s face.

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Is it safe to go to a professional domina? Would she allow ass worship/rimming? I'm into golden showers, too, but I'm concerned about health effects of someone who works with very many slave/subs.


Personally I’ve seen to many skeevy professional dominatrxies (and I mean ones local and ones known and respected nationally for having been around for decades). I’ve also seen good ones (in terms of practices of cleaning toys and such) but just the skeevy ones outweighed the good ones in terms of cleaning and sanitizing practices.

I don’t know a great many that would do ass worship and rimming with someone that’s effectively a stranger. But you can always contact one that interests you and find out. I just wouldn’t hold my breath on that.

And to me golden showers with someone is basically as unsafe as practicing unprotected sex with them, so again I wouldn’t recommend doing that with a professional top either.

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RE: basic questions - 3/9/2006 5:15:19 PM   
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RE: basic questions - 3/9/2006 6:53:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		Golden showers or Pee play is fairly safe if your not ingesting it.

Peeing on a body that has NO cuts,scrapes,scabs or sores of any kind should be okay.

One thing to be aware of is many Medications are passed through the Urine,so not only is there a risk of an STD but also drug interactions if you choose to swallow any urine.

http://www.peeplay.net/peeplay-medical.htm

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RE: basic questions - 3/9/2006 8:41:44 PM   
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Here you go, puck. However, personally, i check out all possible options after receiving an answer, before asking again. For example, i just went to Google and typed Steel Door.

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RE: basic questions - 3/10/2006 5:41:04 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Puck
What does body worship entail? I'm mainly into ass worship but I would branch out if it pleased my domina (if I could ever find one).

Do a search for body worship. And it can entail anything that you want.
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Is queening the same as face-sitting?

Queening can be a few things, including sitting on top of and peeing on the bottom.
quote:


Is it safe to go to a professional domina?

Depends on the pro, but yes there are many reputable houses and independent pros to enjoy.

quote:

Would she allow ass worship/rimming? I'm into golden showers, too, but I'm concerned about health effects of someone who works with very many slave/subs.

That would have to be negotiated with the individual pro.


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RE: basic questions - 3/10/2006 12:08:28 PM   
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1. Welcome...please be sure to hang around and read, so you can best determine where you fit into this lifestyle.
2. Queening...read history and info here Basically Queening is a sensous and more comfortable form of facesitting. It sounds classier too!
3. Consider a Pro, by all means. Do your homework. However, keep in mind that many Pros are not interested and do not participate in the specific fetishes that you prefer. G/S and queening are considered much more intimate and sexual, and you may not find a Pro who is willing to Dominate at that level. Most of the Pros I know, including Myself, use the corporal punishment scenarios, as opposed to the more sexually oriented fetishes. So will the Domina allow it? Possibly, in fact probably, not. If she does, chances are she is not a lifestyle Domina, and not even really Dominant, per se. But she may be able to satisfy your needs. You have to decide how important this is to you. I'm not saying there aren't some out there, I'm just saying...
4. Be careful how you present yourself. From your profile, and your questions here, I can only draw the conclusion that you are bored with your life and this is an adventure. Learn what you can, and go ahead and get your itch scratched. At present you are a kinky bottom. Nothing wrong with that. Just be careful about making any assumptions in your approach toward Dominant Women.

Best of luck.

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RE: basic questions - 3/11/2006 8:03:10 AM   
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This sounds like good advice, but I'm wondering what you're thinking when you say, be careful how you present yourself.

This sounds like an important point, and I confess I know nothing of the unwritten rules or D/s etiquette. Should I be veiled in my request? Should I wait for her to say what's allowed?

I found one domina on the net and called her, and we talked briefly. I was respectful but direct. I thought she would prefer that to my being coy.
She said no, even though her Web site indicated she would accommodate what I wanted.

I don't know, there seems to be more to this than I thought.

Any counsel would be much appreciated.

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RE: basic questions - 3/11/2006 8:08:35 AM   
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Goddess,

This sounds like good advice, but I'm wondering what you're thinking when you say, be careful how you present yourself.

This sounds like an important point, and I confess I know nothing of the unwritten rules or D/s etiquette. Should I be veiled in my request? Should I wait for her to say what's allowed?

I found one domina on the net and called her, and we talked briefly. I was respectful but direct. I thought she would prefer that to my being coy.
She said no, even though her Web site indicated she would accommodate what I wanted.

I don't know, there seems to be more to this than I thought.

Any counsel would be much appreciated.



Here's the thing....you're basically looking for a sex act from a profession (prodommes) where the majority profess not to engage in sex acts.

Why not go the other route - contact an escort (a profession where sex acts are permitted) who will incorporate some acts of domination into her services. That would seem to me the logical thing to do.

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RE: basic questions - 3/11/2006 8:09:09 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Sensualips

Queening is cutting off the air supply, by smothering with her pussy, ass, thighs, etc.



And if the poor sub dies, that was just "Queen For a Day"?

ok ok I had to..

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RE: basic questions - 3/11/2006 8:48:11 AM   
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And if the poor sub dies, that was just "Queen For a Day"?

ok ok I had to..


LOL....baaaaaaaaaaaaad!!

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RE: basic questions - 3/11/2006 9:10:09 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: MHOO314

And if the poor sub dies, that was just "Queen For a Day"?

ok ok I had to..


LOL....baaaaaaaaaaaaad!!



ok ok so the boy is due here in 5 hours and I am devilishly wicked!


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RE: basic questions - 3/11/2006 6:20:01 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MsSonnetMarwood

quote:

Goddess,

This sounds like good advice, but I'm wondering what you're thinking when you say, be careful how you present yourself.

This sounds like an important point, and I confess I know nothing of the unwritten rules or D/s etiquette. Should I be veiled in my request? Should I wait for her to say what's allowed?

