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Punishments for misbehavior - 11/29/2009 5:38:58 PM   
Lilpet4Master


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Status: offline 		My question is this....My Master wishes for me to make a list of those things "I hate to do most," my problem is that there really is not anything I HATE to do. I learned a long time ago that one does things because they need to be done, not whether you like them or not. How do I come up with a list of punishments that are more than; stand in the corner, kneel in silence and journal entries about my behavior? All suggestions are welcome.
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RE: Punishments for misbehavior - 11/29/2009 5:43:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		If punishments aren't needed, then you need to tell him that. Also that if he's looking for reasons to punish you so he can exercise his sadism, then that's his problem and he needs to come to grips with it.

I don't see how beating you for an hour will magically teach you how to cook a dish that is too complicated for your skill level. Or make you remember in a month not to do something once a month when with him that you do 20 times a day normally.

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RE: Punishments for misbehavior - 11/29/2009 5:53:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		Tell him that you hate eating chocolate.  Worth a try.

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RE: Punishments for misbehavior - 11/29/2009 5:57:06 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Lilpet4Master

My question is this....My Master wishes for me to make a list of those things "I hate to do most," my problem is that there really is not anything I HATE to do. I learned a long time ago that one does things because they need to be done, not whether you like them or not. How do I come up with a list of punishments that are more than; stand in the corner, kneel in silence and journal entries about my behavior? All suggestions are welcome.


in what constext did you learn that?

and since i am a masochist pain will not teach anything but rather the feeling i get from disapointing the Owner...

it could be forbid you from doing something you like  it could be a million things but it will depend on you...



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RE: Punishments for misbehavior - 11/29/2009 5:57:53 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

If punishments aren't needed, then you need to tell him that. Also that if he's looking for reasons to punish you so he can exercise his sadism, then that's his problem and he needs to come to grips with it.



I agree with this. What is he looking to accomplish with the punishment? If he is looking to change your behavior, then suggesting open communication and him telling how he honestly feels. Hearing that you let them down is often much more punishing than being made to kneel on rice.

If he looking for a reason to beat/torture you... then what reason does he need other than "I feel like beating you, bend over"?

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RE: Punishments for misbehavior - 11/29/2009 6:06:08 PM   
dreamerdreaming


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Status: offline 		If he needs/desires a punishment dynamic and you don't, you may be a mismatch. As said above: not everyone needs or desires it. My slaveboy and I don't.

If he wants to beat you and you want to be beaten (or whatever- insert activity here) then there need not be any reason apart from that. If I want to see my slaveboy suffer for me, then he is very happy to. Our mutual gratification is all the reason we need.

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RE: Punishments for misbehavior - 11/29/2009 6:11:22 PM   
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Status: offline 		When my Master and i 1st got together We talked about this. He decided that if He wanted to beat me He would....if He wanted to spank me He would.... tie me up, He would.... punishment was and is a separate issue.

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RE: Punishments for misbehavior - 11/29/2009 8:36:50 PM   
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Hearing that you let them down is often much more punishing than being made to kneel on rice.



That definitely has more impact, at least emotionally. The knowledge that i have let Him down or disappointed Him is far more agonising than any physical punishment He could give me.



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RE: Punishments for misbehavior - 11/29/2009 9:00:29 PM   
Drifa


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Status: offline 		To the OP, have you considered that this may not be about ways to punish you? Many dominants will require their subs to journal and do certain essay assignments. The purpose of these is often not at all what you would expect. They tend to be ways to let your dominant get into your mind.

Like any kind of personal writing, don't think about it, just write it and write FAST, so that you don't have time to analyze your thoughts. Spit the list out as fast as you can. Don't worry about hate vs. dislike, just write 'em down.

Drifting aside from the OP's writing assignment.... my favorite writing exercise I was made to do was a visualization exercise. For each step, I was told to close my eyes, and visualize the scene, then write a description in as much or as little detail as possible. Afterwards, we went over it, and I learned some surprising things about myself. I might actually start a thread with the visualization exercise for those who want to play with it.

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RE: Punishments for misbehavior - 11/29/2009 11:26:33 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Lilpet4Master

My question is this....My Master wishes for me to make a list of those things "I hate to do most," my problem is that there really is not anything I HATE to do.


