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RE: Messaging subs on here - 11/22/2009 1:11:24 PM

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RE: Messaging subs on here - 11/22/2009 1:21:23 PM

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Do you know something I don't know? He's young, and perhaps living in the clue-free zone, but that doesn't make him a troll.

I stand by what I said.

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RE: Messaging subs on here - 11/22/2009 2:24:11 PM

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quote:

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Llyren

Do you know something I don't know? He's young, and perhaps living in the clue-free zone, but that doesn't make him a troll.

I stand by what I said.

Cali

I agree with you Cali. I just perved his profile and I'm impressed that he took the suggestion to get rid of all the "Expert"s in the profile aside from the one for Martial Arts.

OP you've got a really good profile, although it would be nice to see more of what you are looking for in a sub.

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RE: Messaging subs on here - 11/22/2009 3:19:59 PM

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Ive never had a profile on a bdsm website. Profiles on here are pretty incomplete sometimes. If it seems like Im just spitting back out the stuff on my profile in a copy and paste sort of way its because I am. I have been for years. Unfortunately sometimes one gets better responses for time spent to go for ctrl c rather then type every random person that may or may not respond their own special message. I was trying to figure out what the norm was for this site vs the vanilla ones ive been using.

I really do appreciate all the non retarded feedback and the laughs you guys have given me today.

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RE: Messaging subs on here - 11/22/2009 3:23:28 PM

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I would seriously advise you to look at the profile and write something original that mentions something you saw there. We really can tell the difference especially since we do look at the profiles of the men who contact us and seeing something there that was also in the message will just make us roll our eyes and delete.

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RE: Messaging subs on here - 11/22/2009 3:23:41 PM

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Then I rescind the troll accusation. I'm usually able to admit when I'm wrong. I do tend to view anyone who claims to be an expert at -everything- as a troll, or worse. My apologies.

And no, I'm not being snarky.

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RE: Messaging subs on here - 11/22/2009 3:38:50 PM

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To the OP

It is one of life's more cruel truths that the girls who are eager to be ordered to come over to our house for a quick ass-fuck are so scarce as to be nonexistent.
This is the heavy burden we men must carry. It is the acceptance of this cold terrible truth that gives us our sober gravitas, the steely gimlet eyed visage experienced Ass-Fuck Questers have.

At some point a man's epic quest to an Ass-Fuck leads through the dark and dangerous territory of Conversation, which demands he master the art of speaking, and listening both, and engaging in the epic struggle of "a Relationship"; it involves learning such skills as having dinner, learning to use utensils, blowing one's nose in a tissue, instead of one's sleeve.

Along the journey, he encounters pitfalls such as the dreaded "Keeping Your Eyes Off Other Girls At A Restaurant", or "Not Hitting On Her Roommate", and diabolical riddles such as "Do these jeans make my butt look bigger than it used to?"- the wrong answer leads to a night of wanking alone.

Some men have been forced to sit through a showing of "Sex and The City", in their pursuit of the Ass-Fuck; others have had to shower and brush their teeth, and avoid farting for an entire evening. Even if he can fart the alphabet.

Yes, it is a difficult quest. It is not for the faint hearted, or the weak willed.

Man up, my friend. The Pursuit of the Golden Ass awaits.

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RE: Messaging subs on here - 11/22/2009 4:18:22 PM

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I really do appreciate all the non retarded feedback and the laughs you guys have given me today.

Well, since you put it that way, then I am obligated to provide some non-retarded feedback.

It is interesting...I have seen quite a few profiles from submissive women who claim to want to be "treated like a worthless pig", a "cumbucket with no rights", who demand that "if you treat me like a girlfriend, I will spit on you", that "I need to be used hard and beaten" blah blah blah.
Yet it turns out that they are very selective in who they allow to treat them that way.

In fact, even the most craven slave slut who dreams of being ordered onto her knees to be ass-fucked without tenderness or foreplay, is still a woman who needs to be seduced, wooed, courted and charmed. After a process of earning her trust, of getting her to develop desire and love and affection....then, and only then, will she give the green light to being beaten and slaveraped.

And yeah, it takes a while...its more difficult to find a compatible slave, than a girlfriend. So patience is your friend. And don't be surprised by contradictory responses; some girls really want a relationship, others want just play sessions; some want a gentleman, some want a bad boy...this isn't any easier than a singles bar, but has another layer of complexity to it.

Overall, hanging out on the message boards will give you some good notions of how different people think.
Good luck.

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RE: Messaging subs on here - 11/22/2009 4:42:53 PM

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Im new to this web site and just looking for a strategy for getting desired responses from subs.

My previous experience in messaging women on the internet usually requires that I beat around the bush. ie How are you doing? Do you like zombie movies? Do you like nature? Do you like my little gay dog? etc etc

Should I be asking these questions or do I need to change them up? Do I need to just order girls to come over and get assfucked in their first message instead?

