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question from a (mostly) straight male - 11/16/2009 12:47:55 PM   
stripmymanhood


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Status: offline 		To the Masters....have you run into it often when men reach a certain age and suddenly decide they want to get fucked instead of fucking another...all through my 20s and 30s...i never had any desire of this sort...but for the last few years, i find i'm thinking more about having a man just take me...rough and hard...even now...thinking about it makes me get more of a 'stirring' than if i'm thinking about having sex with a woman....i'm just curious what your thoughts and experiences are with this.
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RE: question from a (mostly) straight male - 11/16/2009 1:14:38 PM   
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Status: offline 		Pretty sure that means you're at the very least a tiiinnnny bit gay.


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RE: question from a (mostly) straight male - 11/16/2009 2:51:14 PM   
stripmymanhood


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Status: offline 		i, uh, did say mostly straight, didn't i?

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Pretty sure that means you're at the very least a tiiinnnny bit gay.



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RE: question from a (mostly) straight male - 11/16/2009 3:10:57 PM   
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ORIGINAL: stripmymanhood

i, uh, did say mostly straight, didn't i?

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Pretty sure that means you're at the very least a tiiinnnny bit gay.



mostly straight generally means you are bi.


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RE: question from a (mostly) straight male - 11/16/2009 3:16:35 PM   
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Status: offline 		I am bi and I freely admit that.

I find that I get hit on by older men quite a lot, as a young dominant. Not entirely sure what that could mean  but it seems to corroborate the OP.

I'm more interested in people my own age generally though.

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RE: question from a (mostly) straight male - 11/16/2009 3:24:14 PM   
stripmymanhood


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Status: offline 		While i generally agree with this, i say mostly straight as i don't feel any romantic feelings towards men...just mainly into the sex part there


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ORIGINAL: stripmymanhood

i, uh, did say mostly straight, didn't i?

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ORIGINAL: BrokenSaint

Pretty sure that means you're at the very least a tiiinnnny bit gay.



mostly straight generally means you are bi.



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RE: question from a (mostly) straight male - 11/16/2009 3:32:06 PM   
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While i generally agree with this, i say mostly straight as i don't feel any romantic feelings towards men...just mainly into the sex part there
this is one of the stupidest things i have read lately.

Dude..."mostly straight" is not considered a sexual orientation...


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RE: question from a (mostly) straight male - 11/16/2009 4:08:15 PM   
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i don't feel any romantic feelings towards men


"Gay" and "straight" are sexual orientations. You have somehow managed to convince yourself you're straight. You're not.

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RE: question from a (mostly) straight male - 11/16/2009 4:46:24 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think it might have more to do with the fact that you're older and past your manly man impress the girls stage and into a more open minded I don't give a shit what others think anymore stage. Some people open up a lot more with age and experience.

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RE: question from a (mostly) straight male - 11/16/2009 4:53:36 PM   
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Whoo-hoo-hoo, look who knows so much! It just so happens that your friend here is only MOSTLY straight. There's a big difference between mostly straight and all straight. Mostly straight is slightly gay.

[/Billy Crystal voice]


I like how only two people have actually answered the fellow's question, with others whining about whether his apropos description was accurate. "Mostly straight" is a sexual orientation just fine. Sounds like a description synonymous to 'bisexual with a much heavier leaning to heterosexual interaction'. Really, the fixation on the word "straight" isn't coming out of the OP's commentary as much as those apparently bothered by his using it.



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RE: question from a (mostly) straight male - 11/16/2009 5:40:21 PM   
stripmymanhood


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ORIGINAL: sirsholly

quote:

While i generally agree with this, i say mostly straight as i don't feel any romantic feelings towards men...just mainly into the sex part there
this is one of the stupidest things i have read lately.

Dude..."mostly straight" is not considered a sexual orientation...



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RE: question from a (mostly) straight male - 11/16/2009 5:43:01 PM   
stripmymanhood


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Status: offline 		Thank you for getting to the crux of what i was saying...i do lean more towards the hetero than gay...and i dont' see myself having romantic feelings towards men...so i think my description, while apparently controversial, is fairly accurate.

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ORIGINAL: NihilusZero

[Billy Crystal voice]

Whoo-hoo-hoo, look who knows so much! It just so happens that your friend here is only MOSTLY straight. There's a big difference between mostly straight and all straight. Mostly straight is slightly gay.

[/Billy Crystal voice]


I like how only two people have actually answered the fellow's question, with others whining about whether his apropos description was accurate. "Mostly straight" is a sexual orientation just fine. Sounds like a description synonymous to 'bisexual with a much heavier leaning to heterosexual interaction'. Really, the fixation on the word "straight" isn't coming out of the OP's commentary as much as those apparently bothered by his using it.




