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RE: need advice from pain slaves - 3/10/2006 8:05:16 PM

Merritt27

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Thats whats so tiring, its just intense every day now. I hardly get time to calm down and take it all in. Such a mix of emotions, way more than I thought I'd have. I never thought I'd cry. But I bawled like a baby.

Talk about a rollercoaster :)

Elizabeth,

It is a rollercoaster...but one you will learn to love! i totally understand what you mean about the intensity being so great you feel like you never have time to calm down. i was the same way and i think i was making Daddy nuts with all of that energy...i was spinning like a top. So, he gave me an assignment. When he first gave me this little task i was less than thrilled..... He told me to do 5 minutes of "corner time". i would basically sit in the corner, lights off (i had to do this to keep from looking around at first...lol. ) and close my eyes and try to relax. i would think about Him, me, U/us, what W/we had done recently, anything that popped into my head. Then, i would write it all down in an email and send it to him. This served two purposes....it MADE me sit down and chill for five minutes and it gave him some insight into what was going on in my head. As time has gone on he has changed the times and some parameters....but it is now something i look forward to....and use as a way to center myself. Just a thought...that maybe something like that could work for you too...

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RE: need advice from pain slaves - 3/10/2006 11:04:01 PM

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I think that many athletes and dancers would be in your third category.

And the suggestions catize offers to deal with the fatigue are good ones. I would also
suggest keeping a journal to process the feelings, sensations and emotions you are
experiencing.

Best wishes in your adventures,

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Thing is, I think there are different kinds of pain slave. The kind which is turned on by pain itself, the kind which enjoys the intense attention given to them by a torturer and gets turned on by seeing them turned on, and the kind which doesnt like pain, but gets turned on by the overwhelming sense of achievement of doing the unthinkable.

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RE: need advice from pain slaves - 3/11/2006 1:06:21 AM

slavebeth22

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I am slave to my sadistic Master. He keeps me in pain as much as he can.
Thanks for advice regarding staying hydrated. He does give me water during sessions. He has to pick his moment as sometimes I cant drink :)

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RE: need advice from pain slaves - 3/11/2006 1:14:31 AM

slavebeth22

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ORIGINAL: Merritt27
It is a rollercoaster...but one you will learn to love! i totally understand what you mean about the intensity being so great you feel like you never have time to calm down.

Hi amber

A bit different for me. I am elated and very excitable afterwards when I am released. But before the event, when I arrive and start to prepare myself for him, I am not excited, I am terrified, possibly borderline hysterical. I cant wait to be restrained and gagged so control is taken from me and I can relax. For a few moments anyway, until it starts.
Thats the rollercoaster for me, intense highs and terrifying lows, all within a few minutes. And every time is the same so far. Will I ever get used to it?

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RE: need advice from pain slaves - 3/11/2006 1:34:08 AM

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i am not a pain slave or a masochist per say...but i do crave the intense sensations and the contained energy that only pain can bring.

I compare it to flying during a rain storm. The take off is bumpy and unpleasant. Then there is that burst of energy that lifts you upwards as you leave the ground. The plane dips and sways. Just when you think you cannot take it any longer, the plane breaks through the clouds. You find yourself soaring high above the storm...it's calm and peaceful. The sun is shining and your able to see things in a different light. But as this was simply a commuter flight, it's not long before your forced to descend. Back through the storm clouds, falling downward, bumping and jerking till you feel as if you have done a nose dive onto the runway.

Ok, so a bit simplistic in my description. But in those few minutes, above the storm, paradise was found. A place one can easily become addicted to.

My mind craves those few minutes...it's an escape from my body and a time to learn about a space that some will never know even existed. The more i am able to squelch my own personal fear of pain and instead embrace pain as nothing more than a tool to send me above the storm, the more intense the sensations become.

I admire you, for your inner strength is evident. You know what you want and are not hesitant in going after it. My only recomendation would be not to be too overly concerned with the cause but instead remain focused on the effect.

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RE: need advice from pain slaves - 3/11/2006 12:23:44 PM

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I admire you, for your inner strength is evident. You know what you want and are not hesitant in going after it. My only recomendation would be not to be too overly concerned with the cause but instead remain focused on the effect.

Thanks for the poetic description. I fear pain too. But its the fear which is half the excitement. I hope you overcome your fear and get to experience it regularly. Since my pain sessions became a regular event I am experiencing emotions and highs I never thought I would.

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RE: need advice from pain slaves - 3/12/2006 5:55:49 PM

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Hmm, this is quite an interesting subject. Please if i may put in a few cents here. i enjoy pain alot, but before pain, to me, there must be trust. i can't just go to a play party and say.."umm, 'scuse me Sir, would You please beat me?". i just can't do that. So when i had a regular partner, yes, i enjoyed pain immensely. Now, i wouldn't consider myself a pain slut though. To me, there is nothing better than a rush of endorphines as a sharp blade caresses my skin or a nice leather strap thuds against my back. But then again, it's all about opinion. i am happy that you found Someone that you could trust enough to bring this out in you. It is definitely a gift. Good luck to your future. i do pray that things only happen in your best interest!

~veri

oh yea, and no, i do not fear physical pain, its the mental anguish to me that hurts more than anything, hence the trust

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RE: need advice from pain slaves - 3/14/2006 5:19:44 AM

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hi,

I did a little research in the past on this issue because naturally I am a dominant person but was confused by the fact that I enjoyed pain but I didn't feel any attraction to submission and therefore wondered what the hell?!?!?!

That was when I came across this little used term 'Algolagnia' which is described by the ever useful wikipedia as...

"Algolagnia (from the greek "άλγος" algos meaning pain and "λαγνεία" lagnia meaning lust) is the paraphilia of deriving sexual pleasure from physical pain.

It may have a simply biological basis, as it is proven that pain, just like sensorial pleasures such as sexual contact and sweet foods, cause the release of endorphins, the chemicals that induce pleasure.

If a person's pain threshold is sufficiently high, this may outweigh the normal discomfort, even to the point of addiction.

Note that algolagnia is not the same thing as physical masochism, since there are fewer psychological connotations to algolagnia, which may be a simple liking for pain, without any need for domination, submission or humiliation. It may therefore rather take the form of self-infliction of pain."

Which basically follows your first idea of actually enjoying pain, which I do. Which is actually annoying in some ways... I'll be the first to say self-harm is never a good thing :P

Hope that sheds a bit of light on the difference between masochists and people who just really like pain.

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