You need to grow up as your profile states. Redo your profile and refrain from making less than intelligent remarks in your posts

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RE: Messaging subs on here - 11/22/2009 5:25:07 PM

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Okay that does it Rex, I love you....marry me?

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RE: Messaging subs on here - 11/22/2009 5:29:55 PM

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dude
that was funny

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RE: Messaging subs on here - 11/22/2009 5:59:10 PM

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In fact, even the most craven slave slut who dreams of being ordered onto her knees to be ass-fucked without tenderness or foreplay, is still a woman who needs to be seduced, wooed, courted and charmed.

Get. Outa. My. HEAD!

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RE: Messaging subs on here - 11/22/2009 6:36:49 PM

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RE: Messaging subs on here - 11/23/2009 9:28:35 PM

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ORIGINAL: Joediaf
Im new to this web site and just looking for a strategy for getting desired responses from subs.

My previous experience in messaging women on the internet usually requires that I beat around the bush. ie How are you doing? Do you like zombie movies? Do you like nature? Do you like my little gay dog? etc etc

Should I be asking these questions or do I need to change them up? Do I need to just order girls to come over and get assfucked in their first message instead?

I understand your dilemma. Here are a few suggestion.

1) Don't bother with any of that touchy-feely crap. They won't respect your dominance if you're nice to them.

2) The preferred greeting is "Yo bitch!". Women love it when you approach them like that. It shows that you can announce your presence with authority.

3) Post lots of cock shots on your profile. The women here REALLY seem to like that.

i don't know if those suggestions will improve your success rate. But they can't possibly make it any worse.

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RE: Messaging subs on here - 11/23/2009 10:14:27 PM

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If you did walk up to a girl in local bar and asked her "Do you wanna fuck?" You probably get you face slapped. Maybe great for someone with a humilation and face slapping fetish, but not productive for anything else. So why use the same method on the net?
Many years back i did see it work. We where 4 guys getting a litle joyfull at some very fancy joint in Johannesburg and the discussion came up. Well we dared one of the guys to try it on the next good looking chick entering the place. Well in comes this gorgeous redhead and of he goes, with us grinning behind him. Well to our total shock she waltsed out with him on the double. We did remain in the place for a while, suddenly he comes storming back in to the place highly flustered. Well they got back in to her place which was quite cloose and having a good grooping and kissing session where he stuck his hand up under her skirt and did find a dick. He said he never cooled of so quickly before. Jesus crist how we laughed. Anywhere we did say he won the bet after a litlle tecnical resistance

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RE: Messaging subs on here - 11/23/2009 10:19:56 PM

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IMO, if he didn't do the deed, he lost the bet. But wouldn't you have loved to have been there at the moment of revelation? Preferably with a camera. I'm surprised he actually admitted it to you, though.

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RE: Messaging subs on here - 11/23/2009 10:31:16 PM

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It is the acceptance of this cold terrible truth that gives us our sober gravitas, the steely gimlet eyed visage experienced Ass-Fuck Questers have.

Thank you. I haven't laughed like that in some time. You've made my evening.

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RE: Messaging subs on here - 11/23/2009 10:39:56 PM

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ORIGINAL: AnimusRex

Man up, my friend. The Pursuit of the Golden Ass awaits.

Reading this totally made not being able to sleep worth it. And it's so true...

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RE: Messaging subs on here - 11/24/2009 9:10:26 AM

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Well, I would suggest starting with “Hello”. And open with a what ever attracted you to their profile.

“I noticed we were in the same city…
“You have nice pictures…
“In your profile you said you loved getting assfucked… well guess what…

I like it when the first email is an expression of interest with out being creepy. Then one or two emails of “What are you in to?” and “You’re not allergic to peanut butter are you?”. Then, if the cyber foreplay is going well the invitation to assfuck.

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RE: Messaging subs on here - 11/24/2009 10:31:28 AM

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Be patient. Your profile is thoughtful and intelligent and I’m sure you will eventually find a significant other who is a good match for you.

As for the quick ass-fuck . . . As much as I enjoy ass-fucking, I wouldn’t do it with a random guy I didn’t know. I’m sure there are women out there who feel differently, and maybe you’ll be lucky enough to find one, but in the meantime, I suggest you just get to know people here. You know the old saying about how when you look for something, you don’t find it, but when you stop looking, it shows up? Maybe if you stop looking for the quick ass-fuck, it will show up. (I know that sounds snarky, but I really do mean it sincerely.)

I also really like TimrehIX's suggestion about saying, "In your profile you said you loved getting assfucked… well guess what…" It means roughly the same as, "Hey, wanna get fucked in the ass?" but sounds much less asshole-ish.

Good luck.

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