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RE: Motivations - 3/17/2006 7:58:49 AM

edianspet

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I find there are different levels, or layers of my feminine nature.

On the surface, I have a female body. I can relate to it being a compliment for the male species.

Underneath that there is this fierce femininity, it can control and manipulate and is highly intelligent, that part of me wants to be proven to. I can relate to that as a challenge to the male species, almost a taunt to prove themselves worthy of it. (Damn writing that I scared myself). Its not really a taunt though, more of a "Can you recognise my role in regards to your own masculinity", its that kinda challenge.

Underneath that there is a soft surrendering femininity, it longs to submit to its male counterpart and *taken* control of. Its the part that is the deepest and gives me the most fulfillment.

Submitting to my partner and Master has a deep spiritual significance to me. It plays out on levels that I know myself.

Slavejali, beautifully said and fully agreed with.

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RE: Motivations - 3/17/2006 3:59:59 PM

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In all of my vanilla relationships, I was the more dominant partner. I took care of the bills, cooked, cleaned, decided what was for dinner, what movie we were going to see, etc. My partner was very passive, so I took control.
By the end of that relationship I was simply sick and tired of it. I made a mental decision that I didn't want to play that role anymore. I didn't want to make decisions; I didn't want to take control of every situation. I found that I much preferred taking a submissive role.

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what element of your self you fulfill, that makes you feel complete in a relationship in which you have chosen to give complete control.

In being submissive quite a few previously empty holes are now being filled. I crave the safety and security of a dominant. The trust of allowing him to hold a knife to my throat and know that he would never (severely) harm me. Knowing that I'm his most prized possession. These feelings make me complete as a person.

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was easy for you to embrace and cultivate or if this was something you struggled with reconciling with in your self. Is this self-awareness important to you or is it just something you accept with out examining much?

There are lots of things that were difficult for me to embrace as a submissive. I can, as he puts it, be "An obstinate little bitch". It's a part of me that I have to work to suppress. A lot of times he'll tell me to do something and I'll be feeling particularly feisty and I'll say "no", simply because it's like a game to me.
I'm still working on diminishing those tendencies. It's a process. ;)

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RE: Motivations - 3/18/2006 5:43:50 PM

Sirandlittle1

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My motivations are a little skewiff from most.
I am a dominant female personality type.
I am generally kinky, and have enjoyed kinky play since i was sexually active. So that is not why i am submissive. I got that in the vanilla world easily enough.

However, what i also found in vanilla, was i would eventually take over in a relationship, run everything, make my male partner completely dependant on me, then feel aggreived that i was never 'taken care of', always the caregiver. So at that point, i chose to become a submissive to a dominant male. Finding him took ages.

I need to feel precious, cherished, cared for, controlled, dominated to be content. That is what motivates me to be his submissive. What keeps me submissive, is that its constantly re-inforced in a 24/7 D/s dynamic. Underpinned in our love of each other and wanting to bring happiness to each other. He understands i will take over given the chance, and is strong enough to stop this occuring. With him, i simply do not wish to control, as i am far more content within myself to accept his control and seek it. I am far more 'connected' to my dominant, than i have ever found before.

Im not that keen on labels, and have yet to find one that i feel i fit, so dont try, but for purposes of this board, i use the term submissive. As that is what i am doing right now. With previous partners, i have topped and switched. But that was kink, not a head space thing, just kinky sexual pleasure and or fetish.

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RE: Motivations - 3/18/2006 7:20:10 PM

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It is not so much a motivation for me, but an inner drive which i could not ignore.

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