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Level -> RE: Living in Authority (11/10/2009 6:41:57 PM)


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ORIGINAL: curiousINct

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ORIGINAL: Level


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ORIGINAL: ShoreBound149
Whoa.....rebel


We all have our own private revolutions.

Good going, curiousINct.


ha. Like I said, it was such a silly thing but made all the difference in the world for me.

Thanks Level.



You are quite welcome, curious. And I don't think it was silly, at all. Life is life, and I believe we can find the most wonderful things in our everyday worlds.



MsD -> RE: Living in Authority (11/10/2009 7:56:58 PM)

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I believe we can find the most wonderful things in our everyday worlds.


well said Level ... I've always found that the littlest things can make such a big difference



lusciouslips19 -> RE: Living in Authority (11/10/2009 8:00:54 PM)

Hey Sunny,

how many ways can someone go to the bathroom?[:D]

(did you get the little writers report?)



CallaFirestormBW -> RE: Living in Authority (11/11/2009 10:12:45 AM)

It's interesting. My "ah ha" came not as a rebellion, but as an examination of years of rebellion that I'd already -been- doing... and the realization that, in this case, "doing my own thing" wasn't REALLY "doing my own thing"... it was a reactive response to someone else's demands on me that were so deeply ingrained that, even when that person was 10 years dead, I was -still- letting hir control my choices by literally -refusing- to do anything xhe'd ever said was "good for me", just so I could be right, and xhe could be wrong.

That realization was not only profound, but painful, as I realized how long I'd been letting someone else control my life... someone whom I had -never- wanted to have any power over my life, from the time I realized that I was subject to hir orders and that those orders, more often than not, made me feel like crap (probably around 7 years old); but someone who  no longer had either reason or means to do so... just by holding hir in my head and giving hir voice more power and volume than I gave my own.

Getting off that treadmill is a day-to-day thing... so far, I'm remembering my revelation, and I hope that I can sustain the new introspection and evaluation of my behaviors based on my -real- desires and preferred direction, and save my rebellions (which are core to my nature and I -won't- deny) for places where rebellion will be a progressive rather than destructive thing.

Calla



CarrieO -> RE: Living in Authority (11/12/2009 5:00:34 AM)

I've had lots of little "aha" moments.  I'm still becoming the woman I'm meant to be, therefore I'm sure to have more "flashes of realization". 



SirRussellP -> RE: Living in Authority (11/12/2009 7:29:37 AM)

If your asking about the aha moment when I realized I wanted to be a Dominant then it never happened, it is who I am.

Now if your asking about the moments that have changed my life then it is constant.  When things go wrong the first place I look is at me.  The only person that I can control every act is me.  When the search of me and the why things went badly, well, or other then expected showed me that I need to change a bit of me I begin the work needed to do that.  It isn't all ways a change in me that is needed, often that is the case, but in others.  At that point it becomes not my problem unless I own the one that is or has the problem.



sunshinemiss -> RE: Living in Authority (11/12/2009 1:35:50 PM)

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It was in that moment that I began to live within my own authority.  I stopped apologizing for who and what I am.  I'd been living my life in a defiant kind of way, daring people to disagree with me.

Recently, conversations have gone to that - the moment of becoming aware of our authority and dropping away the box that society puts us in.  At some point, every adult says, "I don't care if that's what you think.  THIS is what I'm going to do."

Because the people here tend to live pretty much outside of society's norms, it occurred that this kind of "coming out" would be something we pretty much all had in common.  Obviously, mine wasn't about WIITWD, but no longer apologizing for my taste in music.  And frankly it was just one of many steps on this road.

Care to share your experience?



This is what I'm asking Russell.  It's not about being dominant or alpha or anything.  It's about being who and what we are.  It is about standing up and saying no to something that doesn't work for us despite it being what society or family or business dictates.

The question isn't about changing based on mistakes.  It is about our actions reflecting the truth of who we are.



SirRussellP -> RE: Living in Authority (11/12/2009 6:20:47 PM)

I read that and the other responses but okay.

Then I answered it I think, happens almost daily.  I constant look to see where I can improve myself, I constantly find out that there is something I misunderstood and I constantly evaluate what society wants of me and then decide if I am willing to participate.



MaamJay -> RE: Living in Authority (11/12/2009 7:02:08 PM)

I think it happens fairly often too for Me. I just had another one reading Calla's response! But I realised that while I first got a cat because Mum didn't like them and only liked dogs ... I now love cats in their own right. Which is just as well, as Mine just turned 21 (we had an afternoon tea party for her and I made her a party hat LOL! Not sure she still loves Me now!). And where as a child, my fave colour was blue but only just over yellow and red, as an adult, perhaps I initially chose purple because Mum hated it LOL! And ti was such fun to stir her to turn up with purple in my hair, purple nails, purple dress etc. But now, it really IS My favourite colour, My eyes are always drawn to it first. My rebellions have become who I am. But thanks Calla for the little epiphany I had about that from reading your answer!

Maam Jay aka violet[A]
Edited to add: And what's wrong with bluegrass music? You should check out an Aussie band called Sensitive New Age Cowpersons (SNACs for short) who create much humour by playing EVERYTHING "the way God intended ... bluegrass style!" They've even got Master (who isn't bluegrass blessed [;)]) laughing along and listening!



sunshinemiss -> RE: Living in Authority (11/12/2009 7:05:24 PM)

Hi Jay,
It's very interesting isn't it?  You make the distinction between having a cat as a REACTION to someone else.  And then you realized you liked cats and have one for your own joy.  I think this is the heart of what I'm talking about.  Rather than acting based on some external force, you acted based on your own wishes, your own authority. 

It's really powerful...

Thanks for that example!

best,
sunshine



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