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How to aproach a slave on the net? - 3/13/2006 4:57:07 PM

kloobe333

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When a would-be slave posts on the internet seeking a dom, how should a dom introduce himself?

I see a lot of replys that come on very strong/abusive is this propper? or is a more toned down 'get to know you' approach better?

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RE: How to aproach a slave on the net? - 3/13/2006 5:07:23 PM

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be honest and try not to approach owned subs/slaves

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RE: How to aproach a slave on the net? - 3/13/2006 5:32:46 PM

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When a would-be slave posts on the internet seeking a dom, how should a dom introduce himself?

With courtesy and good manners.

Not surprisingly, that's also how subs should introduce themselves to Dominants as well.

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RE: How to aproach a slave on the net? - 3/13/2006 5:56:54 PM

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Apropriate manners go a long way

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RE: How to aproach a slave on the net? - 3/13/2006 6:27:33 PM

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Obviously not with a well thought out and written note to them. They all complain that they get one liners and "kneel bitch" but what about the ones who have taken the time to actually think, write a few paragraphs of introduction to only have nothing in return..............ah isnt the net a fun place....................

Honestly be yourself and treat them as you would meeting them in a public place.

If that doesnt work tell them to get on your knees bitch ...........lol

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RE: How to aproach a slave on the net? - 3/13/2006 6:55:39 PM

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a few simple sentices of introduction are nice it doesnt have to pages and pages. be polite those kneal bi tch messages tend to get ppl blocked. :) I usualy get Hi, noticed your profile thought I would say hi. and I respond to those.

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RE: How to aproach a slave on the net? - 3/13/2006 7:37:55 PM

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When I was single, the introductions that appealed to me the most were the ones that were almost vanilla in nature. Polite, well written with decent spelling and basic grammar skills, etc., and was just that -- a basic introduction pretty much as you would to any person, submissive or otherwise.

I personally did not like emails that just said "Hi." or "Hi, nice profile." That's a comment, not an introduction. Give me something to respond TO, but yet it doesn't have to be more than a few sentences either. Friendly, some humor can be nice, just general getting-to-know-you chat.

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RE: How to aproach a slave on the net? - 3/13/2006 8:02:41 PM

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I have to agree with the others here. A nice how are you, saw your profile, would like to get to know you better, works for me better than the ones that are rude. The ones that come on too strong are the ones I'm not going to answer. Otherwise, even if I'm not interested, but the email was polite and friendly, I'm going to respond.

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RE: How to aproach a slave on the net? - 3/13/2006 8:51:40 PM

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When I was single, the introductions that appealed to me the most were the ones that were almost vanilla in nature. Polite, well written with decent spelling and basic grammar skills, etc., and was just that -- a basic introduction pretty much as you would to any person, submissive or otherwise.

That pretty much sums it up for me. I prefer to be approached as a human being, with the same respect you'd offer any stranger you met a party at your mother's house. LOL

Leave the sexual stuff to the side until you know if you even like the person behind the labels. Keep in mind that you are strangers, and not automatically privy to any details about the other's sexual life, or anything of the like, just because you meet on a site like collarme.

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RE: How to aproach a slave on the net? - 3/13/2006 8:52:11 PM

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Proper use of grammar and correct spelling is always a bonus!

Replys = Replies
Propper = Proper
Apropriate = Appropriate
isnt = isn’t
doesnt = doesn’t
sentices = sentences
kneal = kneel
usualy = usually

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RE: How to aproach a slave on the net? - 3/13/2006 8:54:25 PM

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Just be yourself.

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ORIGINAL: kloobe333

When a would-be slave posts on the internet seeking a dom, how should a dom introduce himself?

I see a lot of replys that come on very strong/abusive is this propper? or is a more toned down 'get to know you' approach better?

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RE: How to aproach a slave on the net? - 3/13/2006 11:41:26 PM

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Well a big thing for me, as mentioned above, is proper spelling and grammar. No "net speak". I like to recieve a completely vanilla email containing details about the person. It should give me a feel for their personality and show me what makes them different from the 5 gazillion other guys who write me emails. If he mentions ANYTHING about sex, my body, etc , and I mean ANYTHING, I will not respond. Even if I thought he was the coolest guy on earth, I wouldn't have sex with him until I'd dated him for a couple of months, so why bother discussing sex so early on? For that matter, once I agree to have sex with him, there won't be any bdsm activities for several months after THAT (I have to really trust the guy first and be in love with him), so there isn' t much point discussing bdsm early on either, other than just a basic discussion of simple criteria the person is desiring. I'm not primarily looking for a sex partner or a bdsm parter...I'm looking for the love of my life. Besides, discussing sex with a potential partner you haven't met yet is inappropriate and rude. If he wants to get to know me, he should approach me as he would any other girl he'd met in any other situation.

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RE: How to aproach a slave on the net? - 3/13/2006 11:49:35 PM

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When a would-be slave posts on the internet seeking a dom, how should a dom introduce himself?

You've received several good replies so far. I would add that it doesn't hurt to tell someone what it was about their post which attracted you in the first place.

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RE: How to aproach a slave on the net? - 3/14/2006 2:17:48 AM

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You've received several good replies so far. I would add that it doesn't hurt to tell someone what it was about their post which attracted you in the first place.

Good addition Bita. I'll add too that i like something contained in the letter that i can reply to such as what they are seeking, past experience, hobbies, etc. Anything that may pique my interest and give me reason to reply. There is nothing harder than trying to respond to an email that simply states they found your profile nice....and they have little in their own profile that shows any common interests you may have.

