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Sub03 -> RE: So very disappointed (3/15/2006 11:34:49 AM)

Internet does work....I met my Dom on collarme.



LATEXBABY64 -> RE: So very disappointed (3/15/2006 11:40:50 AM)

it does sometime i agree if you use common sense rules- there is to much bs in the ds right now to sort good from bad why
because we have become fashionable kink. it takes curage to do the right thing i am one aftermany years in the lifestyle
who has had enough and if standing up for good the relationships and the people who have honest heart to do the good things in this lifestyle we are not swingers looking for a quick f u c k we are looking for more on a lot of levels those that can not understand that can get the f out we will fight you and are watching i am sorry for the drama for the ops post i wish him well on his quest and peace
but as i say if good people do nothing evil runs free be a mindless deeb or get some balls and stand up for a cause we are done playing the mind game of objects from one sub switch to another may you find happiness in what you seek
:)



jocelyn -> RE: So very disappointed (3/15/2006 7:03:20 PM)

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ORIGINAL: andy62
If anyone has any success stories then I would be interested to hear them, I would be particularly interested to know how long it took and how many duds they had to deal with before finding a suitable slave.


Finding a partner is a challenge, whether you use "traditional" methods or the net. If you want candor, you might want to offer it. If your initial conversations suggest a possibility, offer your phone - not the cell, but the landline. Share your address and full name so she can do a bit of background checking and set a timeline for getting her information. She may balk at that much openness, but be wary of someone who either ignores normal security plans (safe call, meeting in a public place, etc.,) but you'll be spared an upset like the one you've told us about.

I don't think it's wise to assign a time limit to your search. Think about the limits you've put on your target with regard to what she looks like, her age, and her D/s preference. Each tenet narrows the field a bit. Rather than giving up in disgust, flesh out your profile, post messages on more than one site, and plan to spend some time at local D/s events to balance your search.

Success stories? Yep. (raising hand high)

jocelyn



sophia37 -> RE: So very disappointed (3/16/2006 9:34:44 AM)

If you're serious about finding someone, dont stop at 20. I met someone wonderful on line. But I went through 160 other people first. No lie. 160 people.



LATEXBABY64 -> RE: So very disappointed (3/16/2006 9:39:22 AM)

i have to agree you have to cut through the mud just find someone that is of like thinking everyone has a mask and its what lies beneath that we have to discover
:)



BrianSenior -> RE: So very disappointed (3/16/2006 10:06:47 AM)

I met My wife on line in 2000 I have also had 2 relationsips from on line go real time. They lasted as long as they were supposed to. Having My wife on a forever basis is wonderful. If I meet some one else then like with the others, it will be grand while it lasts. When it is over, if it ends, we say good bye and retain the memories, experiences.



LilFiregirl -> RE: So very disappointed (3/16/2006 10:50:20 AM)

New person to the scene here. Hello all!

Talking with someone online and forming a bond to going to spend a weekend with them as the first time meeting is TOO huge a step and sometimes, you really want too and don't want to hurt the person you are speaking with because you generally do like them, have a connection with them.. but when push comes to shove.. meeting for a weeked is scary scary, too many presumptions, too risky, too big for failure.

Right now, i am speaking with someone but I would never meet him in that way. I would want to meet for a coffee or drink and see what happens. You may get perfectly along online but face it, physical connection and energy matters as well. I have met perfectly nice men in person and thought there could be something, but there is no energy there and we end up being friends instead.


i guess that is my babbling about the topic. lol



IndigoDadesi -> RE: So very disappointed (3/16/2006 11:02:49 AM)

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ORIGINAL: andy62
Perhaps I should not generalise but I am forced to conclude that 100% of the women that I have dealt with have been liars or timewasters and I think I have been fairly selective.


As much as that generalization may be true (I dont know) it seems rather harsh. I would sooner conclude that people are fragile, especially when it comes to relationships and have a big fear of regection. Even a potential with the noblest intentions can get cold feet.

I just recently set up two of my friends and things are going well now, but when they first met neither were sure about the other and Im sure that they would not have gone on a single date if I hadnt been there to push them together just a little.



moosesquirrel -> RE: So very disappointed (3/16/2006 11:47:13 AM)

I just hope you're a Dom because it's your natural tendency, and not because you're wanting to control a woman out of frustration about your life.

If it's frustration that motivates you, you're going to remain frustrated - I don't know of anyone who finds whining attractive.

I further hope that by "stay for the weekend," you meant you were putting her up in a hotel, and that she was to have a means of getting around on her own.

I can completely understand why someone who was being set up to stay in the home of someone who she had never met could get cold feet. Perhaps she should have handled letting you know better, but I would be wary of the intellect and self-worth of a woman who would spend the weekend at my home sight unseen.

And I'm surprised that someone who's an "expert" at as many things as you claim in your profile has such a hard time finding a partner.

Are you a troll, Andy?



Zensee -> RE: So very disappointed (3/16/2006 2:23:31 PM)

Don't know that he a troll moosesquirrel but it is curious that after almost a week he hasn't posted anything more than his initial rant, not even a thanks for all the responses he got. The guy's profile is less than communicative and enthusiastic too.

But this seems to be a common enough occurrence, that people come to the boards and post a question which is really just a complaint, then never return.

Luckily we all love the sound of our own voices. ;)



ExistentialSteel -> RE: So very disappointed (3/16/2006 4:29:21 PM)

The internet works for me. The giant sifter. Sort of like the magic fridge on the Bud Light commercials.



LATEXBABY64 -> RE: So very disappointed (3/16/2006 9:52:52 PM)

I do not know anymore i want real power we talk about dom to own your own corp have control of your desteny thats power thats control maybe theres a little dom in all of us shrugs :)



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