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ORIGINAL: serisa

it may seem a silly question i know... but to people on here what does the word commitment 'mean'?.  Yes marriage means commitment, A Collaring means a type of commitment...... i am interested to know (especially from a Master/Dom point of view what else they see as commitment).

Also... if you as a sub say you need a monogomous relationship to a Dom and he embarks on a relationship with you knowing full well what you need want and desire and then he sleeps with someone without your knowledge does this count as cheating if he has NOT made a commitment towards you??.  I presume there is some sort of duty of care as to protect you from std's but does it actually count as cheating if the Dom KNOWS what you want but has not formally or verbally 'made a commitment to you?'

Do any people on here count sexual fidelity as 'commitment' which is 'given' or allowed by the Dom or in most cases is it presumed unless poly is discussed and agreed upon by the sub and Dom in question?.

If a sub wants sexual commitment is it enough for the sub to say that is what she needs or should she actually ask for it i.e 'please can you give me sexual commitment?'.  I realise neither of these two former things will guarantee you will get it but is the best way to avoid a 'yes i know what you wanted.... but i never SAID i would give to you' type scenerio' (all too late) from your Dom.... to actually say 'i realise You already know i need want and desire monogomy, but please will you confirm you are happy to give me that?'.... rather than 'presuming' just because he knows what you want that he has any intention or desire to actually even try and give you that?

Does anyone see sexual commitment only as a commitment in itself.?

As a sub i dont think i have a right to expect sexual commitment but i presume i have a right to ask for it and expect an answer yes or no from my Dom?.

If a Dom says after a long period of time (years) together that he does NOT want commitment.... but still want to see you,  would it be wise to seek answers to what he counts as commitment?

thank you and any thoughts on ANYTHING i have mentioned would be greatly appreciated.

i wish you well x

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ORIGINAL: serisa

Thank you Missokyst.  So how would you be if you had told him monogomy is what you need, want & desire but He had not VERBALLY said yes that he will give you that type of commitment?  Would you expect that if he is not able to give that for him to end the relationship and explain why?... or would you demand (encourage perhaps a better term from a sub... lol) actually verbal answers if he seemed reluctant to give one ?.  I think what i am trying to say (sorry if i get confusing at times)... is that if you say thats what you need is that what you should expect unless He ends it?, or is it wise to seek a verbal agreement from Him?

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if you as a sub say you need a monogomous relationship to a Dom and he embarks on a relationship with you knowing full well what you need want and desire and then he sleeps with someone without your knowledge does this count as cheating if he has NOT made a commitment towards you??.

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ORIGINAL: serisa
...So how would you be if you had told him monogomy is what you need, want & desire but He had not VERBALLY said yes that he will give you that type of commitment?