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RE: How to aproach a slave on the net? - 3/14/2006 3:41:27 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: kloobe333

When a would-be slave posts on the internet seeking a dom, how should a dom introduce himself?

I see a lot of replys that come on very strong/abusive is this propper? or is a more toned down 'get to know you' approach better?

No it is not proper. Frankly if a Dom is being abusive then he isn't fit to use the lable and is frankly IMO more likely to be some pock-faced nerd who would wet himself if he ever found himself alone in a room with a real life woman.... as his total and utter lack of social skills would seem to indicate!

As for comming on strong, by which I take it you mean trying to give orders before getting to know the person and some kind of submission has at least begun.
No that isn't proper either, but is more likely to be inexperience and a lack of understanding of the nature of the D/s dynamic. She maybe a sub, but till she submits she isn't YOUR sub!

Personaly I try to be clear, honest and polite. I usualy refer to the points in the profile I see as possible common ground and invite the girl to look through my own profile to see if she can see firther ones, giving a base from which to start a conversation. If the profile raises questions then I ask them clearly and directly. It is better to find out the answer and avoid wasting time if it is something that is going to be a red flag!

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RE: How to aproach a slave on the net? - 3/14/2006 4:46:40 AM

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My advice would be to be mannerly...which is the way you should conduct your life in all of its aspects, however, I shall also add this.

Approach with caution......Who the hell knows who you are really chatting with on the net, until you atleast get to voice communication and potential meetings. Don't wear you heart on your sleeve, just because you think you have found someone who is willing to submit to you, but the only submission is on line and lastly, set up a meeting as soon as possible. It is truly the only way to know if the relationship has a chance...in my humble opinion.

Fastlane goes back to rubbing the leg he shaved, so he has something soft to rub while he jacks off. The Net can be a lonely place.......

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RE: How to aproach a slave on the net? - 3/14/2006 5:03:50 AM

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For me,

i get the following usually:

Hi i read your profile and found it and your intriguing, can we chat.
Hi, i liked your profile would like to get to know you better

Though nice and polite, they don't tell me anything. The thing is, i then look at their profile and they are 1) outside my age range, or 2) Say they are looking for a sub or are 5'3 etc and the best one is when you tell me you will cherish the gift i give you in my submission.. My profile and journal is clear of what i am and who i am looking for, and to me it tells me either they really didn't read my profile or don't care what i am looking for. At least acknowledge why you are messaging me if you are different than what my preferences state or profile indicates etc. As someone else said, tell me a little why you found my profile intriguing or why you liked it or felt the urge to write to me.

Also as some others have stated, if you are trying to make a good impression on a written venue, grammer and spelling does count. Everyone makes typos, but if your email and profile are full of them, i hate to say it but you come across as uneducated.

Also, what i never reply to lol is the ones that lecture as a last sentence of "Please reply even with a no thank you, it is only polite." or something along those lines. It is a major turn off because it comes across as either lecturing or whining.

I also don't respond to people who have not at least said something of what they are looking for, who they are, etc in the written part of their profile. This is simply a personal preference of mine, to see what you have to say for yourself on a basic level. If you don't have a profile, then you should sort of put one in your message to give some basic background, what you are looking or, or who you are idea.

The thing is, when you opt to approach someone, it is your responsibility to somehow 1) grasp their attention, 2) sell yourself enough to have the person's interest perked enough to respond, 3) make a good impression, 4) draw her to you. If you use unoriginal messages don't expect a reply from many. Because more than likely, you have simply become part of a crowd. Its your job to make her want to single you out and draw her focus to you. IF you can't express your original qualities, don't expect her to pull them out of you.

In my opinion, if you call yourself a Master or a Dom and live as each of those, your confidence should show through in an email and you should know why you are different from other Men. That is what i want to know. Why should i spend my free time talking to you, and not someone else? i do in fact hold Men who identify as such at a higher standard of being able to pull and maintain my focus because of who they are and define themselves as.

angel

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RE: How to aproach a slave on the net? - 3/14/2006 5:05:04 AM

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ORIGINAL: fastlane
Approach with caution......Who the hell knows who you are really chatting with on the net, until you atleast get to voice communication and potential meetings. Don't wear you heart on your sleeve, just because you think you have found someone who is willing to submit to you, but the only submission is on line and lastly, set up a meeting as soon as possible. It is truly the only way to know if the relationship has a chance...in my humble opinion.

Good advice there Kevin. I picked up a bruise or two by letting hopes and feelings run ahead of the reality before learning that lesson about how things are likely to be when doing this on the net. It isn't real till you can hold her in your arms, look into her eyes and she is saying "I am yours"

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RE: How to aproach a slave on the net? - 3/14/2006 5:44:14 AM

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ORIGINAL: RavenMuse

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ORIGINAL: fastlane
Approach with caution......Who the hell knows who you are really chatting with on the net, until you atleast get to voice communication and potential meetings. Don't wear you heart on your sleeve, just because you think you have found someone who is willing to submit to you, but the only submission is on line and lastly, set up a meeting as soon as possible. It is truly the only way to know if the relationship has a chance...in my humble opinion.

Good advice there Kevin. I picked up a bruise or two by letting hopes and feelings run ahead of the reality before learning that lesson about how things are likely to be when doing this on the net. It isn't real till you can hold her in your arms, look into her eyes and she is saying "I am yours"

My dear Kevin and Raven,

As usual, you both offer great advice. I just need to tell you personally, what I often say to my computer monitor. I very much enjoy both of your quick and clever witty comment. The fact that it is usually dead on only adds to my enjoyment. Keep up the good work gents!

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RE: How to aproach a slave on the net? - 3/14/2006 6:13:12 AM

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