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ORIGINAL: Lucienne

I was raised in a military family. I... don't feel capable in this moment to describe how strange your question is. To love a military man is to accept that your individual needs will never be paramount.

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ORIGINAL: DrkJourney

Hmmmm....

Just like LP, mine was already in the military when I met him, he is in the reserves.  Your question is a good one because it does/will apply to me. 

Our first date, we stayed up all night talking because two days after that he had to go to training in another state for two weeks.  When he returned, there was definitely a change.  He called me at several stages en route, and the closer he got to the base, the more I could hear him changing from that sweet man I had just met literally hours earlier.

When he returned, he was different, kind of like old him and soldier mixed together.  We always had deployment hanging over our heads, so day by day he was still changing.  Although we tried not to get attached, we did...boy did we...lol  The first part of his deployment was in another state for three months...he really changed.  I went to visit him and the end of that three months, just before he went overseas and he was a robot, a man I didn't recognize.

Now he's deployed, and it sucks ass...lol (just ask LP how many times I cried on her shoulder...lol)

Although he has changed, I have noticed lately when he calls and the closer he gets to coming home that the old "him" is fighting to get through more and more.  So I'm sure with some TLC when he returns I can get him back to that place, and after we get used to each other again, and get back to our lives, I can start training him again, back to the slave we all know and love...lol   Honestly if you had asked me before he went overseas I would probably tell you that this "thing" was something that could never be a slave I would want....lol  I think for me the change had nothing to do with they dynamics as in his submissiveness (sp), because honestly he never lost that, he was just not the same person.  I understood why, and why it had to be, but doesn't mean I liked it...lol

About your question of someone enlisting and would I allow it.  This applies to me because he has stated that he wants to go in again full time.  I'm having enough trouble with part time...lol   But to answer your question, I have to let him go, if that's what they are meant to do, there is really nothing we can do to stop it, and I don't want to.  I would never forbid anything he has that much passion for, even though I do not want him to put himself in harms way ever again.   Even if you forbid him to go, and he obeyed, he would not be happy, probably turn resentful, and things would go down hill fast.

I rambled a lot...sorry about that...but I hope it helps, if even a little.

Trust me, I know how hard this all is...I wish you good luck...let me know if you need anything

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ORIGINAL: SomethingCatchy

I am not a god, and I have no business telling anyone they can't do something they are perfectly capable of doing.

From my personal experience with being in, around and dating military, a lot of the people who decide to join are incredibly immature. Since I don't like immature men, I've never dated anyone who's suddenly decided to join the military.

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ORIGINAL: Tinkerer

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ORIGINAL: SomethingCatchy

I am not a god, and I have no business telling anyone they can't do something they are perfectly capable of doing.

From my personal experience with being in, around and dating military, a lot of the people who decide to join are incredibly immature. Since I don't like immature men, I've never dated anyone who's suddenly decided to join the military.

But you dated me!

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ORIGINAL: allthatjaz

I take my hat off to our troops but Im afraid it would be a deal breaker for me.