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RE: question from a (mostly) straight male - 11/16/2009 5:44:47 PM   
stripmymanhood


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Status: offline 		you may be right, mmsprecious...i mean...i do care to the point where i wouldn't share this with the friends i've known for years and years...but it bothers me less that it's something i'm up for now...actually, i guess i'm not bothered by it at all...just something i've decided i'm into.

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ORIGINAL: mmsprecious

I think it might have more to do with the fact that you're older and past your manly man impress the girls stage and into a more open minded I don't give a shit what others think anymore stage. Some people open up a lot more with age and experience.


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RE: question from a (mostly) straight male - 11/16/2009 5:51:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		I like Fetlifes,"heteroflexible". By the way, I am like you. While I have liked playing with women when a guy is there too, I could never be romantically involved with women. SO I too am "mostly straight".

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RE: question from a (mostly) straight male - 11/16/2009 5:52:55 PM   
stripmymanhood


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Status: offline 		thanks lusciouslips...it's good to know i'm not alone

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RE: question from a (mostly) straight male - 11/16/2009 7:40:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		As a side note.....a male doesn't need to be romantically drawn to another male to be considered bi or gay. To answer your OP, it is possible that at this stage in your life, you understand yourself better and you are more comfortable with your sexuality enough that the concept of being roughly taken by another male is desirable? 

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RE: question from a (mostly) straight male - 11/16/2009 9:51:44 PM   
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ORIGINAL: stripmymanhood
have you run into it often when men reach a certain age and suddenly decide they want to get fucked instead of fucking another...all through my 20s and 30s...i never had any desire of this sort...but for the last few years, i find i'm thinking more about having a man just take me...rough and hard...even now...thinking about it makes me get more of a 'stirring' than if i'm thinking about having sex with a woman....i'm just curious what your thoughts and experiences are with this.


i understand completely where you're coming from.  The fantasy that you describe is not one that i share, but i have had similar feelings about other fantasies. 

As i get older, i find that i am much more comfortable in my own skin.  i don't really care what others think anymore.  At this stage in life, i am much more into self-exploration.  i want to learn new things, and explore new areas.  Many of the things that used to get me excited when i was in my 20's don't excite me as much anymore.  i've had to try new things to get the same level of arousal/satisfaction that a simple blowjob would give me when i was 20.  That's pretty normal. 

Sexual activity is often like drugs; over time, it takes larger doses or new drugs to get the same level of high.

It sounds to me like you are at a place in life where you are comfortable in your own skin, and you are now willing to explore new sexual areas.  In my opinion, as long as what you are doing isn't illegal, or doesn't hurt anyone (who doesn't want to be hurt), then go for it.  After trying it, you may discover that you hate it.  Or you may find that you love it.  But the only way to know is to try.  Heck, some of the things that i've enjoyed most were things that i was originally scared or reluctant to try.

So go ahead and give it a shot.  If you find that you like being taken by a man, then cool.  If you find that you don't like it, then don't do it again.  Either way, at least you'll know.  Life is too short to deny ourselves our fantasies because we are too scared to make them our realities.

BTW, ignore all of those people who tried to label you.  Who cares if they think it is "gay" or "bi" or whatever?  That wasn't your question.  Their labels are irrelevant.

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RE: question from a (mostly) straight male - 11/17/2009 4:44:43 AM   
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Status: offline 		You're bi, you did not grow up in a home/community where this would have been applauded so you suppressed it. Now, since you're well on your own you are able to let out those unfulfilled yearnings and seek to explore them.

Bi is a matter of sex, and although it may not matter to you if you have casual sex with men, your wife (if you have one) will care. In fact she will see this as cheating.

So discuss it with your partner before doing. And use condoms, bareback is stupid.
However the first time or times getting anal can hurt, a lot. Lots of lube and you may with to experiment at home first with a series of butt plugs so that your first time doesn't end in an ER getting sewn back up.

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RE: question from a (mostly) straight male - 11/17/2009 4:59:43 AM   
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So discuss it with your partner before doing. And use condoms, bareback is stupid.
However the first time or times getting anal can hurt, a lot. Lots of lube and you may with to experiment at home first with a series of butt plugs so that your first time doesn't end in an ER getting sewn back up.


This is good advice, but I'd be kind of surprised if the OP is an ass virgin.

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RE: question from a (mostly) straight male - 11/17/2009 11:20:32 AM   
stripmymanhood


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Status: offline 		Lucienne....you are correct....and Des...i'm not married...so no partner can accuse me of cheating.

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ORIGINAL: Lucienne

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

So discuss it with your partner before doing. And use condoms, bareback is stupid.
However the first time or times getting anal can hurt, a lot. Lots of lube and you may with to experiment at home first with a series of butt plugs so that your first time doesn't end in an ER getting sewn back up.


This is good advice, but I'd be kind of surprised if the OP is an ass virgin.



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