Well, if there is a need for punishment, apparently "obey" isn't high on your list of favorite things to do.  So you could always give that a try.

Unless the real point of his assignment is that he is looking for a reason to punish you and wants to have a ready arsenal, and for that, I've got nuthin'.

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RE: Punishments for misbehavior - 11/30/2009 12:04:03 AM   
BIGLOVENJ


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Status: offline 		Who is your master? Mike Brady? "Marcia you have been naughty, what do you think would be a good punishment for you?"

As a slave owner its your master's responsibility to educate you to be pleasing to him, so that he can see you without blemish. Unfortunately it is soley and wholly his responsibility to punish bad behavior. And hopefully for you as his slave, in such a way that he never has to punish you for the same thing twice. Otherwise the lesson and the punishment were failures.


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RE: Punishments for misbehavior - 11/30/2009 1:04:26 AM   
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....That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish




But... but... what if they are atheists?

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RE: Punishments for misbehavior - 11/30/2009 1:07:13 AM   
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RE: Punishments for misbehavior - 11/30/2009 3:05:39 AM   
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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub


I agree with this. What is he looking to accomplish with the punishment? If he is looking to change your behavior, then suggesting open communication and him telling how he honestly feels. Hearing that you let them down is often much more punishing than being made to kneel on rice.

If he looking for a reason to beat/torture you... then what reason does he need other than "I feel like beating you, bend over"?


 
So very, very adequetly summed up.


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RE: Punishments for misbehavior - 11/30/2009 3:37:47 AM   
antipode


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my problem is that there really is not anything I HATE to do


So discuss that with him. Coming here to ask contorted questions about a perceived "problem" is less than ingenious. Dealing with it straight has many benefits.

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RE: Punishments for misbehavior - 11/30/2009 4:15:49 AM   
elleX


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Status: offline 		KateyKane ,
i am in the same situation,
knowing that i have disapointed Him ,as itself is enough : i need nothing else.
And i am also terrified of anger...
Lilpet, i think you and Your Master need to talk,,, openly.
be well



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RE: Punishments for misbehavior - 11/30/2009 4:19:23 AM   
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Status: offline 		KateyCaine , i want to apologise that i did not write your name properly, excuse me againé

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RE: Punishments for misbehavior - 11/30/2009 5:04:33 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Lilpet4Master

My question is this....My Master wishes for me to make a list of those things "I hate to do most," my problem is that there really is not anything I HATE to do. I learned a long time ago that one does things because they need to be done, not whether you like them or not. How do I come up with a list of punishments that are more than; stand in the corner, kneel in silence and journal entries about my behavior? All suggestions are welcome.


I can come up with lots of things I'd *hate to do most*.....Standing in the corner, or kneeling in silence wouldn't come close. If he's talking about what you'd *hate to do most* out of anything he's already done to/with you, or likely to do, then that's a different matter.

Walking barefoot on snails.
Holding a mouthful of earthworms.
Drinking animal pee.
Being naked and tied in the garden in very cold, wet weather in the dark.
Being caned severely from cold.
Licking other people's crusty and dirty feet.
Having a poo with strangers watching.
Cleaning the terrace with my tongue.
Having the skin cut from the soles of my feet.
Having a nail ripped from my finger.
Suck a stranger's bottom.

When it comes to *what needs to be done*....there'd still be things I'd *hate to do the most*.

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RE: Punishments for misbehavior - 11/30/2009 6:35:31 AM   
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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Tell him that you hate eating chocolate.  Worth a try.


Oh thank you DarkSteven
I am going to use that plus how i 'hate' reese cups:)

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RE: Punishments for misbehavior - 11/30/2009 6:47:03 AM   
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Status: offline 		I am wondering why everyone is automatically assuming he is looking for a list of punishments.  He may just be trying to get a sense of what she does or does not like and, in general, get inside her head in order to understand her better.  I asked pixie that when we first got together and it had nothing to do with punishment, I was checking compatibility as well as learning about certain incidents in her past and how certain requests and/or behaviors would trigger certain reactions.   

lilpet, did he specifically state he was looking for a list of punishments?  And if there is not anything that you hate to do, let him know.



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