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RE: I'm in charge...he's in charge.... - 3/14/2006 6:18:38 AM

sunshine333

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"never be too good at anything because then it will always be expected of you."

WOW! that's a pretty fucked up way of thinking.

smilezz ... it was meant lightheartedly to illustrate a point.

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RE: I'm in charge...he's in charge.... - 3/14/2006 2:27:01 PM

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THis is one of the reasons that Ms and Ds has very little to do with power and control.

It's about authority.

WHo decides what decisions are made? Who decides the final say?

you know i FIANLLY get what you mean by that. all this time.. "aa du du duh" i understand the OP as well. same situation almost here. i swear if it wasnt for me everything in my house would fall apart. Literally! Sometimes i feel like i'm the one in control as i remind him "eating healthy is GOOD for you" "getting enough sleep is GOOD for you" And i'll get on him, cos well you NEED your sleep. i'll remind him about being finacially responsible. i'll point out long term goals when he gets eager about short term goals.

Basically sometimes it feels like i'm leading the team. Wondered the same thing the OP wonders.. but eh.. i think LA said it best.

Finally makes sense. Its NOT about control. Its about authority. i havent the last word. i can talk till i'm blue in the face about eating healthy, but when he says "go get me some ice cream, whipped cream and chocolate topping" i go get it. If he wants hamburger (eeek.. ugg.. yuck) helper for dinner, guess what its for dinner.

i have always tried to put it down that subs/slave are there to service the ones their with. Its a service to remind him to eat healthy, sleep well, look long term and not short term, ect. He'll do what he thinks is best. Sometimes.. sometimes.. when it comes to flaws.. i think it might be a service to help those along in a better place. We all have them.

For example - your Top cusses like only a sailor would want to hear. Yet it puts ppl off. Wouldnt it be a service to mention it to your Top that while you know its just apart of their speech it puts others off? Its not telling them what to do, but bringing it to their attention.. what they do about it is their business. Flip side - you could keep your mouth shut and so called Top could cuss up a storm in a business meeting and lose an important contract. If you had mentioned that it puts ppl off.. he/she might of gotten the contract.

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RE: I'm in charge...he's in charge.... - 3/14/2006 3:30:58 PM

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I understand what you are saying, sunshine...i was just shocked at the boss' statement.

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RE: I'm in charge...he's in charge.... - 3/14/2006 4:21:44 PM

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ORIGINAL: SweetEscravo
I guess what I am asking is this:

Because of this situation, where I am in control of certain things at certain times, does that make me any less submissive/him less dominant? I personally don't think so, but I am wondering what other people think, as well as how I can get him to make more decisions and everything else. Thanks.

I think that as long as he is the one having you make the decisions then he is most definently in control and dominant.

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RE: I'm in charge...he's in charge.... - 3/15/2006 5:10:45 AM

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The mature realize those that are better at a task should perform it. The immature feel they need to do everything, be everything, and say everything, whether they are productive or not.

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