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sunshinemiss -> RE: Announcing relationships (11/27/2009 3:43:15 PM)
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ORIGINAL: AnimusRex
Sunshinemiss-
Your comment probably holds true for more than a few D types; Um, deception and cheating are not exactly unheard of online. In fact, some men, even in reallife, have been known to keep several girls juggling in the air, unaware of each other. Shocking, but true.
But you may be using too broad a brush. For some it may be nothing more than the difference between the genders; when a man gives a girl an engagement ring, he doesn't immediately call his friends and squeal with excitement over a lunch.
For many women, especially submissive women, their self-identity is very much defined by their man; This is why even in a post-feminist age, many women still change their surname.
Men don't tend to see their woman as so integral a part of their identity; I prominently and often speak of Kim only because she exemplifies so much that is perfect and right with women.
Oh- and we men tend to be a bit clueless about how things like this affect women's feelings.
Never ascribe to malice, that which can be explained by stupidity.
Hello Mr. Animus Rex,
That makes very good sense. I appreciate the perspective.
sunshine
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His profile says he's *Happy and not looking, experienced, cynical and usually in control*......Mine says * Owned by someone experienced, cynical and usually in control*....
Neither of us mentions the other as neither of us care that much about a profile here.
Agirl - that is EXACTLY what I'm talking about. You mention him. Maybe not specifically, but you do say "someone"... According to what you have written, he does not mention you at all. I just wonder why. I will say that AR's explanation up above makes very good sense.
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I just think the dominants are more laid back about it for the most part.
Hello Don - a very interesting perspective... Kind of like "cool people" don't get all excited, but we geeks do!
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i don't really know why the OP has brought this up, as a Dom/Master not mentioning their sub/slave on their profile or signature does NOT denote not caring.
Katey,
I believe if you had really noted my post, I specifically said why. It irritates me and looks deceptive to me. I didn't hide what I was thinking. Nor did I hide the implication that perhaps I was overreacting.
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Before I meet NM I was speaking with a dom who wanted me to put him in my profile but refused to put me in his. That made it clear to me that he was still "playing the field".
That's what I'm talking about pixie.
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in many ways thats why we (women) value the statement so highly, for a guy to proudly announce his ownership is going that extra mile that theyre chemical make up really doesnt put as priority on the whole
in the end its a man thing, and really, to be honest, what woman really knows what goes on in their heads half the time [:)]
That's good lally....
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Why do you think some of the ones who do not mention partners actually have a partner? Do they tell you this later in emails?
Hi C and R,
Because I've met these guys. And I have seen them "work their stuff" while knowing the women they are involved with.
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ONCE I have COLLARED and own someone...I put it in..
that makes sense GM.
So in the end, I brought this up because something spurred my memory about this, and I got irritated. I have so often been sweet and diplomatic, I thought I'd try being a little less pale and put my irritation out. I'm allowed, after all.
Best, and thanks so much for all the input!
sunshine
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