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BrokenSaint -> RE: Behavior Vs. Emotion (12/6/2009 6:32:57 AM)
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ORIGINAL: NorthernGent
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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968
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ORIGINAL: NorthernGent
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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968
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ORIGINAL: NorthernGent
Where have you been?????
Welcome back. Pip pip. Cheerio.
Believe it or not Aileen I'm writing a book.....a book of short stories......comedy orientated.....yeah I know you need a sense of humour to explore comedy but stranger things have happened...
Cheers for the welcome......hope life is treating you well in Jersey.
Pip pip cheerio? What am I? A fuckin' toff with no claim to a personality? Is there a Yank equivalent or do you by-pass the small talk and go straight to shooting someone/anyone in the face?
Hahahaha. It was the only Britishy thing I could think of other than fish and chips.
Ah yes...how the mighty have fallen....our sole claim to worldwide recognition these days is a third-rate inexpensive fast food. And that's pretty much factual but no less emotionally charged.
Nah, theres tea. Fucking amaaaazing tea. Also many of your tv shows are dammed fantastic, and regularly inspire me to pirate the hell out of them.
But back on point. Emotion can respond to behavioral modification. However, you're looking at a big heaping helping of variables, most of which you will in pretty much all cases have no knowledge of. Not the least of which are the levels of chemicals floating around in their head at that particular moment. In any case, like I said, tooooo many variables are responsible for emotions.
The biggest evidence for emotions responding to behavior? We can intentionally make people feel like crap, or happy, etc. We do it all the time. Thus yes, emotion will often respond to behavior, and behavior modification.
However OP you seem to be aiming a bit in a different area here. Emotional issues happen to everyone. I don't think there is any difference in the percentage of the population compared to the bdsm population in individuals that know how to deal with them appropriately. But what I was going to continue with was already said far better by another
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ORIGINAL: PainfullyCurious
There is nothing wrong with seeking a partner who does not have a slew of baggage. That's fair. As a matter of fact, I do it myself. I used an example that was posted elsewhere on here, and that is an example of an extreme situation, so let's step away from that.
Let's move on. Someone close to your sub passes away. It happens.
She's going to have emotional issues for a while. That's what I mean when I talk about life throwing you a curve.
If you expect baggage to be neatly stowed and you expect complete honesty from her, how do you reconcile the two after a traumatic event?
Is your answer still: "I'm not a shrink."
Again, it's good to know yourself and it's fair if that's your answer, or even the answer of an overwhelming majority. This lifestyle might be easy to handle when things are good, but i'd like to think out what I'm in for when things are rough as well. If I'm not ready for it, one bad event would cause a huge chunk of my life to fall apart, instead of just being one bad event.
Hello,
A fundamentally compassionate, sensible person does not stop being so because he or she is "A Dom" or " a sub" (and the ones that feel that they must...well, tend to not be so successful in their interpersonal relationships). Likewise, a dominant/submissive can be a real shit and still be dominant/submissive. Dominants can be confused, inexperienced, inconsiderate, deceitful, hurtful--all too human, in other words. And then there are the ones that use their powers for good. Find one of those: an intelligent, humane man who also has a bone-deep predilection for control in his personal and sexual life, and all these kinds of questions become unnecessary.
Wishing you well,
aj
That really sums it up. People are people.
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