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DrkJourney -> RE: Is this real or a waste of time? (11/14/2009 7:54:11 PM)
You just don't seem like you give a crap to me. And by posting this seems to me like you want to play the poor pitiful me and come up with lame excuses so that people can "beg" you not to give up. First it's your age, then it's the net (eye roll), then you're afraid of competitition, which if you click with someone there isn't any, and if you are looking for a pro, really isn't any unless you are fighting over some special time slot. I take offense of being referred to as a "thing or it". (The simple fact of there being not enough of something to go around will make it pointless to want it. Someone else can have it, and they are welcome to it.) If you think Dommes are just things, and not worth your energy, why do you think someone wants someone like you in their life? If you are chosen are you going to give that same attitude in training and service? As long as you consider Domme's "things" and the lifestyle as a "past time" you are never going to find what you are looking for, whatever that is. As for online, don't spam...read profiles, pick a compatible person, email her, IM her, phone her, meet her. Make yourself someone she would want to meet. Trust me, that attitude will show just as well in person, even more actually, when you go to clubs/munches. People can tell the level of seriousness, and if there is competitition, there can be competition out in the non virtual world as well. As for this ratio thing, just because she is talking to others doesn't mean she's interested. I talked to hundreds and more often than not within a week they were gone, their choice not mine. In that ratio you have to consider how many are time wasters, gamers, scammers, and the like. If she was really interested she would stop all other conversation and focus on that one, and you wouldn't be getting through any way, so there would be no competitition. she is waiting on one that gives a crap and willing to stand out and show her that they are into not only the lifestyle but into her as a person, not someone talking to her like she's and item at "DommeMart" that you can just pick up when you stop to grab some milk. In your profile you say that "She is naturally going to take the lead, and recognizes this brief statement as a rare opportunity." Again, seems like you want to sit on your butt and have someone else do all the work. I don't see anything in your profile that would constitute you as being "rare" or and "opportunity". Write a profile about you and how special you are so when you do email someone, they can read about what you're like and what kind of situation that you are looking for. Sorry for being like this but I just spent the whole day on and off talking to a gamer that more than a year ago claimed he was serious. He was so serious he disappeared without a word, and would not respond to emails or other forms of messages left for him. I got so used to this type of thing I didn't give him a second thought, which I guess was obvious since I didn't even remember who the heck he was when he decided to materialize again. (actually, I'm still not sure who the heck he is...lol) So today he shows up out of the blue wanting another chance, something that's been happening a lot lately since I've collared and married my boy. Seems like the light bulbs started coming on "hey, she was really serious about finding someone to collar" "now that I know she is serious I'll go after her".....Well buddy it doesn't work that way. Now all he wants to do was whine about how unfair life is, like now I guess since he's pulled his head out I'm supposed to dump my husband and collar him ok...as I said long day[sm=soapbox.gif] For the record I don't think it was a stupid question, I think it's you just didn't like the answers.....could it be because it would require effort on your part? When you get serious and really want someone in your life, there are plenty of people here that are very nice (yeah I said a lot of you are nice...so nah), and they would be more than willing to help you...but as someone said earlier, you need to work on you first. good luck to you

vincentML -> RE: Is this real or a waste of time? (11/15/2009 8:11:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: abjectobject Thanks for the info. I'll try meeting people in person. Online is, well, it's online. I'm familiar with internet forums so I fully expect and understand people making idiotic assumptions and unloading their opinions anywhere they find an opening. It's entertaining when it's not boring. The other reason for not being competitive is being cooperative. I'd rather help someone else get what they need, than have a contest with them to take what they need. If there are two people and only one thing, they can fight over it, share it, both go without or one can step back and be glad the other gets it. To people whose only approach is competition, the other three options are invisible. The simple fact of there being not enough of something to go around will make it pointless to want it. Someone else can have it, and they are welcome to it. In person rather than online, there is probably no such competition and things happen between whichever two people are face to face. Online, you have countless profiles, emails, a lot of extraneous noise. In person, if you're talking, that's way ahead of emails. Like I said, it was a stupid question. I should have asked about venues where people meet in person. I learned something. Thanks for your help. Honestly, i have never read such spineless, whining crap as what you have offered here, OP. If there are only two people and one thing? Is that what you think this is? A competition for a prize in the crackerjack box? I would hardly refer to these lovely Dommes as "things." Yes. i think you should quit. the sooner the better. There are some good mature submissive men on here who are secure enough in their own skin to realise they are not competing with shallow, young boys, but proudly present themselves ready to bring happiness to some Dominant Woman. You are obviously not one of us. So, the faster you remove yourself from the clutter the better. Not because you are any competition but because your selfish attitude gives the rest of us a bad name. I am 64 years old and have happily had real life relationships with Dommes in their 40s and 50s and i am gratefully submissive at present in a LDR to a 27 year old. Your gutless excuses just want to make me fall down laughing. You can do us a favor and run away. Sorry, kid. The reasons you give for quitting are just plain silly. If you weren't so damn selfish, thinking only of your own gratification, you would probably have little difficulty meeting a lovely Domme. But hey, don't let the door hit you in the ass on the way out.

DesFIP -> RE: Is this real or a waste of time? (11/16/2009 5:24:57 AM)
You do have some serious things against you. Firstly, your screen name. The dommes here are real people, not porn actresses hired to pretend they think men are lowly worms. More than real people, they are real women, like other women everywhere they want for a partner a man who is worthwhile to be with. If you're abject and just an object you won't be any fun to go for a walk with. You won't have engaging conversational skills. Or gentlemanly manners. Second; your profile or lack of it. You don't include anything that tells a person who you are. You expect her, whoever she is, to woo you, to be so enamoured that she teases your information out of you. Yes, it is unfair that sub or domme, the females get wooed, the males do the wooing. But life isn't fair. So if you want a better outcome you must maximize your chances of getting that outcome. Lastly; your attitude. You're feeling disillusioned, as though this is hopeless. You're going through the motions with a slightly angry air. Don't. Take a couple of months off from searching. Stay off the site. Go dust off your list of things you've always wanted to do but haven't and make them happen. Go skydiving, learn to ride a horse, hybridize daylilies. Whatever it is that secretly holds appeal for you, go do. And don't return until you feel good about yourself as a man and full of passion for life. Because that's what everyone wants in a partner, someone happy to be with.

vincentML -> RE: Is this real or a waste of time? (11/16/2009 6:19:43 AM)
Oh Des, you are too kind to the boy. That says more for your character than for what he deserves

mnottertail -> RE: Is this real or a waste of time? (11/16/2009 6:35:28 AM)
This certainly is a real waste of time. I think the decision implied by the or can simply be removed from consideration at this point. Ron(ne)

vincentML -> RE: Is this real or a waste of time? (11/16/2009 8:34:29 AM)
I agree. Time to move on. Adios to abjectobject or whatever. Unsubscribing.

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