I found one domina on the net and called her, and we talked briefly. I was respectful but direct. I thought she would prefer that to my being coy.
She said no, even though her Web site indicated she would accommodate what I wanted.

I don't know, there seems to be more to this than I thought.

Any counsel would be much appreciated.



Here's the thing....you're basically looking for a sex act from a profession (prodommes) where the majority profess not to engage in sex acts.



Dear Puck,

MsSonnetMarwood has nailed it. I will try to expand on this thought for you.
Many Dominas who do some Professional work, are also lifestyle Dominas. There are others who are not Dominant, per se, but they are well versed in the fetishes and willing to offer these up for a price.
On a site like this you need to be careful. Your profile, as well as your post here reads like an eager and horny male who is seeking to try a few new things in the sexual arena. Your interest happens to be in the realm of BDSM. But is it really? You want rimming (and lots of it!), you like the idea of queening, which is basically oral sex, and you are interested in golden showers, which is a very intimate act, and a popular fetish which can stand on its own away from this lifestyle.
So I note that you are very much into the highly sexual aspects of this, and seem to be much less interested in the other areas, such as pain, bondage, and actual submission. You are a bedroom boy who is willing to try new things as long as it gets you hard and the script is according to Puck. You are interested in a new and kinky way to get off.
You most definitely need a Lady who is willing to offer up these services in exchange for money. If you begin to contact professed lifestyle Dominas with your pre-planned script for what you want, as opposed to what you can do for Her, you are going to get turned down. Will any Lady do? I mean, if she is reasonably attractive, and she is willing to perform these acts that excite you, is that all you need? It sounds like it.
I meet any potential client prior to arranging and/or agreeing to any session. I want to know the person. I do not engage in more sexual acts anyway, but I still want to meet and arrive at a comfort level with the client. If I am treated like a salesgirl, someone who can do a job for you, I am not going to be receptive.
What you write is all about you, and what you are into. We call that a "do me" boy. It is okay to be a "do me" boy, as long as you are aware that is what you are. Most of the time we are approached by a "do me" as if they are offering up their body for our amusement, and we should be jumping at the chance to play. With or without the financial recompense.
Yes, it is a touchy situation. What I read in your profile and your sincere basic questions is the tendency to move toward that typical attitude of "Hot damn! I found a site and there are all kinds of women here who are into kinky sex. What a way to hook-up! Easy pickins'!" I'm just telling you to be careful and not presume that just because a lady is on this site, and within a reasonable distance from you, that you should contact her and make an offer you think is a great deal, but she will take as an insult.
We are human beings and we respect ourselves. We do get tired of being objectified. We ask that you respect us also.
I can't tell you why the lady you contacted turned you down. I don't know who she is and I don't know what your direct but respectful conversation entailed. You will need to figure that out before you will make any progress in the right direction.
Or find that escort service which has the women who specialize in the more fetish driven "dates".

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RE: basic questions - 3/12/2006 8:37:47 PM   
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You gave me a lot to think about.

I guess you're right in a way. I was thinking that I have this fetish, I like to rim and I like golden showers. Both seem pretty submissive to me. (I'm not into pain. I don't care to hurt anybody, but I'm not judging those who do as long as it's consensual and within reasonable limits.)
Being into submission, within narrow definitions I suppose, where would one go to find someone willing to play along? The opposite of submission would domination, yes? Hence, a domina. A BDSM Web site seemed like a way to enter into the community, a way to meet people with similar interests.

You go on the net and look up dominas, and many sites have adult disclaimers. They advertise they spank and cane nude men, they do cock and ball torture, and host of other things that seem to be of a sexual nature even if it's not my particular interest. I guess that's where I got the idea that here I might meet a woman who would want me to rim her and take her nectar (I read that somewhere). If she wanted me to do more, I would certainly consider it. Ideally, I would think it would a reciprocal arrangement, satisfaction for both.

I have misgivings about escort services. Dominas seems more serious about it, safer somehow.

Regarding my conversation with the on-line domina, her Web site listed my particular fetishes. I called her, and told her I had a couple of fetishes I hoped she could help me with. She inquired what they were. I didn't know how to sugarcoat it and figured, hey, she's a pro, she's heard it all. So I told her, facesitting, rimming, and a golden shower. She said no, and that was that. I must have mishandled it somehow.

I guess I have a lot to learn. I appreciate everybody walking me through this. I feel like I'm in a foreign country I admire but don't know many of the customs. Or even the language in some cases.


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RE: basic questions - 3/13/2006 3:54:19 AM   
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I guess you're right in a way. I was thinking that I have this fetish, I like to rim and I like golden showers. Both seem pretty submissive to me.


Yes. What you have is a fetish.

No. Having a fetish does not make you submissive in any way, shape, or form. Submission, at it's heart, is about doing for the Dominant, focusing on their desires, not doing to the Dominant what you want to do to them.

Huge difference.

You seem to think that because YOU want to do rimming, etc., that Dominants should just be falling all over themselves to let you do so.

As a lifestyle Domme, I consider that extremely intimate; without an ongoing intimate relationship - it's not going to happen. If a complete stranger contacts me asking if I'll do these things with him - the answer is no. I am less than thrilled when someone talks to me like I am no more than a vehicle for him to get his fetish fix.

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So I told her, facesitting, rimming, and a golden shower. She said no, and that was that. I must have mishandled it somehow.


Ya think? She probably thought that either you were a cop, or you were utterly clueless.

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I have misgivings about escort services. Dominas seems more serious about it, safer somehow.


It's more likely to be the shady/less experienced/not as skilled prodommes who offer sexual services like you seek. You might want to overcome your prejudices about escorts, Sparky, if you really want this to happen. Prodommes who really are serious about this and professional don't need to provide sexual services.

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