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MsStarlett -> RE: Rude People and Responses (11/17/2009 5:55:41 AM)
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I believe we all get frustrated sometimes and lash out or ignore the poor soul who just happens to have the bad timing to send a message on a bad day. Don't think to much of it. If it's someone you are really interested in, TRY AGAIN.
As mentioned before, most men seem to complain about women who either do not respond at all or who are rude. Most women complain about men who bombard them with sexually explicit messages. This doesn't seem to matter if you are Dom or sub, it seems to be across the board a male/female problem.
Let me give you guys a little hint.... Most women on the internet - not just this site, but pretty much all 'Adult' venues - get slammed with messages that boil down to "I'm horney. Let's fuck. I need a free whore in my life. You've got the parts I want so Tag! you're it." This can be said crudely or politely, but either way, it's all rather insulting. While a man tends to want all the sex he can get from anyone willing to put out, women want and NEED a connection to the human being first, then, IF they like you and feel that connection, the sex will follow. (Note that I said TENDS to be that way - not all cases! - but the majority holds true on the 'dating scene'.)
Think of it this way.... In a bar, there are lots of men and women sitting around. Each is lonely and looking for a partner. People can SEE each other circling around. All the men hit on the most physically attractive women first. Each uses his best line. The pretty women feel like brainless meat because none of these guys even wants to know her name, much less anything else about her wants, desires, needs, likes or dislikes. They don't want to waste time on polite converstion, they just want to skip over all that stuff for sex, because HEY! You're sitting in a bar! You don't want a relationship, just sex. Right? That's all *I* am here for, so you must feel the same way.
When the man gets regected, everyone sees him move on to the next woman and try again. It's bloody obviouse that the guy only want to get laid by the prettiest woman he can get and doesn't give a damn about the 'person' inside the body. By the time he gets around to the less attractive woman, he's down to "I think your hot. Let's do it." She feels like dirt and tells him to piss off. She gets called a bitch. This happens over and over and over again.
Finally, a sincere guy sees a woman who has a book by an author he enjoys. He tries to say something about the book. She is still feeling used and insulted because SO MANY jackasses have approached her with bad pick up lines. She thinks THIS guy is just working another angle to get a free piece of ass and tells him to piss off or ignores him. He slinks off into the darkness because he has been rejected. She thinks "See? I knew you didn't really want to talk to me. You just wanted sex. You don't give a damn about ME either." She becomes more and more jaded in her responces.
Guys. If you ACTUALLY LIKE a woman, then TALK TO HER! Keep talking to her. Let her know that you are actually interested in some part of her life, not just her physical appearance, and that you are intelligent enough to carry on a normal conversation.
If you don't want to be treated like a dick with ears, then stop ACTING like one. Act like a man, or at least a human being. Act like a friend. Act like an internet 'dating' forum is just like real life dating because it is. Don't think that you can skip over the 'getting to know you' part. If there was a woman that you liked in real life who didn't give you the time of day the first time you spoke, did you stop speaking to her? Did you stop smiling and waving when you passed? Did you stop trying to get noticed? If that didn't work for you in life, why do you think it would work on the net???
Everytime a sincere man STOPs talking to a woman on the net because he didn't get the responce he wanted the first time, it just reinforces the concept that 'all men are dogs who only want one thing'.
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